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 Frontispiece
 Title Page
 Preface
 Table of Contents
 General views and remarks
 Spirit of woman's mission
 Duties to yourself--your healt...
 Amusements
 Employments
 Studies, books, etc.
 Moral character
 Associates in the family
 Associates in the family
 Associates beyond the family
 Associates in the family
 Mere acquaintances
 Correspondents
 Doing good with the pen
 Particular friendships
 Society of the other sex
 Friendships with the other sex
 Qualifications of a true frien...
 Other qualifications
 Physical qualifications
 Seven rules
 Disappointments
 Doing good
 Pulling out of the fire
 Pulling out of the fire
 Associated effort
 Church and Sabbath school
 Truth, justice, and mercy
 Labors among the sick
 Self-denial
 Self-sacrifice














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Table of Contents
    Frontispiece
        Page i
    Title Page
        Page i
        Page ii
    Preface
        Page iii
        Page iv
    Table of Contents
        Page v
        Page vi
        Page vii
        Page viii
        Page ix
        Page x
        Page xi
        Page xii
        Page xiii
        Page xiv
        Page xv
        Page xvi
    General views and remarks
        Page 13
        Page 14
        Page 15
        Page 16
        Page 17
        Page 18
        Page 19
        Page 20
        Page 21
        Page 22
        Page 23
        Page 24
        Page 25
        Page 26
        Page 27
    Spirit of woman's mission
        Page 28
        Page 29
        Page 30
        Page 31
        Page 32
        Page 33
        Page 34
        Page 35
        Page 36
        Page 37
    Duties to yourself--your health
        Page 38
        Page 39
        Page 40
        Page 41
        Page 42
        Page 43
        Page 44
        Page 45
        Page 46
        Page 47
        Page 48
        Page 49
        Page 50
        Page 51
    Amusements
        Page 52
        Page 53
        Page 54
        Page 55
        Page 56
        Page 57
        Page 58
        Page 59
        Page 60
    Employments
        Page 61
        Page 62
        Page 63
        Page 64
        Page 65
        Page 66
        Page 67
        Page 68
    Studies, books, etc.
        Page 69
        Page 70
        Page 71
        Page 72
        Page 73
        Page 74
        Page 75
        Page 76
        Page 77
    Moral character
        Page 78
        Page 79
        Page 80
        Page 81
        Page 82
        Page 83
        Page 84
        Page 85
    Associates in the family
        Page 86
        Page 87
        Page 88
        Page 89
        Page 90
        Page 91
        Page 92
        Page 93
        Page 94
        Page 95
    Associates in the family
        Page 96
        Page 97
        Page 98
        Page 99
        Page 100
        Page 101
        Page 102
        Page 103
    Associates beyond the family
        Page 112
        Page 113
        Page 114
        Page 115
        Page 116
        Page 117
        Page 118
        Page 119
        Page 120
        Page 121
        Page 122
        Page 123
        Page 124
    Associates in the family
        Page 104
        Page 105
        Page 106
        Page 107
        Page 108
        Page 109
        Page 110
        Page 111
    Mere acquaintances
        Page 125
        Page 126
        Page 127
        Page 128
        Page 129
    Correspondents
        Page 130
        Page 131
        Page 132
        Page 133
        Page 134
        Page 135
        Page 136
        Page 137
    Doing good with the pen
        Page 138
        Page 139
        Page 140
        Page 141
        Page 142
    Particular friendships
        Page 143
        Page 144
        Page 145
        Page 146
        Page 147
        Page 148
        Page 149
        Page 150
        Page 151
    Society of the other sex
        Page 152
        Page 153
        Page 154
        Page 155
        Page 156
        Page 157
        Page 158
        Page 159
        Page 160
    Friendships with the other sex
        Page 161
        Page 162
        Page 163
        Page 164
        Page 165
        Page 166
        Page 167
        Page 168
        Page 169
        Page 170
        Page 171
    Qualifications of a true friend
        Page 172
        Page 173
        Page 174
        Page 175
        Page 176
        Page 177
        Page 178
        Page 179
        Page 180
        Page 181
        Page 182
    Other qualifications
        Page 183
        Page 184
        Page 185
        Page 186
        Page 187
        Page 188
        Page 189
        Page 190
        Page 191
        Page 192
        Page 193
        Page 194
    Physical qualifications
        Page 195
        Page 196
        Page 197
        Page 198
        Page 199
        Page 200
        Page 201
        Page 202
        Page 203
    Seven rules
        Page 204
        Page 205
        Page 206
        Page 207
        Page 208
        Page 209
        Page 210
        Page 211
        Page 212
        Page 213
    Disappointments
        Page 214
        Page 215
        Page 216
        Page 217
        Page 218
        Page 219
        Page 220
        Page 221
        Page 222
        Page 223
        Page 224
        Page 225
        Page 226
    Doing good
        Page 227
        Page 228
        Page 229
        Page 230
        Page 231
        Page 232
        Page 233
        Page 234
        Page 235
        Page 236
    Pulling out of the fire
        Page 237
        Page 238
        Page 239
        Page 240
        Page 241
        Page 242
        Page 243
        Page 244
    Pulling out of the fire
        Page 245
        Page 246
        Page 247
        Page 248
        Page 249
        Page 250
        Page 251
        Page 252
        Page 253
    Associated effort
        Page 254
        Page 255
        Page 256
        Page 257
        Page 258
        Page 259
        Page 260
    Church and Sabbath school
        Page 261
        Page 262
        Page 263
        Page 264
        Page 265
        Page 266
    Truth, justice, and mercy
        Page 267
        Page 268
        Page 269
        Page 270
        Page 271
        Page 272
        Page 273
        Page 274
    Labors among the sick
        Page 275
        Page 276
        Page 277
        Page 278
        Page 279
        Page 280
        Page 281
    Self-denial
        Page 282
        Page 283
        Page 284
        Page 285
        Page 286
        Page 287
        Page 288
        Page 289
        Page 290
        Page 291
        Page 292
        Page 293
        Page 294
        Page 295
        Page 296
        Page 297
        Page 298
        Page 299
        Page 300
        Page 301
        Page 302
    Self-sacrifice
        Page 303
        Page 304
        Page 305
        Page 306
        Page 307
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GIFT BOOK





YOUNG LADIES;

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FAMILIAR LETTERS



THEIB AOQUAINTANOES, MALE AND PEIAL.
EMPLOYMENT, uRImrDSHImPU



DRI WM. A. ALCOTT.







S .. AUBURN:
DERBY A MILLER.
BUPFALOs
DERBY, ORTON & MULLIGAN.
1853.
































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Putheua sDivWA.1K QOTw.
















PREFACE.



EVEs since I began to write for the young, the ir.
ire on has been fastening Mlat v my mid, tht
every individual i, or should be, a ry; Iad that
this is true of woman of man. ed, I have come
to the conclusion that she is the more efcient mshomry
of the two. Ihaveerefore wished to pp forhera
work in this sr which shotud serve a kind of
eeood volume to the Young Womaan Gldes bIt
should be imbued at the same time with man of the qp
of piety.
I have addressed the youg woman, because, a Jaob
Abbott has well l, no one s apt to think hnef old;
so that all books, it would seem, in order to be red,
should be written for the yoVg. Besides, I ime always
hope of the reformation, or at least of the impoment of
the young; while of the old little is to be epeed. Ad
I have written to a sister, that by having before the dd'8a
eye a reality, I might be at one more eartms, s-
familiar, and more practical. It has been my pupoIe,
one word, to show woman, in a plain and direct mamer









PREFACE.


by what means, methods, and instrumentalities, her mis-
ion may be best accomplished.
May the excellencies of the book, if it have any, un-
der the Divine guidance, fulfil my most earnest inten-
tions; and its failing, of which I am conscious it may
have many, be covered with the mantle of charity.
THE AUTHOR.




































CHAPTrn L
oafFIRAL VMW5 AND N aa -

ImtM of OIniece 0 -Quotlt 04d tom Thabm y bl-A DIrUw y,
ald se Objeclio.-The Objection anwered.-Waf m be wha
I. ought to be.-Evry oem hm a Milm.-Wamed Am hbm.-Mh
s almost omanipotent-Wha t i to be Ikt olh e.-rat. to ope.
rat with him.-What, to eprepnet fhm-Woma r md t be
Repressnutrl.-Woma'sI Mieio dlbedaty ated.-3 IS I
t t .



CBAPTER I.

oPIRrI OF WOMAN's MSsIO.

How to imbibe this SpiriL-Firt thing: Releetion.-Secndly: Acdag
up to your ConvictioMn of Truth; Resolutions of Amendment-Thid-
ly: Bringing forth Fruuts-Hungering aod ThIming e hr RIgNLMr
n e-Co olentiousu.-Elevated Purpose and Vilew-AmeiO
of Rev. Joseph Ememron-The Spirit of Heav-.-An Obtie ea
ideMre.- felfEzamation recommended .. .



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VI CONTENTS.

CHAPTER i.
DUTIES TO HERSELF.

The Connection of Mind snd Body.-A Miistak corrected.-Heakh al*
ways desible.-Health, exceedingly rre.-BHedltary tendencies.-
Acquired Omes-Your Health, undr God, a your own dispoal.-
Proof and Illustratios of thi great Doctrins.-Wordt of Encourage-
ment.-The pat Doctrinee of Helth stated and debended.-An Infer.
suce or two.-PeMonal Diretion.-The Suldy of Hygine recom-
mmaded.-What Hygiene 38

CHAPTER IV.
AMUSEMENTS.

Neceity of AmumL-D rent Forms of IL.-The Law of Adapte-
tlon.-TempeMamem to be conmldersd.-Of Amatoents in the Open
Air.-- ambles abroead.a- ureka-Walking to do ood.-HoBrse be
Ezkeri.-Olbher ra s of AmSAUe.-Cam of & Pomn with a
UWlom Teperuam et-Wholeheartednss in yaou Amoremants.-
Of BZass la AmmMusma-Of Morbi Comnslomea o ths Sub-
Jed 6

CHAPTER V.

EMPLOYMENITS.

Deflltio of Ters-Labor, a Blessing as well u Curve.-Your own
Employment singularly happy.-Why so.-Others often les Fortunate.
-Burying Young Women in Shop and Fatorke.-Deterioraion of the
Race by wrong Occupatlo--How this happene.-- ouewkeeping the
healthies Ptmal Employment-Eareentae recommended.-A Cau.
Saeortwo 1 .

CHAPTER VL
STUDIES, BOOKS, ETC.
Our yday* never or.-The Keys of Knowlwdg.-Aodoae ftom
myownHitory.-Teaching: in Sabbath School; inWeek-daySchool.










CONTENT.


-Pernal Improvement a Teaching.-The Slasea of Tsahg.-
Your Dutties n he Public School qualify yo for Famy or HaMbhold
Dutis.--oumkoeping to be studied.-MMetal ad Monr Phlesaphy.-
Modem Languages.-Mathematicas.- T Natural Simces-Natural
Histor ofM .



CHAPTER VIL
MORAL CHARACTER.

SCasr's Wife."-I do not forget whom I am addre ing.-Tol to
form Character for the Twenteth Centry.-Apology for rning,
cme more, to Woman's Miion.-Seek the aid both of PhiDomphy ad
Chrislanity.-Studying Chterfteld-Jesn Ob rt aher all, yur peat
Model.-Why Female, more than Males, embnle 0katel.-Now
Woman rule he World 7


CHAPTER VI.
ASOCIATU ID THE FAMILY.

Duty of lder Brodtem ad SteM en plad.-Whse Wsomat Ikea
tbgine-Rug over the Younger: what It n mema-He 1nre moa
who srea mos--How an E r EaMr can Mr-lhe dGlko Caa.
-Apoxrophe to Young Womn who read Noels and *t Dres.-
Wht can be done by Young Women in the Famly.-Re-luaso with
Younger Friend--Playmg with them.-Lovaln theim-OCulta the
Love of the Yeung.-Story of Plato and his Nephew.-Bzampe of our
1aviour. 8


CHAPTER IX

AISOCIATRI IN THE FAMILY.

