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 Front Cover
 Frontispiece
 Title Page
 Preface
 Table of Contents
 Why do ye live
 Just views of life
 Character of associates
 The rose and the clay
 Social intercourse
 Home
 Filial duties
 A contrast
 Idle daughters
 Youth
 Reveries and Government of the...
 The ivy
 Politeness in conversation
 A parable
 Little things
 Temper
 Kindness
 Michael Angelo
 General reading
 Study of the scriptures
 General cultivation
 Duties of women to their count...
 Humility
 Courtesy
 Extract
 Dress
 Requisition for the toilet
 Personal habits
 Conduct during matrimonial...
 The lady's reverie
 Back Cover
 Spine






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Table of Contents
    Front Cover
        Front Cover 1
        Front Cover 2
    Frontispiece
        Frontispiece
    Title Page
        Page i
        Page ii
    Preface
        Page iii
        Page iv
    Table of Contents
        Page v
        Page vi
    Why do ye live
        Page 7
        Page 8
    Just views of life
        Page 9
        Page 10
    Character of associates
        Page 11
        Page 12
        Page 13
    The rose and the clay
        Page 14
    Social intercourse
        Page 15
        Page 16
        Page 17
        Page 18
    Home
        Page 19
        Page 20
        Page 21
        Page 22
        Page 23
        Page 24
    Filial duties
        Page 25
        Page 26
        Page 27
        Page 28
        Page 29
        Page 30
        Page 31
    A contrast
        Page 32
        Page 33
        Page 34
    Idle daughters
        Page 35
    Youth
        Page 36
        Page 37
    Reveries and Government of the thoughts
        Page 38
        Page 39
    The ivy
        Page 40
        Page 41
    Politeness in conversation
        Page 42
        Page 43
        Page 44
        Page 45
        Page 46
        Page 47
        Page 48
        Page 49
        Page 50
        Page 51
    A parable
        Page 52
        Page 53
        Page 54
    Little things
        Page 55
    Temper
        Page 56
        Page 57
        Page 58
        Page 59
        Page 60
        Page 61
        Page 62
        Page 63
        Page 64
        Page 65
        Page 66
        Page 67
    Kindness
        Page 68
    Michael Angelo
        Page 69
    General reading
        Page 70
        Page 71
        Page 72
        Page 73
        Page 74
        Page 75
        Page 76
        Page 77
    Study of the scriptures
        Page 78
        Page 79
        Page 80
        Page 81
    General cultivation
        Page 82
        Page 83
    Duties of women to their country
        Page 84
        Page 85
    Humility
        Page 86
        Page 87
        Page 88
    Courtesy
        Page 89
        Page 90
        Page 91
        Page 92
    Extract
        Page 93
    Dress
        Page 94
        Page 95
        Page 96
        Page 97
        Page 98
        Page 99
        Page 100
        Page 101
        Page 102
        Page 103
        Page 104
        Page 105
        Page 106
    Requisition for the toilet
        Page 107
    Personal habits
        Page 108
        Page 109
        Page 110
        Page 111
        Page 112
        Page 113
        Page 114
    Conduct during matrimonial engagements
        Page 115
        Page 116
        Page 117
        Page 118
        Page 119
        Page 120
        Page 121
        Page 122
        Page 123
        Page 124
    The lady's reverie
        Page 125
        Page 126
        Page 127
        Page 128
    Back Cover
        Page 129
    Spine
        Page 130
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NASHUA, N. H.
PUBLISHED T J. M. ILETIIOOB
1860.









































































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PREFACE.


ha been the aim of the compiler of
little work, to peant to the minds of
'oung a few important thought, which
it aid them in the attraiment of that
Silence which all desire, and which all
Id puanrsue, as intelligent and account-
beings. A united train of ideas, or a
m for practice, has not been attempted.
these, the reader is referred to many
lent volumes, quotations from which
enriched the scceeeding pages; and
rould earnestly recommend the thought-
ad attentive penual of these works to
rontm readers.-- feeling aured that





IT rrIMACB.
they will be not only entertained, but essen-
tisly benedted thereby. In this volume
are presented a few of the many subjects
which merit, by their importance, the con-
sideration of youthful females. That these
may stimulate them to a practical inveti-
gtion of all those point which relate to
their duty a Christian females, i the in-
ere dese of the compiler.





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CONTENTS.




Why do ye Ive ............ Amemyou *.
Ju Thwm or Uf .....*.. o ....... 9
Obum(er ot Akoe ...... Aamymous *... U
Tbh Rom md h OClay ..... Aomymo.- -- 14
sodaIInm s .......... Chi ..... U
Hoar ...................... A on y o .... 1
HIW Duae -**** ....... .H. tEtm .... I
A Coontsdt ............ AoAymoua *...
IdeDaugbh .e. ..-......f. *M arb ..... .
youth ....................*.. M Chapo..-
Revet .................... TlatU* .... 8
Goowrnmet oi th hougbht-.Ab~u mble.. U
Tbe IV .................... e o .......
Polbamus n CcavelAh-. .* Aumt ........
APamble ................... Pua .....
Ue T p ................ Amnymo ....
fmpw .......... ....... a.e. .
Ilmun .................. Anmomow ....
MieLr Agelo ............. Ano.my ....
eeMl eadIng .......... CoOn...... 10







ri COMTENTB.

Itudy of the Serip M ...... M MiN JOwb 78
nal Celtivaton ......... Anonymous.... 8
Duties of Womn to thelr
Country.................. Aonymous.... 8-
Humulty .................. 0. Fry ......... 86
Ooay ................. Anonymous .... 80
t t .................... *** Burke ........ 98
[rews....................... 1el Oldm5... 91
Requisd~ n ar thi Tolet. ... *Annymous .. .. 107
P.eoMlDb HabL ...........0.. e BcOher. 108
conduct during Matrmhoni
w a,,. t................ MaMy........ 116
Th ladyj's Resel .......... A. W. Maylln-- 12













THI





WIT DOTZ LV.
ASl your young heMrt, DnoW M1tadi ,
What your lowly m r hr b-;
What saooont you hbv to render,
For the lif yjo hold so der.
"Woman's lot b on you" reaing;
Woman's noble heirt youn;
You must prov a mers, or bliag,
Whill your loininn emaduM.
Why aten Uve; If not to labr,
Tolng on wh all your alIht,
mor you good, or br your Mghbor,
Rting ot by day or nlh?
Why Hle on; a not Iner"in
The mind's waflth a prIeelm as -
At a natnals, nevr eMulg,







TH YOUNG LADT.

Woman bth a lot more noble
Than to be admired, and die;
He's the slender arm and heble,
That supports whe none ualh.
By the bed of pain and nguis,
Soothing iW with ord of lon;
WbhW the sorow-Nrick a lueagh,
Pointlnl to a rat above :
Where re dark minds none as teaehing,
Thouh most lowly be their lot;
Where an children none re esnMhig,
Outomts, by the world farpot;
Diamonds In the deep mine lying,
BIe seek lor the RAvlour's brown;
owers in desert, withering, dying,
She should water though unknown;

When ab orphan, poor and bhmle,
Hu no hand to wipe the er;
Where the widow, lone and fltndless,
Prays, with noe but Heaven to he r;
Whies tse e weat, or wee, or suMfIla
Hear tlt word o fadnesw ed;
Deeds of love, with no nturlla,
2mee does womwe's mission 1 lead.
Not a cerw of arth iy Slay
Ado dte, or dh meed ft (hme;







WrTn Do T IzV. 9

Not to live song o tory,
Sun of an undying nae.
Her' the rore, ivr bring,
Her nrward, the mie of Ijo, -
Her humble nam at lut appeafa
In the '" ook af Ih" aboe.
Girl, this path is now bei e yoa;
Thee, the reaous why you Ihe;
Bright the bow of preml o'r yom;
To the work your whole soal gi.
Look above; tthaN 's lory breaklg
On the pathway to the ski ;
By the Cror of Chrit its iskid
You along wthm duty bM.
---.-A

Jmi YVIW or LIm.
Do not suppose that I ma o throw a
blight over the cheerfulness and inmoo t
enjoyments of youth, when I maintain Bht
the great end of our existene should dalw
be kept in view, as a polar str, by wiAdi t
teer every little bark, weighted with a
immortal spirit, into the haven of eral






10 TlM TomUN L~T.

materials for happiness, and that all of 1
might have enjoyed far more of it than v
have done, had we been but faithful to oi
own interests. By the indulgence of oi
pervere wills, or stubborn determination,
frequently involve ourselves, and all col
neeted with us, in a long train of sorrow
which it was entirely in our own power 1
have avoided. This "life is only mela
choly," says an interesting writer, when
cease to regard it as a vestibule to another
it is only dangerous when we are unwillim
so to regard it." It is painful to behold
youngperon without cheerfulness, or buo:
ancy of pirits. The young of the bra
creation ar characterized by sportivene
and glee; and,so fr was our gracous Fat
er from requiring any of his creatures, b
especially the young, to honor him by clot]
ing themselves in sackcloth and ashes, th
he explicitly promied to his ancient people
as one of his prophetic blessing, that I d
streets of the city should be full of bo;
and irls, playing in the streets threot"






oauorH n o0 AsCoozATUr. 11

CRAXAOIAC OF AUOUIATMU.
T~ we consider how strong a disposition
there i in every heart to imitation, so that
persons are almost ure to become like thoee
with whom they amodate, like them in
disposition, in manners, in feellngs,-it
will at once be obvious how important it
will be to choose for companions those who
have good actions, and noble sentiments,
and virtuous feelings, to recommend them.
SSociety is the great nure of helping and
intellect Words spoken in hours of relax
nation and idleness never die; they ail upon
the heart when all is calm and uarnaed,
and sink down into its lowest recess.
They may seem to have been fpgottn,
seem to have mde no impression; but
they soon germinate in that oil, ad a
quickly bring forth fruit.
Teachers in all age have been eloquat
on the power of society; knowing well that
upon It depended whether the instrucion
they had been giving to the young mind






