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Group Title: Circular
Title: Now we are three
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Title: Now we are three
Series Title: Circular
Physical Description: 7 p. : ill. ; 23 cm.
Language: English
Creator: Harris, Ruth E
University of Florida -- Agricultural Extension Service
Publisher: University of Florida, Agricultural Extension Service,
University of Florida, Agricultural Extension Service
Place of Publication: Gainesville Fla
Publication Date: 1963
Copyright Date: 1963
Subject: Parent and child   ( lcsh )
Child rearing   ( lcsh )
Family -- United States   ( lcsh )
Genre: government publication (state, provincial, terriorial, dependent)   ( marcgt )
non-fiction   ( marcgt )
Bibliography: Includes bibliographical references (p.8).
Statement of Responsibility: prepared by Ruth E. Harris.
General Note: "May 1963"--P. 8
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Circular 257


University of Florida
Gainesville, Florida

Family Life Cycle


This is the second in a series of circulars on the Family Life
Cycle. Other circulars are:

Call Us Mr. and Mrs.
You and Your Pre-School Children
Your Child Starts to School
Your Adolescents in Your Family
Your Middle Years
Your Retirement Years

Now We Are Three

Now that you have your first
baby, you have entered into what
can be one of the most rewarding
experiences of your life. As par-
ents you can help another human
being be a happy, healthy, useful
Parenthood is a responsibility,
but don't become over-burdened
with your responsibility. Relax
and enjoy parenthood. Children
are not fragile like Dresden china
as some people might make you be-
It is hoped that the informa-
tion in this pamphlet will help you
enjoy your parenthood.

Both Parents Are Needed
The two of you have created a
child. Together you should bring
him to the time that he will leave
home to try his own wings.
Let this experience be one that brings you closer together:
Remember the most important person to a wife should
be her husband and the most important person to the hus-
band should be the wife. This does not mean, of course,
that the baby would be neglected, but that the mother and
father would not forsake each other for the baby. A good
relationship between the father and mother is the best at-
mosphere in which babies thrive.
Think in terms of our baby rather than my baby.
Share with the father the things the baby has done while
he was away at work.
Study together your philosophy of bringing up children.
You'll differ, but try to think what you ultimately want
for your child and use this as a basis for your decisions.

* Give the father an oppor-
tunity for an active part
in the care of the baby.
He should want to share
in this experience. He
may naturally be more
clumsy than the mother,
but through encourage-
ment and help he can do
things for the baby.
* Keep alive your love and
interest in each other by
going out occasionally-
just the two of you. Get
a very competent baby /
sitter or take turns with
friends your own age who
need a night out every
now and then.

Your Baby Thrives on Love

A baby thrives on love
just as you do. How do you
t\ communicate love to a
y baby? Love is communi-
cated by:
The tone of your voice.
The touch of your hands.
Caring for his physical
SHolding him close to you
when you are feeding
Picking him up and lov-
ing him.
Providing an atmosphere
of happiness b e t w e e n

Your Baby Is an Individual

As you watch your baby grow, you'll realize he is a unique
individual. At an early age you'll see that he has his own pat-
tern of growth. This will indicate
some of his general abilities, his
\ looks, his likes and dislikes, and
his mannerisms. He came here
with a combination of character-
.I istics. The home furnishes the soil
and the climate in which the per-
sonality of your child will grow.

I '1 and the relationships within your
home will determine to a great ex-
tent how his potentialities will be

Your Baby Is Small But Powerful

Now that you are three, you can expect cluiniLc, in your way
of life. No longer can you decide to go somewhere on the spur
of the moment or have an uninterrupted night of sleep.
The baby will not fit right into your routine.
There will have to be some adjusting. You let your _
baby have some say about when he will eat. It
will take you a while to learn the baby's rhythm.
Soon, however, you will know whether he needs -
to be fed at three or at four hour intervals. After
that, you will be able to plan a fairly regular but
flexible schedule for your day. You may find it
necessary to make some concessions, perhaps
even change some of your standards of house-
keeping. Use your common sense. It is a re-
liable guide.


As parents you will want your baby to grow into a healthy
personality who can see clearly and be realistic in handling his
own problems and later, the larger affairs which affect every
human life.

You can help your baby by:
Reading to learn child behavior.
Learning what to expect of your child at various age levels.
Trying to be fair with your baby.
Recognizing that each baby is an individual with particu-
lar capacities.
Giving your baby a chance to develop his own potentialities
and to grow up for his own sake rather than for the satis-
faction of fulfilling your dreams.

Parents Don't Have To Be Perfect
You will make mistakes.
SThis is to be expected.
'- Many people will be trying
/ I " to tell you "how". You will
f be confused with the
/ f amount of information and
the differences of opinion.
S- All the information you get
r I --both from friends and the
_-_ experts will have to be
S,- /adapted to your own child's
pattern. You can make mis-
takes and still be very good
,- parents. The way you feel
/ toward your baby and the
o \ feeling of love, security and
/ being wanted that your
child gets from you are
more important than the
way you do things for him.

Your Baby Grows in Trust
From the very beginning, you give your baby your love so
that he may grow in trust in himself and in others. Your baby
knows his parents love each other and in turn love and enjoy
One of the most important things you can give your baby
is the assurance that he can trust his world, and right now you
are his world.


We have dedicated this day to our children:
And for our children on this day,
We dream great dreams of their tomorrow.
Let this be our dream for our children:
That they may always know,
In the brief and fleeting years of childhood,
The warmth of our unfailing love-
For only thus shall they learn to love.
Let this be our dream for our children:
That they may always, even in their youngest years,
Receive our full respect as persons-
For only thus shall they gain self-respect,
And learn respect for others.
Let this be our dream for our children:
That they may always find us, their elders,
Seeking to preserve and to create things of enduring beauty-
For only thus shall they learn to love the beautiful,
And to live beautifully.
Let this be our dream for our children:
That they may ever find us, their elders,
Open and receptive to new truths,
And eager in the quest for knowledge-
For only thus shall they become lovers of and seekers after truth.
Let this be our dream for our children:
That, day by day, they may find themselves,
With our help, more and more free
To make their own mistakes, and profit by them;
To discover their own values, and grow by them;
To reject our ways and adopt their own, and mature by so doing-
For only thus shall they become better persons than we have been.
Let this be our dream for our children:
That in their later years-and ours-
They may honor their fathers and mothers and other elders,
Not through some onerous sense of duty,
But with a sincere affection
Born of the fact that no act of ours
Placed fetters on their truest freedom
Of mind and spirit and person.
Humbly, hopefully, devotedly,
We dream these dreams for our children:
And may ours be the sobering knowledge
That only through our deeds
Can all these dreams come true.

This beautiful Litany for Children's Day was written by William D. Ham-
mond. Printed by permission of author.

For your reading:

Babies Are Human Beings, C. A. Aldrich and M. M. Aldrich.
Baby and Child Care, Dr. Benjamin Spock.
.4 Baby's First Year, Dr. Benjamin Spock and Dr. John Reinhart.
Child Behavior, Frances Ilg and Louise Bates Ames.

"Infant Care", United States Children's Bureau.
"A Healthy Personality for Your Child", United States Children's
"Making the Grade As Dad", Public Affairs Pamphlet.

Prepared by:

Ruth E. Harris, Family Life Specialist

May 1963

(Acts of May 8 and June 30, 1914)
Agricultural Extension Service, University of Florida,
Florida State University and United States Department of Agriculture, Cooperating
M. O. Watkins, Director

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