Tour Duty, as a Youner ter, to those who ar OMde.-lIlson
Period of Life' Joumney.-Anelent Prines brought up by Wo-m.-
Woman the ducator of our Moder Princes, the Pepl.- e y7e











CONTENTS.


ca educate them.--tory of Dr. Rush.-Direct Eflbrn in Behalf ol
Bldr Brothers-General Rle in regard to the Young.-One Thing at
a time.-An Anecdote .


CHAPTER X.
ASSOCIATES IN THE FAMILY.

Never despair of doing Good, even to your aged Parenta.-Why the Old
are so often Invulnerable.-Making haste slowly.-Disputation.-The
Socratic Method.-Asking Queslions.-Changing the Current of Con-
ersation.-Spirit, rather than Form.-Power of your own Example.-
Example means a great deal.-Green Old Age.-Appeal to the Young.
How to secure a Green Old Age to yourself 10


CHAPTER XL
ASSOCIATES BEYOND THE FAMILY.

We ar under special Obliu gaio a well.a general onee.-Dutli to
otber-Our Saviours' Example.-Weare all one great Family.--llus.
tration of Duty beyond the Family Circle.-Circlee of Influence.-
Case of Belinda.-Her Perversty.-How to Change her Habits of Ac-
tion and Thought.-Her Cae not a solitary one.-Solomon, what he
wa adl what he now .-How he became o 11


CHAPTER XIL
MERE ACQUAINTANCE.

Our Obligations to Acquaintancesi-Our Ability to serve them and benefit
them.-Jealouies and Envie among Friends.-More can often be done
for mere Acquaintances.-Method of doing Good to Acquaintancee.-
ouald e have but few Acqualntancesl-ArLbtrary Customs of So.
-y 1










CONTENT. K


CHAPTER =II
CORRKESPONDENT.

Young Woena abmMd be somomed to eer Wa .-A long List as
Coreepondnt-An r la n ouar 1cooh-i*-Ute WAg i mene
Talking on Paper.-Mht be a Pmathe rather &iALm of* Drudg.
ery.-uoling ood by Leer.-Long Letaer, m- AMt se-GOatiude
s God.-Amsedote, mIlustrda the Utfunm of e Ormpeam e--
Othr Ratarks on i Pn al Impoaem 130



CHAPTER XIV.
DOING GOOD WITH THE PEN.

Writing Poett.-Bo4ksf hr dhe Youn.-Ausltho poory pId.- bbea
School Booak-Wrinl fr Perbkoie.-W- m to writ.-Oumal DI.

How fLght ad Heat hrj the u1 -yea-Bea d Light oo.bum .-
ALemp at Wil.-ood NaMur- pre lghr -nu tio foam the
PotYoug I



CHAPTER XV.
PARTICULAR FRIuBDSIPS.

Quotation from a old School Book.-Ral Mriendahip ram.-Natua of
True FriMndeip.-Deamo aend Pytlhl.-A Mill nobler Example--
Living for one another.-irving and Dying for each other compted.-
Several Kind, of Friendship.-True Friendehip not often found in the
Family.-Partculaer on the Subject-Applicatlo of the Subject.-
Examine youMelf.-SO-klin Friend.-F-lr ule for thl.--Bcond
uole.-ek S an In the Funlly.-Go out of It if neceary, aftmrwar
-More Madls than e .











CONTENTS.


CHAPTEB XVL
SOCIETY OF THE OTHER SEX.
Human Beings made for Soclety.-Thoughts on the Social State.-Plulos.
ophy of Social Life and of Priendhip.-eparation of Relaluon n the
Family.-New Friendship-Phlleophy of Conjugal Life.-Why the
Young, of both Saze, have low Views on thi Subjt.-No Intructioa
given hem.-Courtship no rightly manged.-Wat's Opinion.-
Friesdehip the principal Blement of Cojugal Happines.-Friends of
an opposite Sex, most useful to us.-Mtrimaoy a Duly on the prt of
both Suse.-Neesmary to the Perfection of Human Chracer.-Obejo
dtm conMdered.-The Young Man' Guid.-Marriage nece ry to the
Falllmet of Woman's Miion 182



CHAPTER XVIL
FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OTHER SEX.
Capalty for Frioendhip.-Defecte of Education.-Feimal the Sudnr
en f m IL--One true Man n a Thouad.-Some there ar, who cae
ar oUtbL-How they are to be discovered.-Liablities to Deception.-
Ti Counterfeit implies the Genuine.-Smoke implies Fire.-The Ue
of good Senea.-Matrimony not quite a Lottery.-The borrowed part-
Meus of getting off the Mask.-Social Partie.-Evils and Irregulari.
td, connected with them.-Evils of late Night Houre.-A Change of
Public.Opinion and Practice predicted.-Large Faith necesary.-Ea.
comium on Matrimony 161



CHAPTER XVIIL
QUALIFICATIONS FOR FRIENDSHIP.
Divine Guidance invoked.-Sclfihnesw will out"-In what ways.-So
ofBenevolence; it will show itself.-Countrfeis.-Anecdotes of two
Eallishmen.-The Virginia Gentleman.-A Rule or two.-R-formed
Rake.-llelplossne of many Young Men.-A Maternal Error.-Stat










CONTENTS.


of tbla gnring Wom.-4ea c Oars nemssay r yewr eleedem.-
Young Men and Young Women, uasd M arm Muaid, sot be
mrved.-Perfection not to be apected, however-A Gem, but nt of
Golconda.-The Gospel Spirit 17


CHAPTER XIX.
MORE ON QUALItFCATIONI.
Benevolence u a QualiScatelo for Frendsip mftraL-ed-UVM Tobee-
co.--ow to deect the Babit of auingt.-Ue of Aloda.--mvealy
Hablits-Aping Gruat Mon.-Steal Beave' Livery.-lp.d
Young Me.-Ulp.od Frlad hlp-Me-a y and Teodrm-ow
per'v View-P-ruting too muach-Two Kinde of mrale.-- T kee
Character.-The genuine Fnreuer Ireclalibl.-Lov' Bem.-UMim-
Icry, Drollery, and Bufloonery.-Lagh and be Fat.-ood Comae
Se e-HTaving a Helm.-Illsraton.--el/f.Denoua 8i



CHAPTER XX
PhYMCAL QUAri~ATIONS.
Connecia a d Dependnce of M nd ad ody.-laporaan of Phylo
Improvemnma-A- hedy Friend beer than h a s ly L mu-M the
bet ofevery tbIng.-Boasty of Form and Fatu.-4eak aud Fortun.
-Future Generations to be reganrd.-DIAbrase Ia regard to Ag.-
Early and lat Uniona.-View of Dr. Johauo.-- ualtde yea do not
yourself poaa-The Opposte of Melancholy; Speculation; De
poodency.-Hope on, hope ever I15



CHAPTER IXI.
EVEN PLAIt RULES.

Thing i which the Parte to Oonlngal LUf should agmre:-I. hIn egaud
le Bom as a SchooL.-4 Having a general Plan or Symum.-. ir.
parity of View about Discipline.- There should be Agreemass










CONTENTS.


wt R*1osw Opilolau-L muis Habios of Lif.-& De and Reg.
,me.-7. A mutual Dearm alaonm to do Riht .


CHAPTER EI.
DISAPPOINTMENTS.

Prealmnarle--The Search.-Serching with supposed Succe.-Sud.
den Chns of Feling.-ResultL.-Dimppointment.-Your Depree
ia.-L-mprcatloo--Folly rather than Villany.-Looelln-e-A De.
mend fr Philosophy and Religion.-Avold Vindictivenes.-Shnl a
Legal Pocem be instituted ?-Solace yourelf.-You do not suffer alone.
-RiU above your Trial.-Never think of giving up In Despair.-Con.
olowu hInocnce.-There is a World to come.-Guardian Angels bher
Actin the Coquette 214


CHAPTER XXm
DOING GOOD.

Bolines before lapplnem.-Doing Good u a ruastim.-PranklUn.-Cot-
ton Mather.-Jacob Abbot-Pharcellus Church.-Thoms Dick.-
The Works of all thee Men defctive.-The Science of Philanthropy.-
Display mingled with EITfut to do Oood.-BlemMdne of doing Good.
-How we receive the Bl-eing.-Examplae of being bleed In doing
Good.-App!icatlon of this great Doctrine to yourself.-The more you
do the more you can do.-Looking forward 22


CHAPTER XXIV.

PULLING OUT OF THE FIPE.

mlaning of my Termq.-A Case cited.-Seek out Subjects to which yea
may be ueful.-Lay Milsonaries.-You need not wait for them.-Di.
elpkhip to our Savlour.-Pankular Directions when to do Good.-
~i Houses.-Faclories.-Milliners' Shopl.-Be Wise as the Serpen
rMilstmlS as the Drve.--Prcaur of saving Souls and Bodler.-










CONTENT.


Xtiii4


Boldnem in doing your Work.-McDowelL-Mm. Prior.-Mn. McFer.
land.-Reflection. .



CHAPTER XXV.
PULLING OUT OF THE FRIE.

Other Firee beside those mentioned in the las Lter.-The Finr of Al-
cohol.-Famllies who have been scorched.-Their desole Codltion.
-To whom you bsould appeal la theki behalf.--How to ppntch
them.-Your Piea.-The downward Roed.-Plackin( from the Fr at
Home.-Opposing the Us of Tobeco.--Reuoe why Young Womae
act the MIWonay this rmpect so Uitte.-Appeal to the Oon.
0 9M



CHAPTER XIVL
ASSOCIATED EFFORT.
Asocatlons for doing Oood.-4aos of them mentminme-The Sewig
Circle.-Moral Reform Sociletie.-F-Uinl by lule ad it ae.--Te-
penc Societie.--Peace Soeties.-Preventio o f ErlL--OCM
or Improving the Tone of C.onvertion.-Woman not mt fth a
MLeonary dingle-handed 4



CHAPTER XXVIL
CHURCH AND SABBATH SCHOOL.

Your Labor already, and their BleMedne.-The Sabbath School a part
of the Church.-Every Church Member a Mislonary.-Every one
should feel a Paul did: Wo is me," c.-How you eve, s aSabbath
School Teacher, to proclaim the GoepeL-Begintein at 'Jerualem.'-
The Home Mbsionary Field the mot dlculL-Your Involuatary Inu.
am o1










CONTENTS.


CHAPTER XXVIL
TRUTH, JUSTICE, AND MERCY.
Laxity of the Public Morals.-Gneral disregard of Truth.-How and
why Falsehood increa--Falsehood of Parties and Sect.-Con.-
quences.-Set yourself against it-In what way.-Fraud.-What the
Mision of Woman has to do with thi-Mercy.-The Seeds of Cruelty
every where own.-Woman must change the state of things.-How.-
Fly.Kllil -Wantonnea in killing other Anmals.-What Peace So
cletl might do.-What is Woman's Duty. .



CHAPTER XXIX.
LABORS AMONG THE SICK.
Woman not to be, in all cases, a Physidcan-Reao why.-Always a
Numrs.-Necessties of the premt sickly Season.-Woman should be
ready to respond to Calls to attend the Sick.-Go boldly but not reck.
leuly.-Partlcular Dirsctain.-Avoid dosing and drugging yourself
in thes cas.-Obey all Law, physical and moraL-The Secret of
musing the Sick 21



CHAPTER XXII
SELF-DENIAL.
A Query.-Reply.-Redeeming Time.-Importance of Living by System.
-Elements oran improved System of Living.-Regular Habits of Re-
tiring and Rising.-Saving Time from Sleep.-Time saved m Dreingy.
-Simplicity in Eating and Drininng.-Excuses usuly made in this
paticular.-These Excuses not valid.-Luxuries.-Time wasted by
Cooking.-This subject illustrated.-How time might be redeemed.-
Appeal.-Your Apology.-Woman's Time might half of it be re-
deemed.-Morning Calls mlapplied.-A Difficulty.-Hence the De.
mand for Self-Denial.-Woman must awake to the Subject of Female
Emancipation.-onncluding Remarks .