IS TUU Youo LADT.

would be of any avail or not. And, with
equal force, the inspired penman has regis-
tered the same truth: "He that walketh
with wise men shall be wise," and, with
equal truth, the great champion of Christi-
anity writes: "Be not deceived; evil com-
munications corrupt good manners." Each,
then, distinctly states that a person will
assimilate, or grow like to those with whom
they form a friendship, both in disposition
and feeling. There cannot be a good
understanding between persons who hold
opinions and principles exactly opposite;
there will be felt in the mind,a tort of nn-
asiness lest utterance should be given to
sentiments with which, it is well known,
your companion disagree. Then there
will arise the wish to stand well with them;
and this can never be done until those opin-
ions which they dislike ar got rid of or
abandoned.
But, wherever you see any one posse
a amiable disposition, una~ected mekness,






cAItorTU of AUsooIATrs. II

and unostentatious goodness, with that per
son should yon be solicitous to form s
acquaintance;-one possessing a disposi
tion more ready to praise than to blmne, a
disposition which "thinketh no ill of a
neighbor," and which is ready to look at the
bright rather than at the dark side of others
characters. In choosing a fiend, yot
should look at the heart, and let not the
most showy accomplishments be an apol.
ogy for insincerity or hollowness; on the
contrary, see that virtue and piety have
their throne there, and then may you ex.
pect your friendship to bring happiness an
joy. With such a one you may hold sweo
converse; and in all the trials which Ul tu
the lot of humanity, you will find in such a
Miend succor and consolation.
The friendship of true friends increase
with the opportunities of sharing kindness
and commiseration. With them, the greMta
the need, the more their kindnesses iim se
and the more disinterested will their on






14 THU YOUNG LADY.

luet appear. ike heroic warriors, they
wrold throw their shields over a wounded
iend, though, in so doing, they leae their
)wn breast exposed to danger.


TI ROB AID A I CLAY.
Oxw of the most eminent authors and
hilosophers has told the following little
able, in order to illustrate the great advan-
ages which are to be derived from keeping
company with the wise and virtuous.
" As I entered the bath one day, a friend
resented me with a piece of perfumed clay.
Swas so pleased with the rare odor that I
xacldamed, 'In what favored region of the
srth wast thou found I am enraptured
with thy heavenly fragrance I' It modestly
plied, 'I am nothing bat common clay;
bat I had the good fortune to lie for many
Wna at the foot of a roebush, and the
wee influence of so ldoe an intimacy has
roduced this effect upon me which you ad-








dre; or else, in truth, I should hare been
thing but a lump of worthless day, a is
y nature.' "


SOCIAL IazroOVu .
THa z is a false necessity with which we
idustriously surround ourselves; circle
iat never expands; whose iron never
changes to ductile gold. This i the pres-
ace of public opinion; the intolerable re-
taint of conventional form. Under this
espotic influence, men and women check
heir best impulses, suppress their highest
thoughts. Each longs fa ffall communion
ith other souls, b dares not give utter-
ace to its yearnings. What hinder~
he fear of what Mrs. Smith or Mrs. Clark
ill say; or the frown of some seet; or the
mathema of some synod; or the haion of
)me clique; or the laugh of some club;
r the misrepresentation of some political
rty. Thou art aaid of thy neighbor,


LWMU






16 THA YOUNG LADY.

and knowest not that he is equally afraid
of thee. He has bound thy hands, and thou
hast fettered his feet. It were wiser for
both to snap the imaginary bond, and walk
onward unshackled.
If thy heart yearns for love, be loving;
if thon wouldst free mankind, be free; if
thou wouldst have a brother frank to thee,
be frank with him.
But what will people say ?
What does it concern thee what they say 1
thy life is not in their hands. They can
give thee nothing of real value, nor take
from thee any thing that is worth having.
Satan may promise thee all the kingdoms
of the earth, but he has not one acre of it
to give. He may offer much as the price
of his worship, but there is a flaw in all his
title-deeds. Eternal and sure is the praise:
"Blessed ae the meek, for they shall in-
berit the earth."
But I shall be misunderstood-misrep-
rasntd.








And what if thou art They who throw
tones at what is above them, receive the
issiles beck again, by the law of gravity;
nd lucky are they who bruise not their
wn faces. Would that I could persuade
11 who read this to be truthful and free;
Ssay what they think, and act what they
mel; to cast from them, like ropes of sand,
11 fear of sects and parties, and clans and
lasses.
What is there of joyful freedom in our
oial intercourse ? We meet to se each
their; and not a peep do we get under the
hick, stifling reil which each carrie about
im. We visit to enjoy ourselves, and our
oat takes away all our freedom, while we
stroy his own. If the hot wihes to work
r ride, he dar not, lot it eem impoll
Sthe gest; so they remain slave, and
eI it a relefto part company. A fw indi-
iduals, moely in oreig lands, aiMng
is matter with wiser freedom. If a visd
r rive, they sy, "I am very buy Wt
qa; if yea wish to ride, there ae hoes


wmllmm






18 T]H TOOUNG LADT.

and saddles in the stables ; if you wish
red, there are books in the parlor; if y
want to work, the men are raking hay
the fields ; if you want to romp, the childr
are at play in the court; if you want to tg
to me, I can be with you at such an hoi
Go where you please, and, while you i
here, do as you please."
At some houses in Florence, large part
meet without the slightest preparation.
is understood that on some particular er
ing of the week, a lady, or a gentlenu
always receive their friends. In one roc
are books and flowers; in another, pictum
and engravings; in another, music. Cov
le are ensconced in some shaded alcove,
gropes dotted about the room, in mirthf
or erios conversation. No one is require
to speak to his boat, either entering
departing. Lemonade, and baskets of fi
stand here and there on the side-tables, tl
all may take who like; but sting, whi
eontitute so large a part of Amerk
etertainments, is a slight, and almost x






ROMI. 19

noticed incident in these festivals of Intel-
lect and taste. Wouldst thou like to ee
such social freedom introduced here I Then
do it But the first step must be, complete
indifference to Mrs. Smith's assertion, that
you are mean enough to offer only one kind
of cake to your company, and to put less
shortening in the under-crust of your pies,
than in the upper. Let Mn. Smith talk
according to her gifts; be thou assured
that al living souls love freedom better than
cakes or undercrust


HOIX.
LaT what will be said of the pleasrs
of society, there is after all, "no place like
home." How beautiful are the relation-
ships of home I How exquisitely touhing
to the feelings I All are linked to each
other by the mot intimate and endearing
ties; a pow like that of electricity seem
to run through the hmily group; so that
one cannot enjoy please, without the






MO THE YOUNG LADT.

others participating therein; one cann
sorrow, but all must mourn; nor one b
honored, but all must share the joy.
And as home is that place which has th
strongest ties upon the feelings, so it is th
place in which woman has the power of ea
erting her influence in the greatest degree
This is her true and proper station; th
duties of home are peculiarly hers; and le
it not be thought that, in assigning home a
the appropriate sphere for her action, w
are assigning her a mean and an ignoble
part. It is, in truth, far otherwise. Th
sphere of her operation may be a limited
one; but a many rivers make up th
ocean's waters, so the cojuntion of man
homes makes up the world; and, therefot
in performing her dties at home, she i
performing her part in the world at large
and, a a ma carries with him, through tb
world, those same habits and feelings b
ha gathered in his home-and as thee
habie and feeling ae principally derive
brom the infuece of woman-womma,






DoMr. S1

perlbrming her home duties, takes a v-
share in the concern of the community.
Equally to mothers and daughten is i
true, that they should concern themselves
in domestic economy; for, in so doing, theI
are performing their duties, adding to their
own happiness, and making home a plea
where the feelings of a family meet in peace
harmony, and love.
A sister should share all the plans an(
prospects of her brother, striving to add tu
his happiness, and to contribute to his pleas
ures. She will often become his oonldent
the keeper of his secrts; and, if he fo
feit not his esteem, she will obtain a vaM
power as a monitrss ad adviser, o the
she may guide him to homor, and stirulat
his exertions to noble pupoes; sad home
to bim, will be endued with a spedal char
beamse made radiant with a sister' love.
To her steps, also, she may prove taO
fead, especially if the eldet. By nater
hbe is endowed to teach, mentally and mor
ally, ths yoaner than heiams 8






S TH T YOUNG LADY.

eams to share one mind and one heart with
he rst of her sisters, so that they sem to
take alike of joys and sorrows -joy
nd sorrows particularly their own, and
ach u no stranger intermeddles with.
rhus, then, may she teach piety, virtue,
empasion, and love; and by never letting
word of jealousy, envy, or ill-will, escape
rom her own lips, she thereby puts a seal
ipon the lips of others; and by her own
;entlenes of manner and speech, forbids
very thing of rudeness or clamor; and
hos does she give to home a beauty and
traction which neither wealth nor rank
an purchase,- creating happy face and
contented hearts; and this is mantling both
er own and her siter's cheeks with beauty,
- a beauty of worth and virtue, a beauty
rhich will last long after the tints of youth
ave faded, that true beauty, which arise
hom purity of mind and goodness of heart.
So might woman, in various capacities,
ot upon home, and make it literally an
ins in the desert a bright and peaoel






moxa. S
spot in the midst of dark and stormy
world.
There is a moral beauty in the relation-
ship of woman, at every period of her lif;
but this beauty displays itself nowhere so
much as at home. That venerable woman,
the representative of the past generation,
who its in the majesty of age before the bre,
and who, after having seen her family st-
tied in life, and closed her husband's yes,
has come to die in the home of her daash.
ter, -even in that grey-haired woman
there is a moral beauty; a thousand hal-
lowed asociations are surrounding her,
making her beautiful, though her eye has
lost its brightness, and wrinkles cover bh
cheek. And that fair-haired girl, who i
kneeling at the old woman's feet, is she
not beautiful, as, in the simplicity of child-
hood, she awaiteth her evening blessih
And that matronly woman, who is aadhig
her sleeping babe to her bosom, how bea-
full iabsI beautiful though the tit at
youth mwe And the uncomilo babe






6 THE YOUNG LADY.

hw beautiful is that beautiful in its
nnocency and helplessnes. All are beau-
itll The decayed and the expanded
lower, the blossom, and the bud, all are
eautifl. There is a moral sublimity and
Meaty which the most exquisitely tinted
batare could not give, and which neither
e nor pitaineMs f hatures can take
way. Whereafre, then should women be
e eager before the world, to display their
hrms, upon which the eye rests but for a
moment, and then seeks for another, when,
y the mee assoations and links of
tMe, there is a moral beauty upon which
he mind can dwell, and experience the
reter delight, the more it contemplates
be entaning picture I
It B not mueh the world an give
Wikh altab bt art,
Ad gold or ms an not the thip
To dlu tt sowt:
B 0! It these who lustr Muo
The altar, sad the earth,
He senat* wvorde md b snf fls,






FILIAL DUTIJ.