CONTENTS. XT


CHAPTER 1XXL
SELF-8ACBIFICE.
Rcapitulationoftthe foregoin.-Thr World a World of Self-8erlfce.-
Christianity based on Sacrlce.-Self-Deaal not all of Woman's Duty.
-Is she aware of his great Truth orisl he very Selfh, afe allI-
An EZplanatio.-An Appeal to Youn Womer .
















GIFT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.



CHAPTER I.

GENERAL VIEWS AND REMARKS.

THERE is much of truth in the very common
remark, that it is the fashion of the age to ex-
alt young men. I have admitted this in the
" Young Woman's Guide," and have apologized
for it. Young women, I said, have influence
and responsibility as well as young men; nay,
even more and greater than they. And in the
numerous counsels, cautions, and instructions
of that volume, I have, as I trust, done some-
thing on their behalf-something for their in-
tellectual and moral elevation.
But the importance of the young woman's








14 GIr BOOK FOB YOUNG LADIES.

influence rises in my estimation, every day and
hour I live. I thought much of her, as an agent
under God and with God, ten years ago; now,
she seems to be like conscience, one of God's
own vicegerents.
You have heard me speak often of the late
Rev. Timothy Flint, of the Western Review,
and his notions concerning female influence.
I am not in the habit of making long quota-
tions from other writers, especially in the be-
ginning of a book; but I beg leave for this
once, to commend to your notice a few para-
graphs from one of his essays, by way of intro-
duction to what follows.
"The vain, ambitious, and noisy," says he,
"who make speeches, and raise the dust, and
figure in the papers, may fancy that knowledge
will die with them, and the wheels of nature
intermit their revolutions when they retire from
them. They may take to themselves the unc-
tion and importance of the fly, that fancied it
turned the wheel upon which it only whirled
round. But the fair that keep cool, and in the
shade, with unrufled brows, kind hearts, and
,disciplined minds; that are neither elevated








OnERAL VIr WS AND r ZMAnUR 15

much nor much depressed-that smile and ap-
pear to care for none of the~ ithin -tese,
after all, are the real eficients that settle the
great points of human existence. Men cannot
stir a step in life to purpose, without them.
From the cellar to the garret, from the nursery
to the market-place, from the cabin to the presi-
dent's chair, from the cradle to the coffn, these
smilers, that when they are wise appear to care so
little about the moot and agitating points of the
lords of creation, in reality decide and settle
them.
"There are a number of distinct epochs of
the exertion of this influence. They rule us
at the period of blond tresses, and the first de-
velopment of the rose. They fetter us alike
before and after marriage; that is, if they are
wise, and do not clank the chains ostentatiously,
but conceal the iron. They rule us in maturity,
they rule us in age. No other hand knows the
tender, adroit, and proper mode of binding our
Ibrow in pain and sickness. They stand by us
in the last agonies, with untiring and undis-
mayed faithfulness. They prepare our re-
mains for the last sleep. They shed all the








16 GIFT BOOK FO7 YOUNG LADIE8.


tears of memory, except those of the mocking
eulogy, and the venal and moaning verses, that
water our turf. Some of them remember more
than a year, that their lovers, brothers, hus
bands, fathers, existed. Who can say that of
men ?
." They are purer, less selfish, less destitute
of true moral courage, more susceptible of kind
and generous impressions, and far more so ot
religious feeling, than men. Sc Park found
them,-so all qualified observers have found
them. So the annals of the church have found
them. So, in our humble walks have we found
them. Surely, then, every thing which con-
cerns the education of this better half of the
species must be of intrinsic importance. If this
world is ever to become a happier and better
world, woman, well educated, disciplined, and
principled, sensible of her influence, and wise
and benevolent to exert it aright, must be the
original mover in the great work."
Excuse these quotations-I know you will,
however; for do they not deserve to be written
in letters of gold? Do they not deserve to be
treasured up in the memory as sayings of price.








GENERAL VIEWS AND REMAs5U. 17


.ess value What though woman is rather
more selfish in her own way than Mr. Flint's
remarks imply, and what though there may be
occasionally more sound than sense in what he
says, yet with every reasonable abatement, is
there not enough left to immortalize theirauthor?
But if woman is deserving of all these en-
comiums, in her present half-developed-I was
going to say half-savage-state, what will she
not be, when in some blessed period of the world's
history she shall be "well educated, disciplined,
and principled?" Alas for the immense loss the
community has sustained for the want of the
full exercise of those powers, which a better and
more truly Christian education might have
early developed I
The worst difficulty, however, is to make the
community feel that they have sustained a loss.
Many who admit it in word, do not really be-
lieve and feel it, after all. What we have never
enjoyed ourselves, though fairly within our
reach, we .hardly attach any value to. It is
only when the well" from which we have been
accustomed to slake our thirst "becomes dry,
that we know the worth of water."




II_- -I-----








18 .GUT BOOK FOB YOUNG LADIES.


Suppose we had, for once, on the stage ot
human action, a generation of females who
came fully up to the high standard such a
man as Mr. Flint would place before them-
a generation, in one word, who understood the
true nature of their mission, and were endeav-
oring in the strength of God, to fulfil it. Sup-
pose that with the physical power and energy
of such a woman as Semiramis-the intellect-
ual activity and power of a Somerville-the
philanthropy of a Dix or a Fry--and the piety
of a Guyon or a More, there were coupled the
benevolence, the self-denial and the self-sacri-
fice of Jesus-in other words the pure spirit of
the Gospel. What might not be expected from
her, even in a single generation? But suppose
still farther-for this is the point at which I am
now aiming-that after having been blest by a
generation of such women, who should co-op-
erato with the Redeemer to restore a world
which woman was so instrumental in ruining,
we were to be suddenly deprived of them;
should we not then know something of their
value?
I doubt, however, whether one person in ten








OENBRAL VIEW AND REMARKS. 19

can be brought to believe woman is susceptible
of being elevated as high as the spirit of my re-
marks may seem to indicate; even though our
efforts for the purpose were extended to a thou-
sand years. Most may admit, that woman
ought to be and do all I have said; but it is
one thing to know what we ought to be and
do, as I shall be told, and quite another thing
to do it.
Now I understand all this. Indeed, I ad-
mit it all. But I do not admit, for the faith
once delivered to the saints" does not permit
me to do so, that woman cannot be all that
she ought to be. If she ought to sustain the
character which I have here faintly portrayed,
then it seems to me'we have no right to say
that she cannot do it, nor to act as if we be-
lieved she could not. If there is but a bare
possibility of her coming up to our bemaidad,
surely it ought to fill us with faith and hope
and good works. We ought to do all in our
power to emancipate and elevate her.
All these encomiums upon woman look well
on paper; and I rejoice to believe you are
quite sincere;" I seem to hear you say. "But,"









20 GIFT BOOK rO YOUNG LADIES.


you immediately add, it will be a long time
before woman will come up to what you call
the Christian standard, and co-operate with the
Divine Mind in all his plans."
But now, my dear sister, is this the only ob-
jection you have to bring against it-that it
must be the work of time ? Has this in reality,
any thing to do with the subject? A long
time! How long, pray? Do you say some
hundreds of years ? And what then? Sup-
pose it were thousands, or tens of thousands;
does that lessen our obligation?
Some, I know, are not quite of Milton's opin-
ion, that "they best serve-God"--on occasions,
at least,-" who wait." They must have im-
mediate and even large results, or their arms
are palsied, and they are without hope. But
others have more faith, and will labor, even
when the day of reward is far in the distance.
A few indeed will labor as hard for a distant
reward as for one which is nearer.
I feel no disposition, however, to make so
large a demand of my fellow-creatures as the
latter remark might seem to imply. It were
expecting too much, as it seems to me, of hu.








OGXERAL VIEWS AND REMARKS. 1

aua tmae. Nevertheless I have a right to
duamd that young women should labor, and
iabor hrd even, for the emancipation and ele.
vatin of their si. And the more distant this
period, and the .ess they expect to be able to
acamplish, the greater the obligation to do
what little they can.
Every human being has his mission;-I
mean under the GospeL Young women have
theirs. This mission is one ofunspeakble im-
portance to the race. Flint has not overestima-
ted it. He cannot. Nor has Solomon, in his
writings. Nor could he. It is beyond human
estimate or ken.
For, hear me a moment on the subject If
you will do so, I am sure you will come to
the same conclusion that I have. The thought
has been ventured already, in some of my
works-I have forgotten which-that the frt
female of our race has already been kinuential
in forming the character of thousands ofmillions
of human being. All who have descnded from
her have been more or less like her, and have
partaken of her fallibility and fiailty. But all
who have descended foam, or wi descend from
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8 GOUT BOOK so1 YOUNG LADU .


her, are her daughters. You, my sister, and
every female besides you, are but other Eves.
In the providence of God, you are destined-
in all probability it is so-to have as wide an
influence as Eve already has had. I do not
say that your influence in the progress of the
thousands of years thatare to come, will be as
wide at any given tim 'as hers will then be;
far otherwise. Her will be extending all the
while as well as yours. But I do say that the
period will probably arrive, in time or in eter-
nity-and it makes little difference which, so
far as my present argument is'concerned-
when you and every young woman now on the
stage of action, will have had as wide an influ-
ence for good or foi evil, as Eve has already had.
I have said for good or for evil-but wheth-
er for good or for evil depends on your own
choice. So God wills it, so you must under-
stand it. God wills that you should will, rather
than that you should decree. Young, the poet,
ays, and with a poet's license to be sure, but
with a phTosopher's correctness,


0Heeum but pmudeg aloahty mina demm




- -,--- v


OENEAL vTIws AND AsmAUma. *

So does almighty woman. Woman as w u
Man, is theo aker k Mofl ral e


and woman as well as man calls by a own
choice, if finally she falls. But neither man
nor woman falls alone, as you have so al-
ready, and will see more distinly by and by.
Now this is a seius mate, and I ea .
more bespeak f it your most eazm t an
serious consideration. Are you pped to
slide along life's current, like many f yr sex,
careless whether your influene be like that of
Eve, or whether you become, under the Go-
pel plan, the progenitor of a new word? I
Perhaps my meaning, when I spVok of yer
having the Spirit of Jesus Christ, cowpe4tih
with him, &c, was but faintly app.haded---
indeed I do not see how it could have been
otherwise, so low ae all human smandas-
The idea of being like Christ, whWe we re
to make any speciiatons, and eve when we
do not, is mysticism to many, and rouses the
skepticismmose or less, of alL. Ad a I
there are who regard it as a species of mire
ence, if not something worse.
I








Nt earr oon onm ro0o3 LAm.

You, however, know better than all this.
You know that it requires a great deal of truth
and holiness and purity, to apprehend truth and
hoihes and purity. Our Saviour is by most,
but little understood. The highest and holiest
and pest, whether of your sex or ours, are
elated only just enough to get a glimpse of.
him. The more we are elevated-that is the
moee like him we become,-the more we shall
se of him and in him.
Why, I have not a doubt that the time will
come-it may be near at hand, God grant it
may-when what now seems to be the perfect.
tion of Chrst Jesus, will be attained, aye, and
much more. I speak here, of course, with
sole reference to what is imitable in his char-
acter, or merely human. His character as an
atoning sacrifice I leave out of the question.
But in seal and labor, and self-denial and pu-
rity, and i the ordinary duties of self-sacrifice,
we see now not a tithe of what we shall see in
hun hereafter, if we are but wise. We see
noting but what we may hereafter be able to
itnfate-nothing in fact but what we ought to
be able to imitate at present.








GENERAL VIEWS AND REMAREU.

And it is our own fault, as I have akdy
suggested, that we are not every thing which
the Saviour now appears to us to be-with the
above qualifications of expression. It is wo-
man's fault-and man's-that she is not,by bbe.
ing like him, cooperating with him at this me.
ment. It will be her fault if she does not be-
come to the thousands of millions who will
probably succeed her, for god, all that Bva
has been for evil to the thousands of milhons
who have already traversed our world, ad
lived, and died in it, and ascended fiou it.
Perhaps you will call this preaching. Bat
I am, as you know, no theologian, for the son
of any. I am a mere layman. I do not speak
to you as a theologian; no, nor merely a
Christian. Indeed, I do not much oare
whether you call it Christianity. What I
say is plain philosophy. Indeed, I know ot-
that it deserves the large name of philosophy.
I shall be satisfied if it deserve the name
of sober sense.
Woman's mission, then, is to cope.s- wth
the Redeemer of men, in bringing back Af
its revolt, the same world which was lost by








26 OUTr sooK FOR YOUNG LuDI8.

another species of co-operation on the part of
Eve. This I say is woman's mission; but if
so, it is the mission of the young woman, as
well as of the old. The young woman is but
the old in miniature. The young woman,
moreover, will soon be the old womanr.much
sooner, it may be, than she is aware.
But how shall the young woman act, to
fulfil this high mission What are the par-
ticular steps in which she is to tread? What
are the instruments by which she is to war a
good warfare against depravity in its varied
fo ns, and by which she is to substitute holi-
ness in its stead
Shall she mount the rostrum like Frances
Wright, alias Frances Darusmont? Shall she
turn cavilling philosopher, like Mary Wool-
stonecraft Shall she become a mere Hannah
More, and attempt to fulfil her mission wholly
at the point of her pen? Or is there more
excellent way for her
To answer, in a plain practical manner,
these plain practical questions, and to point
out, to the full extent of my power, the more
excellent way in which a modem young wo-









GENERAL VIEWS AND REMARKS. 27

man is to fulfil her mission-a mission next
to divine-will be the object of my future
letters. God give-you the docility-both of us
the wisdom-so indispensably necessary to
our mutual benefit.































*














CHAPTER IL


SPIRIT OF WOMAN'S MISSION.

WHEN a yohng woman distinctly understands
what her mission is, her first duty is to enter
ito the spirit of it. A few directions in re-
gard to imbibing and manifesting this spirit,
will be the subject of the present letter.
And first, in regard to IMBIBING the spirit
of your mission. How shall it be done
Wisdom would reply, as she has done, in the
volume of Solomon: "Whoso findeth me,
findeth life." In other words, seek the spirit
of thy mission in seeking me. Christianity
would reply in nearly the same manner. And
philosophy has an answer at hand of similar
import.
It were vain for me to attempt a wise
answer than these. Then be entreated te







SPIRIT Or *OMAN'* MISSION.


give yourself to reflection. Young women
are not fond of reflection, as you well know.
This, however, is the first thing. Consider
thy ways, and be wise. Consider well what
has been said in the preceding letter. Con-
sider well the united voice of Christianity,
Philosophy, and sound wisdom.
Place yourself, as it were, at the feet of Jesus
Christ. Take him as your example, your teack-
er, your monitor, your lawmaker, your stand-
ard. Study the divine record concerning him.
Strive to discover his "manner of spirit," and
compare your own with it. You will soon
learn to value his spirit; and while you value
it, you will unawares imbibe it.
In the next place, and if convinced that you
ought to be like the Saviour, act according to
your convictions. Do what you know is right.
In other words, be conscientious. It is in vain
that God gave you a conscience-nay, worse
than in vain, if you do not heed its warnings,
If you find yourself prone to break your dai-
ly resolutions of amendment-if you find your
own strength, owing to the force of long contin-
ued bad habit, to be little more than weakness,
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30 onrr BOOK FOB YOUNG LAMDIE.


still be persuaded to persevere. Make your re-
solutions anew, and make them in the Divine
strength-that is, relying on Divine aid.
Nor should you give up, even if you break
your first resolutions, made in God. Some say
it is better not to make good resolutions than to
make them and not perform them. But I have
lived long enough to observe, that however true
this remark may seem, those who have it most
frequently in their mouths are the very persons
who never resolve at all. And she will accom-
plish little or nothing who never resolves.
I grant, indeed, that it is bad to resolve and
not keep our resolutions. We ought to keep
them. Why should we not What hinders?
Still I maintain that it is best to resolve. We
do not resolve with the intention of breaking
our resolutions, nor need we.
The question was put by one of our Savy
iour's followers-" How often shall my brother
sin against me and I forgive him? Till seven
times?" And what was the answer? "I say
not unto thee, till seven times, but till seventy
times seven." Or as some interpret it, as long
as the offence is repeated. Shall d young wo-








SPIRIT OF W0MANt5s MI5soo.


man be less charitable or forgiving. t*sb
others ? Shall she forgive those who iagapit
her to the 490th timeand shall she not forgive
1'erself for sinning against herself to the fowrt?
But the manifestations or evidences that the
spirit of Christ is within us remain, yoe sti
say, to be noticed. What are these evidsepos?
How is the spirit of reform-the new spirit-
the spirit of Christ, made known to th world?
How is our light so to shine that otheq, seig
our good works, may be led back to Godl
Perhaps I might answer in the language o
an ancient maxim, Ye shall know them by
their fruts." Or in language quite as iacimt;
by "the love of our brethren." He that-hath
the spirit of Christ, brings forth fruit accod-
ingly; and not only brings forth fruit, but
much fruit. He loves his brother, too, even
unto death. I shall say more of this hefealer.
Let me point you to one rt-ult, one manifesta-
tion of the spirit of Christ, which you may not
have thought of; but which you may easily
judge whether you possess. It is the love of
moral and religious improvement in youmMIf
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IearT OOK Fo3 YOUNG LADIES.


eriptures reebr to when they speak of our hun
gearing and thirting after righteousness.
I have spoken of conscientiousness, as being
greatly important. Now you must not only be
conscientious, but love to be so. Whatever is
worth doing, is worth doing well; carefully,
concientiously, rightly. There is no act of
your lives so small but you should labor with
all your might, and resolve, and if necessary,
re-resolve concerning it.
One man whom I know, a minister, who
was deeply versed in human nature, as well
as afmiliarly acquainted with his own heart,
used to say, that among the most promising
things, in man or woman, was a strong solici-
tude to do and be rigAt in every thing.
But this being and doing right, with many,
amounts to little more than a desire, stronger or
weaker, not to do wrong. Or if it rises a little
higher and includes a little more-a small de-
gme of love of doing right, for the sake of the
riht-is in oly in very small measure.
And if it rises occasionally to the point I
hav mentioned-a moderately strong desire of
dog right, a positive love of virtue or excel.







SPIRIT OF WOMAN'S MISSION.


lence-it still falls short in this particular, that
it does not, in striving to be and do right, come
up to the highest gospel standard-that of de-
siring, with all the heart, mind, soul, and
strength, to be and do as right as possible.
She who is fully imbued with the true Go.
pel spirit, not only labors and prays to have
.every thing-rthe smallest matter even-done
right, but as right as possible. And if sh fails
of her resolution to do every thing in this
manner, she mourns over her delinqueacy, and
is in bitterness on account of it; and resolves
again. Indeed, she repeats her resolution ad
efforts, if need so require, to the thousandth
or ten thousandth time.
And then, if at any time she succeeds, e a
conscience approves of her course as having
been the wisest and best which was possible
under the circumstances, even this does not
fully satisfy a nature not wholly intended for
the world. She is never ready to be sereatypeaL
She is never so perfect as to be willing to re-
main stationary. The higher the ascent she
climbs to-day, the greater her courage that she
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34 OGr BOOK FO YOUNG LADIES,

No matter how trifling the action, I sayagan
-no matter if it be but the putting on of a head-
dressa the eating of a meal of victuals, or the
getting of a lesson on the piano or at school.
.No patter if it be something which she has
done a thousand times over, and which seems
so trifling as hardly to possess any character
at all, if such an action there could possibly be.
I knew a teacher* many years ago, whose
praise was all over the land, and had been so
for a long period. There were lessons to be re-
cited to him from day to day, which he had
heard perhaps a hundred times. And yet he
was known to affirm, just at the close of
life, that he never, if possible, heard the sim-
plest and most familiar lesson recited, without
first studying it as faithfully, at least once over,
as any of his pupils.
Why all this carefulness to study a lesson
already as familiar to him as the Alphabet or
Multiplication Table? The professed reason-
doubtless the real one-was that he wished to
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SPIRIT OV WOMAN'S MISSION.


And better theme again, and better ill
Is lfinite progresai."
This spirit of JoszPE EMxnsoN was tfi
true spirit. It was the spirit of Christ. It i
the spirit which I wish you to imbibe and itt
manifest And one mode of manifest it-s
thatif which I am now speaking. I wn say
even more: they who do not manifest this sprft
are not Christ's true followers. They may
have a name to live, but practically, they ae
either dead or asleep.
There is a world *hose inhabitants from
highest to lowest, endeavor to perfom each
passing action a little better than emr beFhm.
'These morning stars, in singing together f oy,
though it be a song* they have sung teanthoou-'
sand times endeavor to raise their net & it.
tie higher, and make the harmony a little sweet
er at every repetition.
The portals pf thisyorld of blest haramy,
are'to be entered, if entered 1 this side the
grave. Heaven is not so ttach a place, as a
state. It is a tate of holin It is to me
round again to he same point, the spirit of
Christ But neither' heaven here, nor hearvm




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GIFt BOOK IOR YOUNG LADIES.


there, can be heaven, without the constant de-
sie and effort to do every thing better and bet-
ter. Joseph Emerson was not much more truly
in heaven-only more fully so-when having
paued the bounds of time and space, he held
a golden harp in his hand, than when he was
conning over again a lesson in spelling or arth-
ImBtic.
It vain to say, in reply to all this-and
I hope you, my dear friend, will not attempt it
-that there is a grade of human action so low,
and s allied to mere instinct, as to have no
moral character-no right or wrong about it.
Palif not the Saviour, has taught a very differ.
eat doctrine; and you will,,as I trust, hold no
datmsso y with Paul. He says that what-
ever we do-even our eating and drinking-
should be done to the glory of God. Can that
be destitute of moral character, which is to be
done to God's glory 3
I am not ig ant, that human heart,
sometimes evenvsen partially sanctified, rises
up against these sew, and gravely, and sim-
cueslyao asks whether, by teaching that small
actionsm-tbe tying of a cravat or a shoe for ex-








SPIRIT OF WOMAN'S MISSION.


ample-have moral character to them, I shall
not disgust people, and defeat the very ends at
which I aim. It is sufficient for me, however,
that as high an authority as Paul, has settled
the question. Shall I be wiser than Paul ?
No, my dear friend, you have'not taken the
first step towards co-operating with Christ in
attempting to save the world (and thus ftill-
>ng your mission), till you have made it your
fixed determination to do every thing which
you do, at all times, a little better than ever you
did it before.
Examine yourself, then, not in any light I
may have thrown on the subject, so much as in
the light of reason, and conscience, and common
sense; and the Gospel. To all these, you hold
yourself, under God, amenable. Examine your-
self, I say, and remember, as you perform the
duty, the awful faot, that if any have not the
Spirit of Christ, they are none of his.


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CHAPTER ILL

DUTIES TO YOURSELF.-YOUR
HEALTH.