TAn duties arising from this sad
elation, are thus forcibly and justly pre-
mented by a late writer: -
The first lesson which you should learn,
text to the fear of God, is filial reverence.
'Honor thy father and mother; that it
nay be well with thee, and that thou
nayest live long on the earth," is the first
command with promise. Repeated are
uch commands; promises, large and grs-
ious, are connected with flial obedience
ad filial respect; curses, bitter and en-
luring, have been pronounced upon those
rho neglect or disobey this duty. Paul
lasses with "all unrighteousness and
Border," the crime of disobeying parents.
In an especial manner should daughters
ativate and exercise this trait of charac-
SItis this with habits of order ind
aib.lnd with a disposition cheerful
I owrds all that makes a






96 Tan TOUo LADY.

charm which in so delightful Secured I
youth, such accomplishments impart a
tractive beauty to that rosy period, whit
fades not in the sere and yellow leaf c
old age. If you are not so distinguish
in early lift, you will inevitably be charm
terized for rebellion, peevish ill-humor,
narrow-minded selfishness, with all thoa
bad traits which make a disagreeable
companion and an unwelcome associate
These are the briar and thorns which
spring spontaneously upon that soil froi
which the hand of culture could hav
extracted the bloom and fragrance a
unfading beauty.
Young ladies desire to be regarded a
amiable and good-tempered, polite an
courteous. It is their desire to seem I
be familiar with the accomplishments c
elevated life. They wish to secure th
esteem of the world. At least, whe
abroad, these excellent accomplishment
seem of great value. It is, however, tr
thatthome charm which attract the a s








ger, and win for the wearer such applause,
are not always displayed at home. Like
the gems of the toilet, they grace the
drwingroom of the stranger, and not the
fireside of home. They attract and de-
light the beholder, but they give no charm
to every-day life. In the slattern's dress,
the loose, untidy garb, the petulant tone,
and the disrespectful remark, one would in
vain attempt to recognize the distinguished
young lady of the evening before, whose
elegant attire, modest mien, respeetidl and
subdued conversation, and great amiable-
ness, secured such applause, and won so
many hearts. Parents and brothers often
igh for those amiable and afretionate a
complishments which abroad gave the
daughter and sister such a reputation for
all that was lovely and reined.
Let me impress upon you the duty of
cheering your own home, and spreading
there that charm which your requirements
enable you to spread abrod. To your
.um t be habitally resueed a and obe-






U8 Tn YroUNG LADT.

dient; to your relatives, be unifo
obliging and courteous; and then at I
and abrod you will be, in truth, all
you seem to be.
I regret to record the fact, that a
young women there is much filial
aspect. Language is used, terms empk
and a temper manifested towards par
at war with all that is amiable, and
the moat positive commands of reli4
There is often a wilfulnes, a tyrann
be abhorred u well as condemned.
A young woman of great pen
beauty had an indulgent parent. No ]
had been spared to place at her dis
whatever accomplishment she chose.
her mind was deformed, her temper
her spirit unoontrollod; though no
took more pains than herself, to indue
to believe that she was the moot ami
of her sex. hitting by herel, one
in the library, she fbt a hand laid liI
upon her shoulder. Presming th
wa her father, she eelaimed, Go a






VILIAL DOUTI-.L

u old plague. I wish you would let me
me I" As she looked up, she saw the
3 of a gentleman whose good opinion
e was extremely anxious to secure.
ashing deeply, she exclaimed, "Pray
cause my rudeness, sir. I thought it
us pa!"
You may command attention, young
lies, and secure admiration, by the tate
th which you adorn your person. The
shoe of your mind, intellect, and elo-
lence, may impress and awe the beholder;
t you will win your way to the heart of
i one, except you are amiable and
spectful Home is the nusery of all the
urtesies of life; of all the virtues that
lorn the state. A daughter, eudhmed
id adcetiobm makes home hiap, sa
Tre high promise for the future. A
ghter undisciplined and amiable, will
honor her family mad dispagn her a.
While the pulsations of life beat, you
amot repay the watchful me sad an-
ish that have been borme for yeO. Those






80 THB YOUNG LADY.

who have borne them for you, have cla
upon your most devoted and earnest gr
tade and love. There is an eye i
watched over your earliest slumbers
hand that rocked you to your earliest
pose; a voice that soothed you to y
sweetest rest; a heart that loved you
helplessness, that wept over your sorry
and would have borne all your grief
that eye, that hand, that heart, y
earliest, constant, most especial ackno
edgments ae due. God says, "The
that mocketh at his father, and despi
to obey his mother, the ravens of
valley shall pluck it out, and the yoi
eagle shall eat it."
No grief can equal that which par
fbel when they do not receive that reqs
ftom their children, which is their due.
hrpur tiea a erpat' tooth it
o have a aklU emUm."
If to strangers you manifest a read
to display those accomplishments wh
have been provided for you, at mi








pense--perhaps at grt sacrle--
bile you refuse the grati~cation to your
rents, or yield a reluctant or ill-humored
mpliaee, you are ungrateful. But who
a fathom that deeper-seated sorrow which
parents feel, when their daughters tread
e paths of folly; chase, day by day, the
lantom of pleasure; overstep the laws
,propriety; put far from them the re-
raints of virtue; or put beneath their feet
Susanctions of a religious life 1 Vividly
mould the truth be impressed upon you,
at such conduct lodge poisoned arrows
a the hearts of your parent, and plants
morn upon the pillows of those who love
DuwelL
Next to the fer of God, fill piety is an
moment the most precious that a female
i wear. It guides youthful hands to pro-
de for, and to bless the father and
another. It prompt to self-dnial, to
make othi happy. It take the young
im th halls of pleare, to stand beide
as Oemk ( aiknemss, to spek words of







comfort, and smooth the pillow and 1
path of life. Such conduct all admi
and God will bless. Did it become me
describe a happy home, it would be that
which love has an empire, and affection
throne; in which God is remembered
the morning and evening sacrifice;
which children are respectful and kin
a home where sisters dwell, and broth
meet in love. In such a family, with su
children, a much of Paradise as remain
to Mlen man, will be found. Happy tI
home so blessed happy such parent
bleed sich children I And sch a ho
young ladies, you can create You o
call down upon the hearth-stone wbh
you dwell blessing fro him who
ovr is bet'r man lif.


A OO3WIUT,
IT was a handsome sal splendidly
mnled room Crtmsea ourmins we
gesmhl 6 old to t L oor, wheM v






A COTrrAw 3

ad by a crpe of the nAest and rieb
mamship. There were bread mirrors,
luxuriant coaches, sad tasteful oto-
I. Therwere books with georgeous
ings; and the walls were ornamented
me and costly paintings.
man, in the prime of life, was alone
e apartment. He seemed listless and
sy. After taking up, one after another,
several volmes, seemingly with an
t to eape fkom enni, he rose ad
hed a bell-cord. On a servant ap-
lg in answer to the summons, he
hired for his dghters. They were
As the door losed n the servant,
aid, half load, "Ot; yes, thAy r
ya ot when these is no company at
&. Iecarealy ee much of them
rwe oe of heir visiting eoquaint-
i" Bo saying, with a dicotesed ir,
rew himself apon a moch.
re will ow look upon other sem.
Sa small amd meeoy f1railed sem
a bemt emrp, s or elya hoe-

3






84 TEM TOUNG LADT.

made hearth-rug, but its painted floor
perfectly clean. A small mirror hanq
on a bran nail, between two window
and two smaller pictures ornament a spa
above the shelf over the fireplace. TI
chairs are of plain wood, but of conv
Went form, and two of them are stuff
and covered with patch. A young girl
in the room, busily employed in need
work. Soon, a fine-looking, intelligent
man, whose hair is slightly tinctured wi
gray, enters. The young girl welcome
him with a sweet smile, and throwit
asde her work, draws one of the stnffl
hair toward the fre. I am afraid th
you are very much tired, father said sh
" I have bean expecdn you for more thi
an hour."
"No, not vry much," replied her fath<
ending her with a look of safectio
"but I was unexpectedly detained.
you an pare time to read to me a little,
rhall sooBn eel qunie refreshed."
"Crlaly," said the young irl, S






IDLI DAURO TUs. 85

Ing from the table a plainly bond
tme of Christian biography, she was
n engaged in reading aloud.
The man whose wealth had reared and
wished the splendid room, was brother to
owner of this small apartment. They
re sons of the same father; and the
rid wondered why the former had pro*-
ed so much more abundantly than the
ar. So imperfectly does the world
apreheud the nature of true prosperity.


IDIW DAV1 GR.
T is a most painsl specte, in fsmi-
where the mother is the dredge, to see
daughters elegantly dressed, redlning
their eae, with their drawing, their
*ic, their nbacy work, and their reading;
lingg tbhneele of the lape of hours,
S and weeks, "ad neoer dre ing of
r responsibilities; but, as a me ary
eqece of the neglect of duty, grow-
at drI. .M-1mu 11-s la..".