[ HAVE now gone through with prelimiRaries,
at which you will doubtless rejoice. I know
full well how irksome this moralizing-preach-
ing, if you will have it so-is to the young;
especially to young women. Yet is it not, in
its time and place, needful ?
Let me now take for granted that you are
fully awake to the spirit of your mission. You
are ready to say: "Herelam, Lord; send me
on any service of thine for which I am quali-
fied, dr can become so. Let me know, at least,
the first step I ought to take, and I will gladly
obey the divine indication."
Perhaps I ought to say that one of the first,
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DUTIES TO YOURSELF.


is to yourself--physically, socially, intellect-
ually, and morally. In other words, it is to
make yourself a specimen and pattern, in all
these particulars, as perfect as possible.
You have a body-fearfully and wonder-
fully made. With this body, your mind is
most curiously and even wonderfully con-
nected. They have a powerful sympathy
with each other. If one suffers, the other suf-
fers more or less with it; and often in a cor-
responding degree. If one enjoys-is in a
healthful condition-the other enjoys also.
A few have taught, as I am well aware, a
very different doctrine. They have taught that
ill health has a sanctifying influence. That by
it mankind are prepared, in a most remarkable
degree, for the enjoyments of the righteous.
The mistake they have made consists in
magnifying to a general rule, what is mani-
festly a mere exception. The Father of the
Universe, who educess good from ill," every
where (whenever that ill cannot, without doing
violence to free agency, be avoided), and who
causes even the wrath of man to praise him,
has contrived to make sickness, when he can,




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4 r GFT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

prove a blessing. And yet, in five cases for
one, if not twenty-five to one, it hardens rather
than softens the human heart.
Health, in man or woman, as a general rule,
is highly favorable. How can it be otherwise?
How can that mind and spirit which are bound
to a crippled bod- like the ancient Roman
criminal to a putrid carcass, be otherwise than
impeded in their upward flight ?
And yet health, in any good degree, in
either man or woman, is exceedingly rare. I
grant that a considerable number are free from
what is usually accounted real disease. They
may not-probably do not-undergo pain.
They may not actually suffer, at .la moment,
from fever, inflammation, pleurisy, rheuma-
tism, gout, apoplexy, consumption, small-pox,
or cholera. And if these last and their kin-
dred were the only unhealthy conditions of
mankind, we might, at almost any given mo-
ment, speak of disease as the exception, rather
than the general rule.
The fact is, that a large proportion of our
children and youth-of the whole race, 1
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DUTIES TO YOURSELF.


an inheritance. One-fourth of each genera-
tion, in this part of the United States at the
least, inherit a tendency to scrofla or con-
sumption. And more than another fourth in-
herit a tendency to other diseases which could
be mentioned.
Then again, a diseased condition of the sys-
tem is acquired, as well as inherited. Thus
many who are born comparatively healthy,
become liable to fever, consumption, bowel
complaint, eruptive disease, ore throat, &c.
For even catarrh, or cold as it is usually called,
is a disease; and, as a diseased hab is often
wholly acquired.
From these two sources it comes to pass
that a large majority of our young women,
from twelve to twenty-five years of age, are
already the subjects of disease, and need reme-
dial directions, rather than preventive. My
limits do not permit of either, to any consider-
able extent. A few brief directions only will
be given, and those will relate to prevention.
In the first place, however, allow me to im-
press on your mind the idea that God in his
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42 GIrT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

your health in your own power. I do not
mean that tjis remark is true without qualifi-
cation or limit; but only that it is as true, as
it is that your intellectual and moral character
are put in your own'power. As surely as you
cau be wise, or good, just so truly can you be
healthy.
Do you say, almost with impatience: "But
have you not, of yourself, already asserted
that a large proportion of our race inherit dis-
ease 7 How then is it true, that our health
depends upon our own efforts, as your re-
marks seem to imply? Is there not contra-
diction in all this ?"
The question, though hasty, is yet pertinent.
But the answer is easy. We do not hesitate
to speak of our moral character, as within our
own power. God did not make us mere ma-
chines. So of our intellectual capability. Our
knowledge is made dependent, as a general
rule, on our own exertion. And yet some of
as inherit bad tempers, bad passions, and fee-
ble faculties--not to say, here and there, down-
right 'perversion and idiocy. The common
doctrine, that our virtue and our knowledge








DUTIEN TO YOURNULM.'


are within our own power, is just as much in
contradiction to the law of moral and intel-
lectual inheritance,, as the law I have an-
nounced is in regard to physical matters.
Indeed, if we look this whole subject
through, we shall find that health, knowledge,
and moral excellence, are all comparative.
Some are healthier, others less so; some are
wiser, some less wise; some more moral, and
some less so. It is thus, in regard to in-
heritance-it is the same thing in regard to
acquirement And it is so again, in regard to
virtue or moral excellence. The latter is easy
to some, difficult to others.
I dwell the longer on this point, plain and
simple as it seems to many, because to others
it may appear to be a strange doctrine; and I
wish to show them just how it is. It makes
i very different impression to say, in a general
way, that God has placed our. health in our
3wn power, from what it does when we say,
that mankind ought not to be sick. People
will assent to a great many doctrines and rules
when we do not apply them.
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. GIUT BOOK 1n YOUNG LADIES.


to the broad statement that our health is, as
general rule, at our own disposal. I wish you
to make an application of the principle to your
own circumstances, and to those of others,
around you.
You .inherit a scrofulous tendency. This
was not indeed discoverable at first; and.pio-
bably for the first year or two years of life, you
were regarded as unusually healthy; you
were fleshy, as I suppose, and had red cheeks.
But subsequent experience showed that your
physical endowments were not so very ample,
after all. You were nervous, irritable, irregu-
lar in your appetite, subject to colds, &c. In
other words, to repeat the statement, you had
a scrofulous constitution.
Now this constitution it is which has given
you so much trouble, all your lifetime, to this
hour. You have been susceptible of disease
of almost every kind, and liable to continual
derangement, bodily or mental. And you
still suffer, both in body and mind.
Now, this condition and lot is susceptible
of much alleviation and improvement. You
may not be able, it is true. to accomplish all








DUTIZE TO YOULRSIL.


you may desire. You may not-probably
will not-be able to eradicate wholly the dis-
ease. There will be a teiency to scrofulous
affections, as long as you live.
Still you may do much, I again my, to make
your condition tolerable. You may even di-
minish the scrofulous tendency. You may,
in the course of any ten years, especially the
next ten, add fifteen or twenty per cent. to
your general vigor. And the more you do,
in this way, the more you can do.
You are apt to be discouraged, because 1
assure you that the work of improvement must
be slow. I know well the tendency to dis-
couragement, and the danger of giving all up
as hopeless. The destruction of the poor is
their poverty, says Solomon; and in like man-
ner the destruction of the poor is their poverty
in regard to health. It is with them as it is
with the business man of small capital, his
earnings must be in the same proportion, that
is, very small; whereas they who have a large
capital can, with the same amount of effort,
secure much larger gains.
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46 oarE BOOK o70 YOUNG LADES.

Remember one thing, by way of'encourage.
ment, that your gain will be greater, from
the same amount of effort, than that of many
of your female friends and acquaintance. The
reason is, they have less capital than you. I
know how ready you are to think you are
worse off with scrofula, than you would be
with any other chronic disease. But it is not
so. The dyspeptic, and even the consumptive
person, are still worse off. I do not speak here
with regard to the duration of life; for I do
not know but the consumptive person, and still
more the dyspeptic, may last as long as -you.
What I say, refers chiefly to your power to in-
vigorate your constitution, and thus to enjoy
your life while you do live.
You -will understand by this time one great
principle, which I trust I have more than indi-
cated by the foregoing remarks, viz., that the
more health you have-the more, I mean of
constitutional vigor-the more you can get.
The feeblest of your neighbors, the most mi-
serable dyspeptic you know, can do a little
for herself; and so may she who is far gone
,n the worst forms of consumption. Indeed,




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DUTIES TO YTOoURLF. 47

no person is so feeble, even with fever, pleu-
risies, or other acute diseases, as not to be able,
by rigid obediece to the lawsof God and man,
.-.especially the former-to gain something
temporarily, if not permanently.
You will observe, of course, that I do not
say that the consumptive person, and every
body else, will get well, if they obey: with this
I have nothing to do; of this I know nothing.
I know not how long people have transgressed,
nor how grievously. All I affirm is, that they
may improve their condition. The feeblest, I
say, can do something; and what they ean do,
it is highly indispensable they should do. The
strongest and most healthy can do the most for
themselves, however.
For, need I say again, that it is with this
matter of health, as with knowledge, morality,
&c., that while none are sunk so low in ignor-
ance, depravity, or disease, as not to be able to
do something for themselves, none are so ele-
vated in knowledge, goodness, and health, as
not to be able to make farther advances ? And
still more, that the less they have of any of
these, the more difficult is it to make new ac-


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48 GIF BOOK FO1 YOUNG LAIES.


cessions; and the more they have, the more
they can increase their capital or stock?
I will not say, of course, that the comparison
I have here made of health with knowledge!-
and virtue, will hold in every particular; but
certain I am of one thing, that it will hold as
far as I have chosen, in this letter, to carry it.
The more hea' h we have, the more we can
get, is a rule t whichh we know, as yet, of no
exceptions.
One or tw inferences should be made from
all this. If lod has put your health in your
power, then a it not your duty to attend to it
If the mor health you have, the more, as a
general rf you can get, have you a right to
excuse yoireelf and say, "All these instructions
about hte th may answer for the feeble and
sickly; ut I have nothing to do with them?"
Have fou not, on the contrary, much more
to do v Ah them than the feeble and the sick-
ly? fJant that they are inexcusable, if they
eglet themselves: are you not more so Is
it Mt a scriptural, aye, and a common sense
rotb-To whom much is given, of the same
shall much be required








ODUTIr TO YOUV ELF. W9

But if you are morally bound to attend to
bodily health, whatever may be your present
condition, and however great your present pos-
sessions, in this particular, are you not morally
culpable for neglect? Are you )ot, at least,
blamewbrthy, if you do not act up to the dig-
nity of your present convictions of what is
Physically right?
Do not startle at the idea' of blame for being
sick. What if t the thuht is new What if
it seems strange Do its novelty aad sing-.
larity make it the less true or leas impodat
If it is a just and necessary conclusion Atoaist
and necessary pemises, then why startle at itR
Why not receive it, and make it a law to your
conscience ? Why not obey it also, and enjoy
the blessed consequences ? #
In any event, I hope you will no longer he.
itate to make yourselfacquainted with the laws
of your physical frame. By this I donot men,
of eoure that it is needful for you to study
A ionmyaid Physiology with the same e-
nessnes, ad to the same extet, which is n-
cessary ftr the.physician ad surgeon. dAll
young women are Rot called to practise medi-







50 oGrr aeo0K 70 YOUNG LADiES.


cin, like Miss Blackwell. But a.general know-
ledge of this subject is certainly useful, and if
you would fulfil your mission, in the best pos-
sible manner, quite indispensable.
There is, however, a range of study, which
comes short of this; and yet answers, very
well, the purposes of young women. It is what
the French call Hygiene-and for which we
have no English name, in any one word. It
is a proper consideuatioi of -the laws of rela-
tin. Anatomy teaches structure, physiology,
lws;' but Hygiene, relations. Thus man is
related to ai temperature,.food, drink, and
nothing; and, by means of boWms and muscles,
to the'earth we tread on, dc.;. and. this rela-
tion involves certain conditions or laws ot ela-
tion.
In pursuing this study, it will indeed be ne-
* e sary to appeal to the laws of Anatoq.y and
Physiology, and conseqtuetly to eqlain them
occasionlly. ot it is not nece6 ia' the
study of Hygiene, by young women. .i b .t
with Antamy. and Physioogy, any e thana
it i teoeMary to commit to. zuemy tA ong
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DUTIES TO YOURSELF.


catalogue of dry Grammar or Arithmetic rles,
before we proceed to parsing or ciphering.
This study of Hygiene, I recommend to you
most earnestly, not so much because it is be-
coming fashionable, as bec&dse it is for your
life-the ife of the body and tne Aife of the
soul. I cannot indeed dwell on it, in this
volume; the-subject must be reserve for a
future series of letters, or vercnance tor a vol-
ume by itself I may indeed m m next'two
or three letters, just allude to i.











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CHAPTER IV.


AMUSEMENTS.

CLOIELY connected -with the subject of health
is that of amusements; nor is t much less nu.
portat. Few things demand more tne senmu
attention of those who have the charge of toe
young of both sexes, at the present time-te
males no less than males-than the manner m
which they are to amuse themselves. It is of
course a subject of importance.
For amusement you must have, of some sort
or other. Your opening nature, bodily and
mental, demands it. You need it as'much as
the kitten or the lamb: It has been a max-
im, "all work and no play makes Jack a dull
boy." So would all study, as well as all work.
So would all any thing. You cannot be de-
prived of your amusements, but at your peril








AMUSEMENTS.


Even at your own age, all this a literally
true.
I speak with the more freedom, in regard to
amusements for the young, because there is the
beginning of an awakening of the public con-
science, which has so long slumbered, on this
great subject. Good people, as well as others,
are beginning to see that they have been guilty
of a neglect, whose consequences have often
pierced them through with many sorrows.
What, then, are some of the forms in which
the young, especially those of more advanced
years, like yourself should amuse themselves ?
Several things should be kept in view, in we.
lation to this matter. Your amusements should
be of such a nature as is compatible with health
of body and mind. They should be such as
afford exercise to those organs and faculties
which are not otherwise called into sufficient
activity.' They should be such as are relished.
They should have a good social and moral
tendency.
It happens, by the way, that amusemoats
which are peculiarly healthy to one person, are
often less so to another. This fact may be
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54 GIT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

owing to temperament, mode of employment,
inherited or acquired tendencies to disease, &c.
While, therefore, in all our directions we should
keep in view the laws of health, we must by
no means forget the varying circumstances of
the individual.
Your temperament-nervous and sanguine,
but not highly active-requires active exercise.
You pursue household employment, in part,
and these are highly favorable. Thus far con-
sidered, you would not seem to demand very
active amusements. But then, again, you do
not highly relish your housework, while you are
excessively fond of your garden, your walks,
your pony and your carriage.
On the whole, you find yourself most bene-
fited by amusements in the open air. You
would not be profited so much by the dance,
even if you could relish it, and could be made
to believe it had a good moral tendency.
Your fondness for your garden, is very
highly favorable. Continue that fondness.
Your flowers, your vines, your fruit-trees, will
all of them minister to your amusement.
Whether watering, budding, pruning, hoeing,








AMUBS ME Tr. B6

or collecting the products of .your labor, you
will still be amused, and both mind and body
be greatly improved.
But this is not enough-it does not go far
enough. You need something more active, as
jumping, running, and the like. will tell you
what will be about the right amusement for
you, beyond the garden and field. An occa-
sional ramble with a friend or wih a small
party, in pursuit of rare lowers, plants, miner-
als, insects, or birds. And should you, nl
your zeal, so far compromise your dignity, am
to forget the staid snail-like pace to whicb, ever
since you entered your teens society has ea-
deavored to constrain you, as to walk a itb
more rapidly, or even run, and clap your hand,
and shout Eureka, do not think you havecom-
mitted the sin unpardonable in Heaven's court;
or that even the tribunal of your company will
condemn you. You have your trial before a
jury of the sovereign pop-e"-though it may
not always be exactly twelve in number; be,
therefore, of good courage.
Walking to do good-when your feelings are
so much absorbed as to make you forget to


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56 OIPT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

measure your pace--is one of the best amuse-
ments of bodyand mind you can possibly have;
next, I mean, to those which have been just
now mentioned. But mere walking, that is,
walking for the Make of walking, is worth very
little to you or any body else.
Exercise on horseback comes next As.you
are fond of this, and as you require the open
air, it is highly proper. Those, however, who
incline either to pulmonary or bilious com.
plaints, will, as a general rule, reap more im-
mediate, solid advantages from it than you will.
I need not add to these hints. I need not
interdict balls, asemblies, parties late at night,
nor even a too frequent attendance on the
lecture or the scientific experiments. Still
less need is there that I should refer to the
dance. Your own good sense and former hab-
its are sure to decide right here.
Your neighbor Cynthia, with her bilious
temperament and sluggish mental characteris-
ties, requires amusements of a somewhat differ-
ent character. Not indeed less active, but much
moremo. She needs the free air also as much
as yourself. And then her employment, being








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of a sedentary kind, demands it Oadtl u
loudly. Her lower limber require walking&mT
ning or dancing. I do not mean dancing late
at night, in convivial parties, for that would be
more injurious to her than to you; and as
dangerous to mind and morals as to bodily
health.
She also needs society in her amusements
more than you. In most instances yod would
do very well alone; but she does not rmlth
solitary activity, and it would conseqatly be
less beneficial to her than to yourself
Then again, while you would be greatly
benefited by the shower bath, and by swim-
ming, partly for the amusement, she would
be better served by the warm bath. Her sin
is cold and inactive; yours acts very irrsega
larly. Hers is strong enough, if it were set
going; yours is thin and feeble.
You would find light reading an amusement,
not indeed late at night, or in bed, or when
greatly fatigued in body, but when fresh and
vigorous, and lively and happy. She, on the
contrary, would find reading irksom at all
times, and would hardly be benefited by it.





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m' F 2ooC soP TOuG LADIES.

Ounwa tion on the contrary is the best thing
fr her.
I And thus it would be, through the whole
circle of your acquaintance, were' these real
wants considered. One would require this ex-
eicise, another that. One would require this
combination of exercise, another a different one.
But then all, as a general rule, demand pure
a ir, cheerful mind, and a warm heart. All
require their undivided energies for. the time.
S You must not be half interested in them, but
wholly so.
. -.But I do not expect to give you a whole
SWe'ume on amusements in the compass of a
'igle letter. All I can reasonably hope to do
it to establish in your mind a few correct
principles, and then leave the application of
These principles to your own good common
s'. wnse. Happy will it be for you, and for all
concerned with, or dependent on you, if you
make the application wisely and judiciously.
One difficulty in relation to this matter, has
been lauded to in connection with another
suljict. Young women are unwilling t tbink.
Ss Some are more averse to thinking than your-










self. soB 4ad-=h 4 ii 4' 4A&ni" .
particular; and hence the imp.rtan.oe (
frequently and earnestly admoniabdl.
Is it necessary to remind yon, that itari s i
danger of amusing yourself too much? IIt wmold
not be necessary to remind your bilious ns*b-
bor of it; she will never give up time enough
to her amusements. Her great, I might al-
most say morbid or diseased conscientlousna M,
would forbid it, if nothing else should. WIT
regard to yourself deep principle might be *
erative to restrain you; but not an over- cth
or high-wrought conscientiousnme, em '"
case of diseased nerves and brain.
though I am compelled to remind yea
there is such a thing in the world as al~- '
conscientiousness it is exceedingly rare. .~
persons have too little rather than too mPrdi
thiscommodity. It is a fault of the ags % .
*seems to me, to ask, What will peo.i i
rather than, What is right? or, What : .. '
say? ., "
Few among I come up to the a mqaita -.
the tspiied peman This hitreo cu l
gapd to h e most sacred things; how imuchta 'it

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ib* rqgud to the common every-day concerns
tof lif How few among us labor from dy to
day, from hour to hour, from moment to mo-
ment to de all to the glory of God I



























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CHAPTER V.


EMPLOYMENT.

MANY things which belong to the subjet of
employment were anticipated by my last et-
ter. It is, indeed, difficult to draw a line of
demarkatien between employmnt an d amus-
ments. They blend with and nr into each
other. Employment sometimes 6mm mse.
ments; and amusements, too oftem, partake of
the nature of sober employment.
The word employment, indeed, in a very
general sense, includes every thing which in-
telligent creatures can do. But there is a mor
particular sense, in which we frequently us
it, viz., to designate or distinguish those avoca.
tions, or duties or exercises, in which we ha-
bitually engage, in order to obtain owr reputre
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9 GOIFT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

Godhas kindly made it necessaryfor mankind
to labor, in order that they may eat and drink.
That which many regard as a curse, is thus con-
verted into a blessing. It is a blessing, because
it prevents idleness, and its long train of dan-
gers. It is a blessing, because it conduces to
health; and this, in a thousand ways.
You are one of those who labor for a sup-
port, and who consequently, if you labor right,
receive the blessings which are annexed. By
means of this labor, you have escaped a thou-
sand temptations and a thousand dangers.
You have escaped also many diseases to which
you would otherwise have been subjected, as
well as much suffering which would have
fallen to your lot, had not the diseases with
which you have already been afflicted been
greatly mitigated in regard to their severity,
by your habits of exercise in the house and in
the garden.
Some young women have been less fortu-
nate. Their employment have been assigned
to them by parents who did not understand
their temperaments, or their tendencies to dis-
ease. Perhaps they ought to have b33n house-








EMPLOYMENT.


keepers; but they have been made milliners
or seamstresses. Their temperaments and dis-
eased constitutions required active exercise,
and free space; but they have been deprived
of both.
Others, predisposed to scrofula or consump-
tion, to whom active exercise, in the open air,
is more necessary, if possible, than to any other
class, are plunged into the factory. There, in
a vitiated, overheated atmosphere, they spend
twelve, fourteen, or sixteen hours ftaseh day,
and hardly breathe a better atmosphere when
they return to their boarding-houses, and retire
to their sleeping-rooms.
Here again, you have been peculiarly fortu-
nate. Had you been consigned, at ten, twelve,
or fourteen years of age, to the hot, murky,
foul air of the tailor's shoi, or the factory, or
what is but little better, the confined and often
very impure air of a millinery, you would
probably have been laid in your grave seven
or eight years ago. Or had you survived, your
life would have been of little value to your-
self, or to those around you.
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64 GOIT BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

for sedentary employment as hundreds awm
thousands, who are trained to them. But ob-
serve, if you please, that not all who are trained
to an employment pursue it as a means of
earning a livelihood. Not a few fall into other
business, at least if they do not cripple them-
selves so as to be unfitted for any other.
That a few die, as the result of a wrong
choice of occupation by the parent, (for it is on
parents and masters that the blame must, after
all, principally fall,) though a great evil, is an
evil not half so great as another which I could
name-and which, indeed, I must advert to
briefly, in order to complete my plan.
I refer to the deterioration of the race, to
which we belong. Now it is alike a doctrine
of scripture and reason, that none of us live
or die to ourselves.' Indeed, such is the struc-
ture of society, that we cannot do so, if we
would.
Suppose a young woman goes into a factory
as well ordered as those of Lowell. Suppose
that by virtue of a good constitution, she does
not actually become sick. Suppose she is even
able to remain six, or eight, or ten years.








BMPLOTYMBNT.


Will any one say that because she does not
die at the factory, or does not come out of it
crippled for life, therefore no great mischief is
done 1 Has the question ever yet been settled,
which is the greater actual loss to society, one
person killed outright-or ten, or twenty, or
forty injured; some of them greatly injured,
for the rest of their lives 1 -
Cnd as the whole tendency of the whole
thing is and must be downward-that is, to
the deterioration of successive generations-has
it ever been ascertained how much more one
life is worth in the present generation, than
one in the next, or the third ? To explain a
little. Suppose a course to be taken in life,
with regard to employment, which, while it
permits the individual to linger out half her
days or more amid many ills, yet with entire
certainty entails on offspring the possibility-
aye, the necessity-of dying prematurely, and
of being good for nothing, except by being a
burden to try the patience, and faith, and love,
of others. Is it settled that such a course is
right
As the cultivation of our mother earth, in
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66 orG BOOK 1lo YTOUx LADIu.

a rational manner, is, after all, the most honor-
able and most useful employment for our sex,
so the kindred occupation of taking care of the
house, and feeding the bodies, minds, and
hearts of its occupants, is the noblest employ-
ment-the blessed prerogative, may I not call
it-of your own.
Other occupations indeed there must be, and
to some of them, in the good providence of
God, you might have been-may yet be, even
now--alled. But, do not cAoos them. Submit,
if you must; nothingmore. Soof others. They
may, in some instances, go to the factory or to
sedentary employment, with more of safety to
their constitutions and to their progeny than
you; but they, even, will be still better off to
do housework.
But whatever may be your choice or your
destiny, let it be pursued in the fear of God,
and in due obedience to all his laws, physical
and moral, as much as may be. If you can-
not do all you would desire, you can at least
do all in your power. God is not a hard mas-
ter; he only requires of you what he has








EMPLOYMUINT. -

given you capacity and opportunity to perform
And never forget, that
"Who does the bet her dcreumance allows
Does well; act. nobly; angels oould no man.