86 THU YOUON LADT.

hold of every newly-invented stimulan
rouse their drooping energies, and blam
their fate, when they blame their God
having placed them where they are.
These individuals will often tell I
with an air of affected compassion (
who can believe it real ? ) that poor, d
mamma is working herself to death.
Yet no sooner do you propose that tl
should assist her, than they declare she
quite in her element. In short, that
would never be happy if she had only I
as much to do.

TOTTH.
In any young woman wastes, in tri
amusements, the prime season for impro
meant, which Is between the ages of sixt
and twenty, they hereafter regret bt
the loss, whe they come to hel themsel
interior in knowledge to ahnost every <
they converse with; and, above ll, if t
snhil ar h mandthm whmn trhaw &m d






TOUTS. 8T

their children, they find ignorance a severe
mortification, and a real evil. Let this ai-
mate their industry; and let a modest opin-
ion of their capdcties he an encouragement
to them in their endeavors after knowledge.
A moderate understanding, with diligent
and well-directed application, will go much
farther than a more lively genius, if attended
with that impatience and inattention which
too often accompany quick parts. It is not
for want of capacity that so many women
are such trifing, insipid companions, so ill-
qualified for the friendship and conversation
of a sensible man, or for the task of govern-
ing and instructing a family; it is often
from the neglect of exercising the talents
which they really have, and fom omitting
to cultivate a taste for intellectual improve-
ment. By this nset they lose the sin-
cerest pleasures which would remain when
almost every other forsakes them, of which
neither fortune nor age can deprive them,
and which would be a eombrt and rour
in almost every possible itusaio in f k.






38 THB TOUNG LADY.


Tnh faculty of attention is often impaired
for life by habitual reverie. When you &a
employed with your needle, fair reader, yo
are often building chataur d'Espane, an
may think it hard to be denied the deliciot
enjoyment The trifling mechanical en
ployment of the fingers, is a gentle promote
of thought; and many an hour may pau
most profitably to the mind, in this manne
if the thoughts are rightly directed. Rece
some book that you have studied; analyi
It; compare it with whatever else you hai
read on the same subject Or take sonr
subject of practical moment, contentment
for instance; arrange in order all the rei
sons you have Ior it; count over the ric
blessings that cluster around you, nnt
your heart overflows wi gratitude.


GOYrIIVuI OF THE THOUGHT
Taus is not a greater difference between
one man and another, than in the manni






GOVERNMENT or TEH THOUGHTS. 39

in which they exercise their power over the
succession of the thoughts, and in the sub-
jects to which they are habitually directed
It is a mental exercise which lies at the
foundation of the whole moral condition.
He who, in early life, seriously enters upon
it, under a sense of its supreme importance,
who trains himself to habits of close and
connected thinking, and exerts a strict con-
trol over the subjects to which his thoughts
are habitually directed, leading them to
such as are really worthy of his regard, and
banishing all such as are of afrivolous, impue,
or degmding character;-this is he who is
pursuing the highest of all earthly acquie-
ments, the culture of the understanding,
and the discipline of the heart. This due
regulation, and stern control, of the proes-
ses of the mind, is indeed the foundation
of all that is high and excellent in the for-
mation of character. He who does not ear
nestly exercise it, but who allows his mind
to wander a it may be led by its own ind-






40 Tr roUoX LADY.

the infence of external things to which
is continually exposed, endanger his 1
et interest, both a an intellectual ai
moral being. "Keep thy heart witl
diligeme," says the acred writer, "for
of it are the issue of life."

TXR IVY.
Does th ot love the *m o s pri~g,
To twne thee a Mower wreath,
And to m the beutal biroh-taL e a
It sadi m tla grb s breneth ?
Ib glaosy le, and its *lery rmn,
0 dot thou not lov to look on thain
And doot tho aot lov rwhena lha are pe
And u hus Just begun,
Wim, in the ih ec tr mo oMiglt, thao a
Whom pumi 'resujon,
To me, by "hat iot and pau Iom,
The willows bead down to th sparklHg ia
Aid 0! It a lovely amummm day,
WhLe lohess n ehni ing t au m e,
Do mot mus's ihar, u t'hy lowly &-
hed their own mld lanoMene o'L thee
And hbet thou not Bh, thoua toodt to I
Thae tLueahg hm -me dbls ?






2D ITT.

It thoum be aGm, as an Mpb IN ,
And ii his h m tm wi me,
Whm 69 bOam= d been n we m
MIM
As thoy mIe m e a be;
TO 4lak St I N&k hs to phy y bet,
Prhap I se beauty whno thou doe not.

HSa tham si, rtw n 'si tmiem y,
The nmsk rt a bfUghid aek,
N4M bdi, but wtlag l inlr desy,
memoth e's WmL s*rok,
Round wkk th*e luzet Ivy b d grma,
And wmrthdIt i bauty no loun r s own ?

PPmbuenh thoa hba m thh bight, ad them,
As Iathl a Ip a te,
Po1et aelnly by, -e 111d aga,
-s aset wse 0a1 view:
mow &ad" babk to Tim .

tIoughts wa se mootddg ad der to m

0, mile not, th Lak h a wertls hla,
If bim wth t'edeem I baght;
Tha wvik wU lolm and kalm OWlEt ,
Is abh weth a seles thMogbt;
OIp *ght be ulmael, which the eM shd
BaGM ca the dyi, ad iavs Not the det






42 TaI TOUNG LADT.

Now, la thy yoth, bomes of a,
Who Sivet, upbenha not,
That his ght in tby hest beamst dha,
Nor h love be uaarot ;
Aa Uhy od, toIn darkt a homs, wlM be
nremans, sad bear, and ingh tof he.m


POLITZrUU IN OOT00IBAJION.
Do not speak loud and long in eompan,
This is a ault that young people are liab
to commit. In the exuberance of the
spirits, the voice is often raised to a hi@
key, and some favorite topic is extended 1
an immoderate length, to the exclusion
all other conversation. This habit shoua
be trictly guarded against. Thoe wt
indulge in it are liable to utter many thin
ridiculous and absurd, and to lay then
selves open to the just censure of the wi
and prudent. Loud laughter is also imp
lite, and is considered by many as an ind
cation of an empty mind. I would by i
means banish sociability and pleasant
from the friendly circle. But there about






POLIT3NISS IN CONVXBtATION. 48

be a proper medium observed. The good
sese of youth should teach them not to
surpass, in these respects, certain bounds
prescribed by propriety.
In a mixed company, avoid, if poibl,
all contentions and disputes, especially on
exciting topics. If carried to any extent,
they lead to the exhibition of improper
feelings, and generally cause the dispu-
tants, and the whole company, to become
unhappy. There may be cases where this
rule should be departed from; but such
instances are extremely rare. As a gener-
al practice, the rule should be strictly ad-
hered to.
Do not permit yourWel in company, to
speak disrespectfully of one who is absent,
if you can consistently avoid it. This
practice is not only impolite, but it is un-
generous and just. If it becomes ne-
cessary to express opinions derogatory to
the character of the absent, speak in guard-
ed lantouae and with all the palliations






44 TX YOUNG LDYT.

Avoid any exhibition of anger or peta
lance. They are impolite and immodes
espedally so in female. They throw you
off your guard, cae you to utter express
sioM extremely improper, and often ridic
alou, and place you in circumstances ver
unpleaent. A guard should be placed
upon the temper. Nothing is more to bt
avoided than the outbreakings of rage
Under their inlence, evils are often com
mitted, fr which a whole after life of pro
priety can hardly tone.
Be cautious not to interrupt others when
speaking. This plainly indicates a want
of good breeding; and yet it is a very
common practice with many. However
anxio you may be to utter your views
remain silent until thoee who are peaking
have concluded. Respect to them, and m
deire to avoid confdaon, as well as the
rues of propriety, dictate a strict adhe-
rece to this precaution.
Do not bluntly deny the truth of the
opinion expeeed b ths with whom






roLIuTirw Ix i OrTmnATro. 45

m wre conversing; and moe espedally If
hey are aged, or their opportunities for
btining information have been superior
toyors. If you difer from them, expre
your views in modest a"d repectfal Ian-
guge, and with due defeence to their m-
tare experience. Yo should rather ex-
pres the propriety of a difrent opinion,
than pertinacioly aert it.
Never indulge in ridicling others in
company. It is a vulgt and ungeneros
practice, sad indicates a narrow, nculti-
rated mind. All have their weakner
and imperfnetions,-ev those who poe-
sees the mot Ihining talents, hve their
blemishes. "But nwht aboard thing it
is to pass over all the elushble oarateri-
tie of individuals, and fx our attentio
on their inrmities; to obeve their im-
perfetiom more than their fires, d to
make e of them for the sport of oth ,
rather thn for our own improemeat."
'The Htleet filing of a, s the d kM i ai
oomtam- atn the lit lee of other peo






46 T< T TOUGO LDT.

pie." Person addicted to ridicule, are nu
usually distinguished for their own wisdom
or good sense. Like critics who cut up
good publication, without being able 1
produce one themselves worth reading, a
those most given to the ridicule of other
are themselves generally deficient in man
of the valuable characteristics of hums
nature. "If the talent of ridicule wei
employed to laugh men out of vice an
folly it might be of some use to the work
but, instead of thi, we find that it is ge
rally made use of to laugh men out 4
virtue and good sense, by attacking ever
thing that is solemn and serious, deeei
and praiseworthy, in human life."
young people must indulge in ridicule,
pray you act upon the rers of this ol
errvtion. Let your talent of ridicule I
exerdied only against immoral and rTiioc
praetoes; against pride, folly, cad eme
pecies of extravagnace and sin.
Avoid ridiculing others on account
their appearance or their plainess i









their demeanor than other; and any
Ilcale on that account, will be at the ex-
men of your good mnse, in the eyes of
e discriminating. All tates do not agree
regard to dress. You claim the liberty
arraying yourself in such habiliments
d style as your fancy dictates. You
oold be willing to grant the msme privi-
go to others; and should no more im-
ine that you have the right of ridiculing
om for not following your tate, than
ey have of ridiculing you for ot imit-
ag theirs. And by all means avoid ridi-
ding those, who, fom poverty are msabl
Appear in tte as costly or fashionable
i that of the commnlty in general. Thi
a cr, a- ngemeeas, unmanly practice
s not only impolte, but it is really in-
aman. It displays a melih spirit, a shal-
iw mind, and a heat devoid of the gent-
r susceptibilties of our nature. No in-
ividual, male or eale, can Judtly lay th
t dnaim o poMses or ge rosity, who






48 T!r YOUNG LADT.

exhibits feeling so mean and brutal. In-
steud of basely indulging in the ridicule of
the poor, you should be inclined to drop
the tear of pity over their misfortunes, to
commiserate their condition, to soothe
them, and to reconcile them to their situa-
tions; and if pouible, to do something, or
to ay something, that will shed a few rays
of enjoyment into their heert. Individuals
possessing true politeness, will exhibit
towards people in low circumstance, as to
poverty, none but emotions of a kind, hu-
man, generous character. And they will
not judge of their worth by their poverty.
But looking beyond the outward idrcm-
ta-nce, to the qualities o-tbe heart, they
will honor and comment integrity, virtue,
and parity, s readily whn clothed in worn
and humble garment, as when "arrayed
in purple mad nae linen."
We will now bdy examine the ffarm-
sive of thi sbjec and noce a few chur-
actaiede s t*A portat to poiteuess. I
are Os remarLed, o trse polluMs is






POUTZXuM Ix OorxVuATIOx. 49

n exhibition, through outward signs sad
kens, of kind and fiendly emodioe
awards those in your presence Or, in
their words, politeness is a desire to make
hoe around you happy. A dispostio to
e pleasant and agreeable, therefore, is oan
If the first requisites of politeness. It is
impossible for those who are morose nd
Il-tempered, to be polite. They may s-
ume the outward frm, the shadow, but
he spirit of true polteness will be wa-
ng. If, from mifortne, disappoinment,
'exatious difficult, or illness, your feel
ogs are in an uappy or Iritable saIe,
ou had far better reain from mingling i
company, while auch is youro eodiom,
han to make others wretched by a diply
f your ill felins Strive, theefre, while
on are in company, to be good-hmored,
heerfl, kindly disposed. With ths
beings in fall activity, you cannot well
oid being polite. And it is eneouaging
o know that, with every effort to etertaa
ad exhibit the emotions, they will i.






50 THB TOUNG LADT.

eree in stability and extent, until they
become a second nature, and habitually
pervade your minds.
Gratitude is another ingredient of po-
liteness. What can appear more dishon-
orable or selfish, than an insensibility to
proffered kindness ? What more ill-bred
or impolite I The uncultivated boor will,
under the dictation of nature, return thanks
for favors. And it surely becomes those
who would improve their manners, not to
be unmindful of this subject. Every atten-
tion which you receive from others, is an
indication of the kindness which they
cherish towards you. In this light they
bsould be received and properly acknowl-
edged
Always attend to those who address you,
and give due heed to their remarks. Int-
tention in this respect, is exceedingly rude,
and indicates a lack of good breeding.
Do not frequently change your posture by
riing up, or sitting down, or walking about,
whe another is speaking to you. It will






POLITEINE S IN COINTnsA


iU Coniusrueu inul a ni gci Ui E ucIr wurut,
or a desire to avoid their conversation.
Whispering, and holding private discourse
in company, is very improper and impolite.
Respect to the aged is another trait of
politeness. It is extremely indecorous to
make those advanced in years the subject
of ridicule, derision, or laughter. Gray
hairs should ever be treated with deference
and respect. The aged have long borne
the burdens of life. They have adminis-
tered to the welfare of society, and to the
prosperity and enjoyment of those who are
now young. It becomes your duty, as the
palsy of age eeps upon them, inapacita-
ting them for active duties and labors, to
honor and reverence them, to cherish and
support them, and to render the "downhill
of life" as pleasant and agreeable as
possible. No sight is more delightful
than to behold the young assiduously en-
gaged in respectful attentions to the aged;
while there is no greater lack of politeness,
no player ladiestn of an unfeeling heat,







52 THI YOUNG LADY.

than to treat the aged with neglect, disre-
spect, or harshness.


A PARABLE.
WHaz Isbmael was a young man,
motherless and an outcast, with no wife,
nor child, nor friend, he rode on his only
camel, laden with dates and corn, a few figs
and ripe olives, cummin and precious seeds,
journeying alone through the desert to the
fair of Shurat. But his camel died in the
wilderness; and for many a day's journey
did he wander on, barefoot and hungry, a
ruined man, leaving his corn, his seeds, and
all his fortune, to perish there. This plact
is accursed, and God hath forsaken me,'
said Ishmael; and he called the name
thereof Me-au-rer, "for it BRINGETH J
cunas," said he. The sun burnt him, hii
lips were parched with thirst, he could noi
speak; yet he died not, but reached, at lasi
the hospitable tent of Joktan.
Years passed on. Ishmael became apatri






A PARAML. 53

arch, rich, the father of many strong ones.
He travelled once again, in old age, with his
wives, and his children, and his children's
children, men-servant and maidens, and a
multitude of camels -an exceeding great
company, crossing the desert, to go into the
land of the 8abeans, to die there. And lo I
the hot wind of the desert came upon them;
the water dried up in their leather bottles;
they were like to perish of thirst. The
young men and the maidens cried, in their
agony, towards God. The old men bowed
themselves, and were silent, awaiting the
itrokeofthe Lord. Themoanof thestrong
amels it was terrible to hear, a they wan-
lered, crying unto God for lack of drink.
A day's journey of despair they travelled
)n, and came to a green forest, with date-
tees and corn, figs and olives, green grau,
tnd a running welL They sat down, and
were refrehed yea, they drank, and their
hearts lived once more within them. But
ua IshmaeL now heavy with vears. slant






54 THB ToNoG LADT.

same angel which had appeared and led
Hager to the well in the desert the wnLL
or GOD'S SBIrG MX -came and stood
before him in his sleep, and sid, Son of
Abraham, rememberest thou thy camel thai
perished?" And Ishmael awoke, for he
remembered it was here I He saw that out
of the corn, the date, the few fig, the ripe
olives, the cummin, and the precious seeds,
so providentially lost, this cluster of fruit-
trees had arisen, and these felds of gram
and corn. He blessed God, and msid
"Were it not for the misfortune of my
youth, I had been ruined in my old age, and
this great people with me. Wonderful are
the ways of the Lord."
And he called the name of the place Kol-
ma-as-e-El-fobr he said it is AL Go'a
wont. And there Ishmael rested fom
his labors-and his tomb is there unto this
day.





LITTLE THINGS.

LIrTLr TINSG.
Boon not the siht word or doad,
Nor dem t void of pow ;
There's frui In ach wind-wafted sad,
Waing it ntal hour.
A whisperd word may touch the hoit,
An acall i back to libH
A look of love bid da depart,
And sll unhorl strih.
No not ~ llt frntl ; osa em tll
How vrt is power may be,
Nor whs rluba alaw dwell
Within lleontly.
Work su despair not; gve thy ,
Horwemr ml be;
God is wth all who nve te h--
Th bly, its, adl f





_






- TEN TYOUe LADr.


Ix our eetimte of the tempers of others
we ae all apt to allow too little for natural
and constitutional diversity. This diveritj
may not, of course, be admitted u an apol
ogy for defects in temper; but it may, an(
must often account for them; and explain
why, when there is an equal application of
a counteracting principle, the effect is ii
one case less atisfactory than i another.
All value should undoubtedly be attached
to excellence of temper; nevertheless, tem
per, more than any other quality, is th
result of original endowment. Not the
this detracts fom it worth; it is an ineti
mable git, and the improvement of it, a
lest, i the efect of early discipline, an
of infused principle. But while we admin
and prise the placid amiability of a kind
and even dispodtion,-whilst we are epe
ally alive to its beauty, when it is grated
on a Chrisida stock, and rooted on the
s e fondadtion of religious motives,-






TRxsU. 57

the attainment of this serene and happy
temperament are, in some ces, so much
greater than others, that an incorrect esti-
mate of the force of the regulating principle
might be formed, were we to judge of it
merely by its results in this respect. There
are individuals of so clm and equable a
nature, that anger seems to them almost a
strange pasion; they feel, as it were, intu-
itively, that it is not worth their while to be
disturbed; aad though they may loe some
of their gentleness by collision with other,
yet, when once brought under the influence
of the gopel, the effort to sbde irritation,
and to retain any uanly impulse, is com-
pratively light, ad can be made with so
good a grace, that the movement to dis-
pleasure is scarcely perceptible.
Such persons may not be aware how
much they ae indebted to natural dispoi-
tion, lad they a apt to expect fom
other, peially from such s acknowledge






58 THE TOUnx LADT.

selves display. And they judge sometime
with harshness, where this equanimity
not exhibited; they yield but small indu
gence to occasional outbreakings, and, b
cause they do not experience the temptatio
do not allow for its power. They forg
also, that although the fault is evident, tl
contrition for it is not always so; and th
whilst they witness the weakness of a
unguarded moment, they are not privy i
the self-abasement and sorrow which
recollection of it calls forth. Defects i
temper are more glaring than most then
in their nature they admit not of concee
ment; and whilst ambition, worldliness o
spirit, love of pleasure, and indwelling co
eruptions of even a deeper dye, may be sh<
up in the breast, and not incur detectio
the subjects of irritability can throw no ve
over their failings; the moment of trial an
of fall e simultaneous, and the looker-o
views the fault in its prominenee,.and is n
disposed to favor the offender.
Besides, ws e a all pt to timf ot b






TnXIMP 59

ie good and evil qualities of others a they
Reet ourselves; and an undisciplined ten-
er interferes too much with the comfort
f those who come in contact with it, to
leet with indulgence from them.
The fact of the constitutional diversity in
emper can scarcely be denied by any who
re at all accustomed to study character.
Ve see it exemplified in childhood, and in-
ced, it is nowhere so visible as in the early
developmentt ofdisposition. Itis whenrea-
on and principle first begin to operate, and
D discipline the unruly ebullition, that the
3rce and nature of the latter are most evi-
ent, and that we can the most easily
erceive in what manner, and to what
stent, it exercises its ininence.
The principle of compensation is one of
hose striking features which mark the
rangements of Providence, in all their
several departments. It is the consequence
Sa fault, a fault for the prevaleae of
rhich, revelation only teaches u to a-
onmat but the adastment of the balanme








argue the discrimination and goodness of
the apportioning hand. Admitting the
operation of this principle, we may be the
les reluctant to allow a natural diversity
in temper. We shall expect, indeed, to
find a detect in this, or in any other partica-
lar counterbalanced by some better quality
but we shall not refuse to ascribe irritabil-
ity, where it exists, in some measure, at
least, to peeliar and original disposition.
And we shall generally find the balance
fairly kept 14 in respect to mental en.
dowments, the presence of one giA is gen.
rally so set of agaast the absence o
another, that the average is nearly equal
with regard to moral qualtis the proper
tion is een more nicely preerved.
The more thoroughly we investigate
haracter, and study its various develop
ments, the better shell we be added the
this thecase In temper, it is those w
are most alive to kind and generous feel
ing, who are peeliarly liale to irritability
Tho old-hearted re ealm and mueitabl


r----- .