One thing of high importance has been m
than hinted at, in my last letter. No employ-
ment, not even housekeeping, is so healthy as
to excuse you from the necessity of spending
several hours of each day in your garden I
was going to make an exception to this rul,
on account of unfavorable weather, but if you
accustom yourself to all sorts of weatjr them
ate very few days of spring, summer or autumn,
in ihich you cannot labor more or less in the
open air.
Whatever you do, moreover, do it with all
your might. It is an old saying, that "What-
ever is worth doing, is worth doing well;" to
which might be added another, viz., "Whatever.
is worth doing at all, is worth doing with all
your might" I do not mean with violence, but
with great earnstntness. I cannot help respect-
ing the individual who throws his whole soul,







68 GTr BOOK FOn YOUNG LDAMBS.

as it wer, into all lawful employment, associ-
ations and amusements, be they ever so trivial.
Finally, in making up your mind, in regard
to an employment for life-if indeed your life
is not already decided for you-do not ask, I
my once more, What will people say? At
least, if you ask this question at all, let it by
all means be an afterthought. It is of far less
consequence what others think of you, than it
is what God and your own conscience think of
you. The good opinion of others, I grant, is
not to be despised; but it is of less consequence
than some young women imagine















CHAPTER VI.

STUDIES, BOOKS, ETC.

AMONG the items of duty to herelft to which
the attention of .a young woman should be
called, as a means of forming her character, as
a missionary, is the pursuit of appropriate
studies. Do you say that your study days are
over? They are never over while life contin-
ues. They are never over while you are sus-
ceptible of the smallest degree of improvement.
In truth, the business of the schools, you.
have attended, was not so much to study, as
to learn how to study-to obtain the keys of.
knowledge, rather than to unlock her treasures.
Some preset reward-some grains of gold-
there indeed is; but the reward, or treasure, is
chiefly in reserve for riper years.
I was once associated with three other indi-
4


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GIFT BOOK FOr YOUNG LADIs.


viduals, in conducting as many divisions of a
large Bible class. Many of our pupils were as
old as ourselves-men and women of large and
liberal education. In this case we were obliged
to study as teachers, and to study hard; and
the Rev. Dr. Anderson, who was one of the
four teachers, advised that we should make
our reading, during the whole week, to bear
upon the subjects of our lesson.
The suggestion was deemed worthy of our
attention, and was, to some extent, heeded.
Would that it had been more closely attended
to on my own part than it was. And you,
who are a Sabbath school teacher, may profit
from the same suggestion. For if we, who
were already in the middle of life or beyond
it, were required to study, surely you are.
, But suppose you had nothing to do with the
Sabbath school. You are a teacher in the pub-
lic schools. Will not Dr. A.'s suggestion still
apply? In truth I know of no occupation-I
certainly never followed one-which requires
harder study than common or public school-
keeping.
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ITUDIE8, BOOKs, ETC.


that in conducting small elementary schools,
or indeed our larger town schools, little know-
ledge is required beyond what is usually ob-
tained beforehand, in the progress of our own
attendance on the same class of schools. They
tell us that if a teacher loves her school, has a
tact at communicating knowledge, and has a
thorough acquaintance with the branches she
teaches, such as reading, spelling, during,
writing, grammar, geography, history, physiol-
ogy, &c., nothing pore is necessary.
But grant all this, is them nothing for her
to do, in the way of study, who has passed a
good examinti"" as it is caekd, ad is firy
seated in the pedagogic chair? Is she so well
skilled in all the branches I have mentioned of
a good English education, as to be already per-
feet? If so, she is quite different from any.
thing which, as a teacher or committee man, I
have ever yet met with. The beet teachers I
have ever known have found themselves prot-
ed, at least for a few terms, at the first, in hard.
study even of these common branches.
Besides, it is not truo that we are not beneSt-
ed in our profession, by studying tho sciences


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72 owr BOOK rFO YOUNo LADs.

we are not required to teach. For such is the
connection and dependence of the whole circle
of human science, that every thing aids in the
understanding of every thing else. Other
things being equal, one who has studied moral
philosophy or even divinity, would teach school
better than one who was. wholly ignorantpf all
such subjects.
Again, if there were nothing else to study,
while teaching, you might study the art or
science of teaching, as well as that of disciplin-
ing. We have books now, thoughs there were
none twenty-five years ago,) which, along with
our own reflection, will greatly aid us in this
important work. I need not enumerate them-
it is ulicient-o remind you of the fat.
My story of Mr. Emerson would be ih place
here; but I have given it in my second letter,
and need not repeat it. Let it be, however,
distinctly understood that every day should mnd
you better qualified for your highly responsible
station than ever before; and that consequently
every day requires fresh effort, and fre study.
Perhaps you will say, "But there is a posi-
bility that I may not teach much longer, and








" TUbDIb l0038, ETC.


therefore it is hardly worth while to wams. *
(a tht Which aftr the preuabt mhem* a
bugt anoQe tam or two, *ii be of savin
tome."
This objection assumes for turut mem.
fest error. If the greatwori a( uwmunuWi
GCeI the edwcatin oter ke S uhMky
possible pumaradm whisk lwan O. 4"
taser, wMil be slnst as good a pmfftda
for th dkiuhugu of he *Ada *a- 6m*-;
especimily !al Whisk umbu. lo do mt f Midi.

Besides ym. mm wa hrs;t dat If you
wuid o mM 4 u 0 *VW s yft266
You uln U 0* Sala fm a&d wbmuw w
are doing in the beet pImfble
to i'powrn "'?a PWr'am ken IV*"
ezow "~war,~ as sbowa te2 &
I knownt t I have dwak so gm
sub*ct o (Study in rdeum to mabll
beam thi% dthough a. 1 p --sat u* 1
but ow meug Many to *hMi YO $*A
in om &ycalkd No I Wl nkm6a MW

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74 GIFr BoK FoR YoUmi LAI!35.


serves to be regarded-requires as much study,
far aught I know, as the science of teaching.
That it has not been studied by most, is cheer-
fully admitted; but is it a sufficient reason
why a thing should never be, to say that it
hba nerr yet be ?
What bhoasper is there among us, worthy
of th*sh T hmsekeeper, who would not be
ar Itor Atted for her location by studying
PblJiy mad Chnmistry, especially the lat-
ter FPr my own part, I see not how a Chris-
tian woman of but common intelligence, should
dSe, in our own time, at least, to make a loaf
of bead without a thorough knowledge of Che-
mbistr-I men, provided she makes it in the

I- eder, Imre r, to exert a proper inlu-
ce ovr others, the study of mental philoo-
phy rms toas mosary. For since your
Sssi tMo the word, as Mr. Flint expreSes
Jipe ahk bes quaifed to aue it in right
Ms- ms. You aght to umdroantm well the
, nOeiin-al strlts of your -w sm~. You
ought to understand their minds and your own,
M Ies. tn your and their beds Moral








STUDIESS, JOOK8, ETC.


philosophy I have already incidentally recom-
mended.
I do not believe it to be necessary that you
should dive into all the intricacies of philosophy,
mental or jnoral. It is a practical psycholo-
gist, I would make you, rather than a theos
retical one. In truth, it is practical life-the
formation of every-day character-at which I
would aim throughout.
Great importance, in these days, is attached
to the study of the French, and Italian, and
Spanish, and Latin languages. Now I have
no objection to the study of the languages,
living or dead, by both sexes, if they have time
for it. But have they Is life lng enough
to enable those who are obliged-a.d who
ought-to sustain themselves by their own ex-
ertions, to study every thing which might be
desirable, and at the same time, be thorough
in it?
Let me say here, once for all, that in what-
ever you undertake, you should be thpmough
That is, as far as you go, be sure to go rights
I have said that at the first you are merely
getting hold of the kevs of knowledge; but








76 oUT BOOK FOR YOUNG LIADIWS.

then you must be very sure of the keys, or you
will make but miserable work in subsequent
life.
The mathematics I believe to be of more
real importance to you, as a means of strength-
ening your mental faculties, than the lan-
guages. This matter may be carried too far,
in some of our schools; but it is not generally
so. I think very highly, in females, of a turn
for the study of the exact sciences.
Still I admit we can have much of the dis-
cipline which the study of the mathematics
will secure, by a due attention to natural sci-
ence. I may have said enough already of
Physiology, and perhaps of Chemistry. And
yet I am not quite sure of this. Chemistry,
for both sexes, if studied in a proper spirit and
manner, is one of the noblest and most practi-
cal of the sciences.
Closely allied to Chemistry are Botany, Min-
eralogy, Geology, &c. Now I have not a taste
for these sciences, and shall not therefore be
likely to exalt them unduly. Yet I am free
to say that I consider them secondary to but
two subjects-Chemistry and Natural History.







STUDIES, BOOKS, ETC. 77

Botany I am sure is of vast importance; Ge.
ology I think must be.
I have incidentally spoken in praise of Natu-
ral History. The natural history of man is first
in order, and first in point of importance. And
yet, while we have a score or two of Natural
Histories of the animals below man-all good,
and deserving of the eclat they have received
-we have not a single work on the Natural
History of our own species, which is worth
your perusal.
Such a work, for the young, is yet a did-
eratum-but I trust will not long main so.
The ingenuity as well as enterprise of the age,
will surely bring to the market, intellectually,
that for which there is a demand. And it can-
not be that a thinking people-a people, at
least, who study Hygiene-will long defer to
demand such a work.
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CHAPTER VII.


MORAL CHARACTER.

IT is an old maxim, in reference to the high
tone of female character, that Casar's wife
should not even be suspected." But there
would be less occasion for the application of
the maxim to Casar's wife, if the daughter
were what she should be in the outset. As is
the daughter, for a general rule, to which no
doubt there may be exceptions, so is the wife
and the mother.
You will wonder, perhaps, what I can have
to say to young women about their morals.
Are they not already irreproachable in New
Englaid, and indeed all over our Union 7 Is
there a spot, in the wide world, where female
education has been so successful in establish-







MORAL CHARACTrR.


ing a high standard of female vnteu ad i
eral character?
Most certainly thee is aot. I kaw well a
whom I speak. Wee I addresing he yeg
women of central Asa, or evms of es ld t-
rope, I should address them *itheMt ip .
Except a favored few, they would nMt hav
virtue and purity enough to mndetend me,
when I speak on such subjects. A it qiMes
a good degree of knowledge to enable to at
a just value on knowledge, so it requi a geed
deal of virtue and morality to nab le mtrisf
virtue and morality, and to seek fa r tim
for hid treasures.
Remember .then-I repeat the *aminmi-
that you do not live in the dark age, nor i yet
more darkened regions of the earth. Yoa l
in the miawtentA chwury, and am to aid in
forming character for the hvetietA. You doot
live in the heart of Africa or South Amercta, or
in the backwoods of America. Your lot isr
favorably cast. You are exalted to heam,
aa it were, in point of privileges.
Let your character, the, corespond to be
high station you are to occupy. Fill your







80 o6r BOOK 10o YOUNG LADIES.

minds with the great idea that you are to co-
operate with Christ in the noble work of human
redemption. In this particular you can hardly
have your views too exalted. You are not only
to cooperate with, but to represent, or as some
theologians my, produce the Saviour in your
own heart, and in the hearts of others.
Ofcouse I do not forget that I have already,
in one or two instances, directed your attention
to this great subject. But you will excuse me,
I know, fr referring to it again. It is, to me,
wen I think of the true position of woman in
society, a most delightful theme. It would be
so, were I to speak of it as a mere matter of
philosophy.
But I do not refer to it as a matter of mere
pbilosopy, at least of human philosophy. It
is indeed philosophy, but it is Christian philo-
sophy. It has been baptized. The great idea
of Paul-" Whatsoever ye do in word or deed,
do all in the name of the Lord Jesus;" in other
w s, "In your whole character, be Christ's
true reprenentatives"--could never have had
any other than a divine origin.
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MORAL CHARACTER. 81

Christianity, if you would accomplish your
mission. They both come from the skies.
They are both for you. They are for woman.
They are for young women. They are for
woman, moreover, in every condition of home
society-educated or uneducated. It does not
require a deep knowledge of the sciences to
read of Jesus, and learn of him, and know
how to imitate him.
I have no special objection to your studying
Chesterfield. As you may obtain nourishment
to the body from almost every kind of food, so
your immortal part may find somewhat to aid
its progress and growth in the driest and most
unchristian volumes on character. I have not a
doubt, you might gain something in spiritual
growth, by reading. the works of Confucius,
Gaudama, and Zoroaster.
Did I say I had no objection to your study-
ing Chesterfield I mean not so much. It
would be a waste of time, if no more. The
old vulgar maxim that half a loaf is better than
no loaf at all, will not apply in this case, e..
cause this is no occasion for accepting the half-
loaf. You may as well have the whole, and