TK1prl. 61

1 the impression which they receive ae
much less lively, that they remain an-
ored by cireamstances which kindle a
ne in the enthusiastic. The very faults
temper seem almost the consequence of
alities which, in themselves, excite our
erst. The sensibility which we love is,
m its nature, easily wounded; and the
nkness which wins our affection, exposes
susceptibility of the excitable breast,
I brings to view those secret movements
displeasure which the reserved are ena-
d to conceal.
To falts of temper, of whatever kind
degree, thee is no antidote so effetual
that which the gospel furniahe; and it
from the nonr-ppleation of this, practi
Ily and habitually, at an eay age, that
my of the happy results in after life,
lieh we have so much reason to deplore,
e. The gospel addresses itself to the
etion, and it is bee that the sensitive
e soothing. The gopel wis Oa the
art, tranquia and nre esheis i by eao-






62 TRH YOUNG LADY.

vincing it of the love of an Almight
Friend. This is at once the balm of
wounded spirit, and the anodyne the
soothes its irritation.
Why, then it may be asked, is this reme
dy not always effectual ? Why do we fin
that Christians are by no means exemy
from ordinary faults of temper, and espe4
ially from those which are the consequence
of an over-wrought sensibility.
Besides the propensity of nature, which
is the general impediment to the fall ope
nation of the principle of grace, a partical
hindrance may arise from the lateness 4
the period at which the correction is admil
stered. The morbid habit has become a
inveterate, that its subjugation is one
the hardest tasks for divine grace to a
complish; and those who have contraete
it, are themselves scarcely conscious eith4
of the root or the extent of the evil. The
are, perhaps, even disposed to excuse ar
palliate their fault, because they ascribe to
the tenderness or intensity of their feeling






TZMPIL 63

here can, therefore, be no period, after
mind has opened to the dawn of rea-
too early for christian principle to be
eight to bear upon temper. The ad-
a which the gospel makes in this par-
lar is so simple that even the infantile
rt is susceptible of it. Make the child
py in the consciousness of being the
act of the Almighty regard, and you
the foundation for calm and cheerful
animity. Check the rising of passion
a reference to the evangelical motive
forbearance, and yon accustom the
mg mind to reason with itself at the
nediate moment of trial, and to arrest
impusle to anger by the power of a
1 stronger feeling.
Mhe observers of childhood will have no-
d that whilst indulgence nurtures and
seats irritability, and sternness restrains
lthot subduing it, a mild representation
the guilt and folly of yielding to ill-tern-
r will prove the most effectual shield
aiut the temptaton; and if it fls at the






64 THB TOUNG LADT.

moment of excitement, and the exertion
authority is essential to repress the sud(
ebullition, a subsequent appeal to the he
and reason, founded upon christian I
tires, at once soothes the asperity, and
be remembered on fbtore occasions
similar trial.
Still however, frequent disappointmel
may occur, which must not be allowed
discourage. The hope of the teacher mi
bear up against many failures, and fir
new and perseverance must character
the system. But when the tone of dia
line is undeviatingly kind, equitable, a
christian, -when example correspoi
with precept,- and the child sees, and
self experiences the beauty of consists
temper,- the result is usually no insu
dent recompense. At any rate, the ten
station, when it ocears, will not be yied
to without a struggle; and self-control,
after li, will be no new leson.
The peculiar importance of the due n
lation of temper to women will be read






TBMPLU. 6

lited. Dependent a they ar, equal,
ity and forbearace a essential eve
heir happiness; and mot unwise It is
hem to nurse an irritability which must
self-tormenting. Cireamstances ae, of
rse, less under their control, than that
the other sex; and unless they can so-
ece in an occasional thwarting of their
I wishes, they will experience diasom-
; in every relation of life.
Ln overwrought sensibility may pro a
lie source of misery to woman. The
picon of unkindness or of idiffeea
other, is like a womnd, perpetoally e-
rati itself; and the peevishbas m
mutent which it engeders, a the m
ly meam of exdin the very diseteem
which it complains. Nothing a mor
dng to the ojec of rgerd than this see
temper. It is perpetually harassing
a with imalinary jealousies, broodi
r thLm with suspid aeeraelb upon
Ssrve illanes whiea can seely Uil
Weary ad, i time, dastoy the smir






66 THE YOUNG LADY.

est affection; and although it may be
glossed over as an amiable weakness, oi
claim to be excused as an excess of feel
ing, self-esteem and self-love are in fact it
source.
There are some who, in childhood, an
painfully distrustful of their own capabili
ties, who labor under the distressing con.
eviction that they are inferior to those
around them; or, at any rate, who imagine
they are so reputed; and this impression
serves not merely as a cheek to their intel
leetual improvement, but imbitters theii
happiness and sorts their disposition. It
such cases, to encourage by the exhibition
of kindness, to excite by motives of duty
to infuse a principle of hope, will be the
wisest treatment, for it will effect an im
provement in temper by inducing virtuous
and successful efforts, and thus relieve thi
mind from the subject of its apprehensions
It has been remarked, that to communi
cate or restore happiness is the best ant
dote to faults of temper; and it is beast






TZmIm. 67

il religion involves internal peace, that
i is so peculiarly a corrective of them.
is not merely because christianity places
restraint upon the evil passions, because
e law of kindness is part of its prescrip-
ce code, but because it lays the only sure
sis for happiness, and when rightly un-
rstood, is the source of never-failing con-
lations, that it allays the unruly move-
ents of an irritable disposition. The as-
rance that, whatever be the trial of this
e, eternal bliss is ours,-the conviction
at all human regard or honor is of little
roe in comparison of the Almighty love
which is lavished upon us, -the conl-
mce which enables us, with grateful p-
opriation, to claim an interest in the
nplest promises of gospel grace,- thee,
ie present nheritance of the believer, can
hardly be enjoyed without their producing
calm within the breast which vexation
mnot rafe. And in the proportion that
ds is not the ase, the privileges of the
elivr are not enoyed.






I THU TOWUm LADT.

And if we view temper with reereno
spiritual progress, as the grace of disp
tion ae amongst the most winning on
ments of the religious character, so t
are eminently subservient to its impr
ment and perfection. Irritability is a st
bing-block, not only to others, but to 4
selves. It distrbs our peace, by mla
=u doubt of the reality of the spirit
change within us; and when the pea
a chrstian is disarbed, every grace
g shes. On the contrary, a serene
beevolent temper is a ourc of inte
happiness, sad is itself th essence of






A turr we*, t iatebus spm,
A meim t, e a tmr,
r a-am h-ideW4 ut th kee b01
Aan mns a m4 sab esss.






MI(OaXML AXLOA. -

A we -a look-h s m- aeid Mes,
lal may a buodfw So ;
Whih, had a aie bt owe- hes brb,
WoUld wm lH's daLkml Ihb~.
Then dem b mat am l*B lat
A pleamn wod to speak
Tbhe o you war, the oufhta yo b g,
A hrt may hl or bk.



IORAUL ANWOMD.
A Fulwr called on Miehael Anelo,
who wa Alnilshn a stes. Boedtme
terwrd he called gain; the sclptor
was still a his work. His fiend looking
at the Agur, excaimed, "you bhav bem
idle since I saw you lst." "By o aes,"
replied the sculptor, "Ihave retouched ti
prt, d poshed tht; I have somenm
this fmee, and brought out this mude;
I have given move expreion to ths p, and
more energy to that limb. "Wel, well,"
aid his Meod, "but ll these ne tOes."
"It ma be so," replied Angelo, "bb't we






70 THu TOUoN LADY.

ollect that trifles make- perfection, and 1
perfection is no trifle."


OEuEIL RIADIOe.
"Tanu are two prominent objects
reading, namely, amusement, and the
quisition of valuable knowledge. Th
if possible, should be combined in (
No volume should be perused for ami
ment, which does not instruct an well
delight And all publications of an
structive character will instruct and ple
the mind when read with a proper th
for its lessons of wisdom. It should
the desire of every youth of both sexes
acquire a hab or taste for reading. 1
habit will soon become one of the higl
onrces of enjoyment. But it must be
quired young. If it is not establish
before the age of twenty-five or thirty,
probability is, that it will not be at
and the individual in this condition wit
cut off from one of the most valid






OGNEIAL r LEADING. 71

sources of knowledge and improvement.
You should read not only for the pleasure
which it affords you, but to obtain practical
information, and to enlarge and enlighten
your views on those subjects intimately
connected with your welfare, and the inter-
ests of your race. You should read to
"multiply your ideas, correct your errors,
erase your prejudices, purify your princi-
ples, and that you may settle down on the
everlasting foundation of truth in all
things."
There is a great deal in the periodical
publications of the day which is worthy of
your attention. I think it will be highly
beneficial to you to be in the habit of read-
ing some of our best Reviews; though, in
so doing, you must take heed to youelf
and endeavor to keep your faculties awake,
and in lively exercise, else you will surren-
der your own judgment entirely to that of
another, and may find yourself, in the course
of afew days, wholly changed in your opin-






71 Te TOUNo e LaDY.

of having read two operate Reviews, oz
of which gave a totally different view i
him from what was presented by the other
But when you red an able and impart
review of an important work, and are ca
fhl to maintain a proper guard over you
self while doing so, you will be consdot
of receiving these intellectual benef
s when you have been taking a lesa
from an experienced mater, in tome d&
apartment of science, or of the arts.
Biography will be another fritedl sonr
of entertainment sad instruction, if propi
ae be taken in the selection of suc
works, and jadidcou rejection be exer~i
on them afterward. In no way can
young female obtain a more accra
knowledge of human nature, and of td
great diversity of character, which abounn
in the world. In genal society, she cm
of necessity, take but a partial glimpse 4
individuals; she sees them unaally in wh
may be called their gala desses; gener
ly speaing, the more odiou phases






o3AIAL uAnDIrS. 78

'We charter will be revered Lbr exhi.
ion in scene to which her age and ex
ll peeelude her fom admission. When-
er yoa take up a good biograpical wor
deavor to make it sabservient to your
ra improvement; study the errors of
her, not that you may talk of them, but
at you may lean to correct your own.
When you And the most eminent Chris-
sms desrlbed as being yet inheritors of
a imperfect nature, do not exult at
eir weaknesse, but rather take warning
y their fhll and while you become more
ad more convinced of the fact, that in the
et estate on earth, man is still a weak
reature, learn to imitate their contrition
ad humility, and seek to avoid their sins.
When you read of the triumphs of Di-
ine grace, in the lives and death of God's
ear children, let your prayer continually
asend to Him from whom alone any good
t proceedeth, that you may be "strength-
ed by his Spirit in the nner man;" that
ron may "die the death of the righteou,






74 TII TOTNG LADT.
and that your lat end may be like theirs
Well-written books of travel will fort
another highly usetl branch of readlni
Next to the privilege of beholding foreign
countries with our own eyes, and surveyin
their varied charms for ourselves is that <
reading the accounts given of them by in
partial travellers. We seem, at such mi
ments, almost the possessor of an enchan
ed tapestry, like that of the Arabian Night
so complete is our temporary illusion; an
after visiting the Pyramids of Egypt, ei
mining the walls of Petra, or scaling tI
summit of Mont Blanc, we return to th
quiet scenes of our own fireside with a
additional est. Always have an atd b6
fore you when reading a book of travel
unless the country be perfectly familiar i
yo. By examining and comparing ti
descriptions given of one country by di
ferent intelligent travellers, you will lea
to form a correct notion of it, and the prejl
dice and misstatement of one wiA 1
corrected by another:






omGZN AL rADIN. 75
There i one kind of reading in which
aung female are especially prone to in-
nlge, which is that of novels. The Aarb
f feeding the mind with them I deprecate
a most injurious; but I believe there are
certain works of fiction which may be read
craoionally, on an average, onu or too in
he course of a twelvemonth, without any
injury, provided the mind of a young per-
on is in a healthy state.
But if the mind is excitable, the thoughts
irone to wander over the fields of romance,
Lnd to indulge in morbid habits, and vain
reams of an ideal happiness which is en-
irely dependent for its existence on cer-
sin external circumstances; then, to such
, young person, I would say decidedly,
Iuty requires of you, if you mean to be a
bllower of the Saviour, not to indulge in
he reading of works of fiction, even spar-
ngly; total atimoes from them is eaen-
ial to restore moral and mental health.
after resisting the temptation for a while,
it will cease to be such, and the individual






T7 T2U YoUVO LADY.

will learn to eel more pleaure in the 1
nual of prottable works, than in that
any romance. The remarks which I h
made on novel-reading, will be applical
in a great degree, to the habit of feati
the mind with the works of dramatic I
ters.
There is a das of writings to whid
have not yet adverted, but which, by 1
testimony of many intelligent judges, I
been pronounced highly serviceable toI
youthful reader. I here refer to the
esays which were published periodic
such as the Spectator, Rambler, Idler,
It is no longer fashionable to commend
writing of Addison and Johnson, and
I cannot bat think that the frequent pe
l of select portions of these publicati,
would have a happy electI in correct
the glaring defects of style which are
conspicnous in many of or modern
ters.
Thre is another and higher style
reading, which I desire to commed to y






OeswaU a mnADIn 77

attention, which is to be finished by well-
selected religious treaties and sermons.
Some young ladies might perMhap turn
awmy in disgust from such works; sd by
their actions, if not in words, declare it
their opinion, that the attention bestowed
during the Sabbath on such subjects, was
amply suficient for them. But I will as-
nsme that it is your earnest desire, not
only to improve the Sabbath to the purpo-
sea for which it was bestowed, but also to
employ a portion of your eisure, daring
the other six days of the week, in beding
your spiritual as well as your intellectual
nature. Now some of the most expe-
enced Christian gides, and among them
the excellent and eminent Wilberfore,
have rmammeaded to all Chris s who
ae desrous of promoting their spiritual
growth, havre always In hand ome even
gelical work, a portion of which they
should endeavor to read daily. Such a
habit, when fithfy persisted in, wil be






78 THs TOUxo LADT.

found highly conducive to Christian im
provement
Among the religious books which
would especially recommend to your notice
are Miss More's invaluable writings, Wil
berforce's Practical View of the prevailing
Religious Systems, &c., Cecil's Works, th
Letters of the Rev. J. Newton, Life an
Correspondence of Mrs. Hawks, &c.
It will probably require months for yoi
to go through either one of the volumes
have referred to; but the time consume,
each day in the employment will be scarce
ly mised, while the aggregate amount c
good acquired will be great, and most prol
ably permanent in its effects.


ITTT 0O TEM SUNETEUm.
Tn length of time you can appropriate
to the daily devotional reading of the Scrij
tures, must be a good deal regulated b
circumstances. But if your heat is really
inteeted, you will forego indifferent occi






*TUDY or TXB aOBIrPT aZ. 7I

patron, rather than ide this. The
length of the portion read must also vary
according to the view with which you rad;
for the Bible is a new book every time we
take itup with a new purpose. Sometimes
it would be advantageous for you to read it
in masse, many chapters at once, that you
may aee their connection, gather the general
line of argument, trace the succeuion of
incidents, the development of human char-
acter, the fuliling of God's purposes. At
another time, it would be well for you to
take a small portion and direct it thor-
oughly; marking every emphatic verse,
even every striking phrase, c, until your
memory will able you to do t without;
noting, by the aid of a conordance, any
similar incident, cept doctrine, or ex-
presion, in the margin. If you read with
interest and attention, you will soon dis-
cover the parrallel passges for yourva
Both your ear and eyes will be quickened;
yor memory being ever in requistion, will
be n re adnme, sad many sweet and in.






s8 TI TOUGro LADY.

tractidq thoughts will arise in your mind
whilst comparing one page of inspiration
with another. When I thus advise you tl
make, M much a possible, Scripture it
own commentary, I hope you will not sup
pore that I would set young people in th
seat of their elders, or would express
myself other than with reverence of tho.
divines whose annotations on the Scripture
are equally sond and scriptural. But th
use of their valuable labors should encom
age, not superede, our own. The min
that habitually submits itself to be a pass
recipient of the ideas of others, howev
correct and judicious those thoughts ma
be, is certainly an indolent mind, within
being of necessity an humble one. 8ea
the Scriptures, is an unlimited and anive
al command, a applicable to the peasa
and the child, as to any student of prop
ecy, or prohuor of scored literature, if t
object of that search be to ind "Him a
whom Mose in the law and the prophet
did write." Perhaps our Sviours expri






uinv flU YWU I!Uirmfl


a, The one ought ye to do, and not to
vie the other undone," applies with a
ppy disriminaion to the relative duty of
dying the Scriptures without any human
Is; and again, of thankfully employing
ch aids, when offered by such a re com-
tent to them. But how vain will be your
ading, how vain your interest in what you
ad, how vain your search after truth, if you
not seek Arst the kingdom of God, and
i righteousnea;" if you do not pray
r his enlightening Spirit Without ths,
or imagination may be charmed, your
sibility excited, and your mind enriched,
it your heart will continue at enmity with
od. So then you must pray, and pray
at for a praying spirit, or even the word
'God will prot nothing. But ask
od to be his own interpreter, and he will
ake that word plain; and not only plain,
at precious. Its treasures may at first be
dden, but none ever rightly sought with-
t finding, ad none ever found without
tg saed.et






9S TEB YOUNG LADY.

Read with expectation. Read with rev-
erence. Read for yourself. Read with
prayer. Then will you seldom lay down
that book without some apprehension of
Simeon's joyful feeling, "Mine eyes have
men thy salvation."