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01ff BOOK FOR YOUNiG LADMIB.


therefore, on the great Christian principle that
binds you to take the best course, you would
be culpable not to take the whole. Your time
is short at the longest. You have no right to
. read Confucius, or Socrates, or Chesterfield;
for you may just as well read Jesus Christ.
Be entreated then to read him-and what is
more, learn to represent him. Learn to do this,
moreover, at every step you take. It is not
enough that your general intention is to imitate
or represent him. There are thousands of your
sex, and ten thousand of mine, who talk well,
and receive into their heads good sound philo-
sophy and Christianity; but that is nearly all.
For the far greater part, it produces no practical
effect on the life. It

Plays round the head, but comes not to the heartL

It seems to me reserved, by Providence, for
woman to make a practical application of phi-
luophy and Christianity to life, as it is. In-
deed, as I shall say more fully hereafter, I
doubt whether the application will ever be ,
made till woman makes it. Or, in the lan.
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MORAL CARACTMR.


gYage of Mr. Ptit, if tde,waM i t be Iwh
beer, woma mut take the dleaii h g
it
For what means the great eet that sae
femaea embace ChrMstianky -oem Pw .
as its i andud may be-than marle What
means it, that degradd d depld aso-
man ever has been ad still in, she ins yta
puer and lover than man? What m
the great fact, that troddme dow in h A(i lte
ai dhe hus been, sh hma fC ded.amimi a
many other moble and oharitale inrmdi r'?
What meam the till geter hb, that leph
of the demands d society that wamst dshm
serve-a- Martha of Bethaay did, d M tam.
iously-woman was the frequent *lwr of
Jesus; clung longest to the foot of te rams,
and was earliest at the Mseplchre on As mon-
ing of the resurrection?
If you ever hear the charge mae that wo.
man is the weaker vessel, and is so benea
she is more eady than our sex to emb h
Chritisaty-whem you heat the msma dmar
other foras, thouanad of them-do net h *
yourself any trouble about it In the &rt








S GIOT 0orK I3 TOUNG LADIES.


paie it ofa comes from a clae of men who
would do much better, if they would set them-
selves about the work of self-improvement,
than to endeavor to detract frm the merit of a
sex to which, after all, they owe under God all
that they now are, which is worth possesing,
as well as much that they have, moet unhap-
pily for themselves, cast od
laded it is not a little in behalf of female
charter, if not of female piey, that these self
same traducers of your sex do, aer all, secret-
ly-rnepeot it Not so much I grant, as if they
had *ot heard the repeated slanders which
have been retailed from dissolute writers and
wholesale libertines. Still there is an innate
feeling of respect which they cannot get rid of,
if they would.
You may hence see that you have power-
that you do, as a matter of fact, rule the world.
For if you have but a slight in4ueaoe over the
bad, your influence is, of course, much greater
withthe good. And this is true in regard to
your influence with both sexes. Be encouraged,
them. Have special courage, moreover, when
I tell you that young women have more infu-








MORAL CHARACTER.


ence with our sex, than old ones. I do not say
it should be so; that would be to discuss quite
another question. I speak now only of what
is.
But I must close this letter. It need not be
long, if my general views are correct; because
however elevated the character of woman-
however influential she may be, and however
great the duties she owes to herself to qualify
herself for flfilling her mission-she will do
most for herself while laboring most for others.
He that watereth shall himself be watered, is
not only scriptural, but in accordance with
every day's observation of all who have their
eyes open to what is going on, either in the
world without or that within.
In subsequent letters I will, therefore, en-
deavor to point out, in my own plain way,
some of the numerous and weighty duties you
owe to others.















CHAPTER VI.


ASSOCIATES IN THE FAMILY.

EvERY young woman has a work to do in the
family. It was not Cain alone to whom the Al-
mighty Maker of heaven and earth once said,
" to thee shall be his desire, (Abel's,) and thou
shalt rule over him." The command is to all
elder brothers and sisters, as well as to the first.
It comes down to you, my dear friend, among
the rest.
Your mission, I say, then-so far as others
are concerned-begins in the family where you
were born, and still reside. You have younger
brothers and sisters. Over these you have rule.
You have it, indeed, in virtue of the general
law already so frequently alluded to, that wo-
man rules the world; but you have it still
more directly, if possible, in the divine deter-








ANIOCIATES IN THE FAMILY.


mination-except in case of some strange ex-
ception, like that of Esau and Jacob-that the
*younger shall serve the elder.
Do not misunderstand me, however. The
greatest of rulers, after all, is he or she who
serves most. "To thee shall be his desire,
and thou shalt rule over him," does not mean
that there shall be servility, in the usual sense
of the term, on the one hand, or tyranny on the
other. It means simply, that the younger is
made dependent on the older for a thousand
things and favors which Providence has put it
in the power of the qlder, as a wise ruler over
his subjects, to supply.
I have said that the greatest of rulers is he
who serves most. Will you pardon, here, a
momentary digression-just .to illustrate this
great truth ? Did not our Divine Master say, I
am among you as he that serveth'?" Does
not the Father of the Universe serve or minis-
ter to his creatures continually; and has he not
done so for thousands of years? In truth, is
not the best earthly monarch, he who serves
most? If you doubt, read history, both sacred
and profane.








88 GIFr BOOK FOR YOUNG LADIES.

Be this then the spirit of your rule over the
younger members of the family where you re-
side, whether they are your brothers and sis-
ters or not. Those who are not related to you
by blood, have a measure of the same depend-
ence on you that Abel had on Cain, and may
consequently claim the same sort of service, in
the way of ruling over them, that Abel had a
right to claim.
Fulfil, then, your mission. Oh, how many
have looked at the mark on Cain, and yet gone
away, and betrayed their high trust almost as
effectually as he I They have not, it is true,
murdered the body, nor even in a direct man-
ner the soul. But they have done the latter
indirectly. They have left it to be starved,
when they were expected to feed it.
Would Cain have been guiltless had he only
suffered Abel to die from neglect? And are
you guiltless, who only suffer a soul to perish,
at your very side, from sheer inattention ?
Suppose, however, you do more than this.
Instead of exerting a proper authonty and in-
fluence-the authority and influence of a heavy
enly example-suppose you set, m any respect


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ASSOCIATZU IN THB VAfILY.


a bad example, and thus not merely wfJr an
immortal mind to sink for want of care, but
actually thrust it down to hell
I may express myself strongly-but have I
not a right to do so ? Nay, is it not my duty
to do so How many young women have
been employed at the toilet or in reading Byron
or Bulwer, just to while away that time God
had given them for the sole purpose of enabling
them to match a younger brother, sister or de-
pendent, from eternal woe I On how many wo-
men young as yourself and situated like your-
selfl has time hung so heavily, that they did not
seem to know what to do with it, except by
murdering it, and thus adding to it another
crime, equally heinous;-that of practically
murdering one or more of those immortal spir-
its for whom time was made I
Woman made to rule the world ? And does
this mean no more than the frequent fulsome
compliment, Woman is pretty ? How is she to
rule it ? And when and where is she to begin,
if not in the family Is she to lear first the
art of murdering time, and influence, and spirit
itself? Or is she to learn it at the threshold







90 GIT BooK FOB YovTG LAmIs.

of her existence? Is she to rule as Cain did?
or shall the example of Cain, with five thou-
sand years of additional experience, recorded
in sacred and profane history, teach her a bet-
.ter lesson 7
Do you say, by way of reply, that all this
devolves, by God's appointment, on your pa-
rents-that they have experience in education
and guidance which you cannot, of course, be
expected to possess-and that Scripture and
reason and common sense, aye, and conscience
herself, unite in proclaiming them to be the
rulers of the family; and not the brother or the
sister?
Your objection may seem plausible, but is
it satisfactory ? Parents are the rulers of their
children according to your statement; and are
appointed to be so. And this appointment is
on account of their superior age, power, and
experience. But does this conflict at all with
your sphere of action 7 Rather, does the rule
you are to bear, convict at all with theirs?
Does it not, on the contrary, tend to sustain
and strengthen it ?
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ASSOCIATES IN THE FAMILY.


Suppose every elder son and daughter in the
whole world were to co-operate with parents,
and with the great Redeemer, in the work of
training each younger child in the way he
should go; how long would it be before every'
land would become Emanuel's 7 How long
before holiness to the Lord would be every
where written? How long before the whole
earth would again bloom, as one mighty
Eden 7
Observe, if you please, that you are not
required to do, in the family, what you cmnot,
but only what you can. You are not required,
in fact, to lay aside your labors, or even your
amusements. If it were so, your objection
would have more weight. You are to take
care of yourself in the first place, no doubt.
All you have to do is, while thus taking care
of yourself, to do what you'can for others.
And this brings me to a practical part of
my letter, which is the ways and means of
exerting that rule of which I have been speak-
ing. For to young women who have, as has
been admitted, but a very limited experience,
it is not to be expected general assertions or







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abstract statements will be sufficient. They
ask, and are entitled to receive more specific
directions.
Let me say, however, negatively, m the
outset, that you are not to tule over the young-
er brother or sister by mere reasoning with
them, or by any landmarks, verbal or written.
You ae not to accomplish your work-fulfil
your mission-so much by direct efforts, of
any sort, as by more indirect means and
measures.
The first thing to which I will direct your
attention is their amusements. Join them, as
much as you can, in their little plays. Surely
you can demean yourself in this way, for a
few moments-can you not? What though
you are their superior in age by twelve, or
twenty years ? Old as I am, I could not only
endure most of their amusements, but, had I
time to spare for it, could actually enjoy them.
In doing this, however, be a little careful,
especially at first, not to interfere, too much,
with their own free agency. Children, like
some other animals, are more easily led than
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good example-one of truth, fairness, equity,
and kindness. Teach them, even, by good
language, by gentle tones, and kind looks.
One thing should be said preliminary to all
this, however. You need, in the beginning
and all the way through, to have the love of
infancy and childhood. Without this, you
will accomplish but little. Most women,
indeed, possess this qualification; but there
are some anomalies-not to say monsters-in
creation. I have even heard of a few who
actually hated children. But you, as I well
know, are not of that unhappy number.
Never suppose it is beneath your dignity to
be found amusing yourself in the company of
young children. It was, I believe, oe of the
king Henrys, who, on being caught at play
with his child, made an apology. But no
apology wal needed from a father. Still less
would it be needed from a mother or a sister.
And if fondness for the young should be in
you a little deficient, it is a plant which can be
easily cultivated. Nothing is needed, if you
have consciece on your side, and regard it as
a matter of duty, but to begin to be with them
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and watch over them. The more you Ido this,
the more you will-be interested in them, and
even love them. Doing good always produces
love. And, remember, that the great motive
I have presented to usge you to this work, is
the desire to do good to the young-to be a
missionary among them, and mould their
characters. -
Nor need you be discouraged by a little
roughness, and even rudeness on the part of
the young, especially boys. You have already
taught school long enough, to be somewhat
acquainted, in this respect, with human nature.
Besides, it is precisely because human nature
is not what it should be, that your influence
and example will be peculiarly valuable.
You have heard perhaps a story of Plato
and his disolute nephew. The latter had be-
come so openly and deeply vicious that his
friends, all but Plato, disowned him--practi-
cally turned him out of doors. The latter
took him in. When his friends remonstrated,
Plato replied: My object in taking him into
my family was to show him, by example, bow
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The same spirit, and the samb object it is
that I aim at, principally, in tecommendiug
you 1tjoin in the sports of your infantile and
childish associates. But there are a thousand
places and circumstances besides at their
sports, in which you can show them by your
example, how much better it is to do well than
to do ilL Seize on all such opportunities and
make the most of them.
And if need requires that I should say so,
you have very high example and authority for
doing thus with the young. Our Saviour did
not hesitate, again and again, to notice little
children. He took them up in his arms put
his hands upon them, and blessed them. Will
you, then, refuse to bless them, as fat a you
cant Will you, above all, refuse their society,
or think it beneath you to mingle in it in order
to dogood










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