ZUIAL CUfLTIVATIO.
Ir young women waste their time in
trivial amusements, in the prime season for
asmaments, which is between the ages of
sixteen and twenty, they will hereafter
regret bitterly the loss, when they come to
fel themselves inferior to almost every one
they eonvase with; and above all, if they
should ever be mothers, when they feel
their inability to direct and asit the pur-
suits of their children, they will then fnd
ignorance a severe mortificatio, and a real
evil Let it animate their industry, and let
not a modest opinion of their capaeties be
a.discouragement to their endeaes after
knowledge. A moderate undmseig,






GENERAL CULTIVATION. 88

with diligent and well-directed application,
will go much farther than a more lively
genius, if attended with that impatience
and inattention which too often attend quick
parts. It is not for want of capacity that
so many women are such trifling and in-
sipid companions, so ill qualified for the
friendship and conversation of a sensible
man, or for the task of instructing or gov-
erning a family; it is often the neglect of
exercising the talents they really have, and
from omitting to cultivate a taste for intel-
lectual improvement; by this neglect, they
lose the sincerest of pleasures, which would
remain when almost every other forsook
them, of which neither fortune nor age
could deprive them, and which would be a
comfort and resource in almost every possi-
ble situation in life



CJ4O^to'e








DTEl 0 WOMEN TO TERm OGOK-
TBT.
TBx shelter and protection of a fee gov-
ernment demand awakened and grateful
energies. Since its welfare is involved in
the virtue and intelligence of its subjects,
the character and habits of every member
of its great family are of importance. I
imagine that I hear from the lips of some
of the young and sprightly of my sex, the
inquiry, Why need we concern ourselves
in the affairs of politicians ? What share
have we in the destinies of our country 1"
The same share that the rill ha in the riv-
ulet, and the rivulet has in these. Should
every little streamlet terry at the fountain-
head, where would be the river that dis-
penses the fertility the ocean, bearing
commerce and wealth upon its never-ending
tide? Woman possesses an agency which
the ancient republic never discovered. The
young fountains of the mind are given in
charge to her. She can tinge them with
sweetness or bitterness, re they have chosen






DUTIrs or WOMZx. 85

the channels where to flow, or learned to
murmur their story to the time-worn pebble.
Greece, that disciple and worshipper of wis-
dom, neglected to appreciate the value of
the feebler sex, or to believe that they who
had the moulding of the whole mass of
mind in its firt formation, might help to
infuse a principle of permanence into
national existence. Rome, in her wolf.
nursed greatness, in her fierce democracy,
in the corruption of her imperial purple,
despised the moral strength that lay hidden
under physical weakness. But our country
has conceded every thing, the blessings of
education, the equality of companionship,
the luxury of benevolence, the confidence
of a culture's office, to those young buds
of being, in whom is her wealth and her
hope. What does she require of our sex
in return for these courtesies ? Has she
not a right to expect that we give our hands
to every cause of peace and truth,- that






86 THS TOUNG LADT.

disorder and vice, -that we labor in all
places where our lot may be cat, as gen-
tle teachers of wisdom and charity, and
that we hold ourselves, in domestic privacy,
the guardians of those principles which the
sage defends in the halls of legislation,
and the priests of Jehovah upon the walls
of Zion ?

HUJLITY.
HumUT," aid Lens, as ab dew
A well-worn glow upon bar sn-burnt had,
Is the bet ornseaa a Chistian knows.
I think not well ofon whose ready speae
Can talk of elf4-basemnt, and thb ne
lbm hourly bels of prdo ftom aboe,
TYt Is arrayed. all the prid of It,
Studies the body's ea, the grcta mi
Aad all tMh luxris of reainin tat.
I Judge oar pity Is better shown
By self-deoang lowU ess tl mid;
By absei~lea fe all thejoys of eames,
And direard of what the worM etam."
And while she spoke, the look of barh ns of
Wu allowed by a self-omplaent mile,
As ber eye it upon th homely grb,
Aad I ed ornaments, she waon.







HUMILITY. 87

Senna, gited with a milder mood,
Not prone to censure, dilldent and meek
In gente accents urged the vorite them.
" I envy not the beauty' flattered form,
And elU the attraction of exterior gace,
If I most with them take the pride of hert
The vnity that Ullowe where they are;
For sure I am that lowlines of mind,
Self-dlsestem, and meek humility,
Are ornament more lovely hr than they;
And while I fee theU better gifts ue mns,
I cove not what other pril so meah."

And here Laind gently closed the book
That she had tried In vin to understad,
And surely it ki uangp," she Md, that ue,
Profh ng to renounce this peina world,
Should be at so mch pains to store their mind
With varied knowledge and mere human la.
The straight, still path that leads u to our God,
Is all a humble Christia need to know;
And this, if I mistake not, best Is earned,
And bet prsntd, by one who knows o mon.
Not In the warmth of intellectual an,
The eleaton of the letterd mind,
Or the gay Sight of eniu and of tste,
Should I ezpet that meek humility
Jas. our lowly Master. bade us lear.






88 THX TOUNG LADT.

Who, in a sphee of simple ushleas,
Can better dve and giorla our God,
Then they whom leanin llb o mueh abow as.

Then was a urth.-I marvel what she thought,
Forr she d nothing yet she t perhaps.
It may be ihe had lovd Ie world too well,
Had too rened and deliate a tate;
And while she hlt the pace of God within,
Had cause to mourn her yt uneonquered pride.
Perhaps she lowed too well the letleed pgsp,
The foreo of atelleet, the menit Are;
Was ood to ee the holy cae she loved
Adorned with all that learn ea lpart,
And thought too meanly of the homely b
That simple poverty so ean we.
Or If of beauty he had somalethi non,
e might remember whi her ky priMed
Above hi worth the Wamtey good.
'T i certain, that te dla blh behyd
Her s~-ea rted bosom odd not boe
The irba mah had eadmgd as ber own.
I beard maoe, nor aow what piem whlb -
I may t udge whoa e was preol ts.
Ha to whom s all boom are -anbare
Might ude tht she who ble ho tht she we
proud,
Was humbler yet than they who knew t net.
I -nO sole but when they petth m,







OOurTBiT. 89

To meet their Ood that night In asernt payer,
I thinkI know who breathed the deepest pa,
Who rmnk the lowest t he Maker's fht,
And with mot teas o bitter paltmeaI
DOaht an Intrest in her tviour's blood.
HamlUity the mwetMt, loUveld ower
That blood in Peradl, the & tha dild, -
Hu ranly blossome del on mortal eL
It i so ell, so deklae a thing,
T Is gone If it but look upon tlM ;
And she who venture to eteoa It her,
Provs by that dagl thought e has it not.




Tnx proper exercise of Chritlan cour-
tesy is one of the most attractive exhibi-
tions of humn character. It ie the esy
and natural expression of a heart glowing
with benevolent sympathies. It is the re-
suit of an habitual contemplation of the
brotherhood of man, a having the same
common Father, the same natural imper-
fections, the same benevolent Redeemer,
and the ame immortal interests to be w-
-a h uet





90 THE YOUNG LADT.

The inspired volume touchingly and
earnestly says to all, "be courteous," be
"tender-hearted;" it urges us to observe,
in this respect, in all our intercourse, the
royal law, "Whatsoever ye would," &c.
But from the frequent violations of this
law, even among members of the same re-
ligious community, it would almost seem
that the heavenly precept must have been
repealed; and the Master had at length ac-
quiesced in strife about precedence; that
he had come to look with complacency
upon arrogance sad supreme elf-regard I
Pride and jealousy, sitting at the ear of
selfishness, whisper, with cold-hearted in-
difference to others' weal or woe, "It is
maw ryi, in order to preserve proper dis-
tinction, to sta d apr or dipi~/l" How
unlike the example and teahing of the
great founder of Christianity! Were hi
comprehensive law of love fully admitted
in practice, what a delightful spectacle
would such a community preeentto the
eye of those higher intelligence, who e-







teem it a privilege to be the ministers of
mercy to the humblest heirs of the same
inheritance.
But how earth-born, how pitiful the dig-
nity that cannot afford to condescend,--
that stands on such a precarious, giddy
height, it cannot safely stoop,--that ex-
cuses itself from many of the common cour-
tesies of life, as the Pharisees did, by allu-
sions to rank Is not this the carpzters
son ?"- thus justifying the absence of
civility towards many, who, perhaps, kneel
at the same altar, are dependent on the
same bounty, and accountable at the same
tribunal.
And yet, to each individual, the appeal
comes with affecting emphasis, from a be-
ing of infinite condescension. "What hat
thou that thou didst not receive If thou
hast wealth, or talents, or station,-if those
hast aught that gives influence in society,
it has all been intrusted to thee, that thob
mightet gladden many hearts, He has
laddened thine own.






T TEN TOUNG LADY.

Precious, precious are words of sympa-
thy to the boom saddened by toil, oppres-
sed with care, or bleeding under affection;
precious, indeed, to the child of sorrow,
and especially to the humble stranger, who
peculiarly needs such solace. For this rea-
son it should be remembered how He,
whose example is of unquestioned author-
ity, condescended to speak words of re-
spectful kindness to the beggar by the way-
side; to the proscribed Samarian woman
at the well; to boatmen and fishermen; to
the odious publican, and even to the more
odious outcat.
Whenever, therefore, pride or impatience
tmp aay one to treat another with disr-
spect, or marked indifference, let him look
up to that glorious Being who stooped
from heaven to bring salvation to the lost,
aed even to the most unworthy; and let
him remember, that he only who hum-
bleh himself shall be exalted."
Th lesson is of very extensive applica-
tio. A wantof Chrtianoutsy is not






EXTRACT. N

peculiar to any class of society. It per-
ades every religious sect, and every rank
nd distinction. It is the result of that
elfish principle which naturally prompts
11 to aspire to a higher place among men,
- which leads to the pursuit of perishable
onor, in forgetfulness of that nduing
onor which is the sure reward of heaven-
r wisdom and true Christian benevolence.


NXTRAV.
MAmas are of more importance than
iws. Upon them, in a great measure, the
tws depend. The law toudc is aer and
wre-mw andA'm. Maamr are what
ex or sothe, corrupt or purify, ealt or
base, barbarize or reane, by a constant,
ady, uniform, insensible operation, like
at of the air we breathe in. They give
Meir whole form and color to our lives.
ordingl to their quality, they aid morals,
iy supply them, or they totally destroy






-n THE TOUNG LADT.



STAR? not, fair reader. I am not going
to belecture thee on the vanity of arraying
thine outward man or woman in the gar-
ments of the gay and worldly. There is,
no doubt, enough and too much of this in
the world; hut my aim, just now, is not a
bird of this feather. Perhaps thou and I
will agree, perhaps not. Nevertheless, I
shall tell thee my thoughts on the matter
before us, most honestly, whether thou shalt
chance to like them, or not. What I shall
msy, may seem to have a special bearing on
the fairer part of human kind; but such a
reference is only a matter of convenience;
I intend not thereby to exclude mankind
from the benefit of my observations.
I shall begin (the second time) by say-
ing that I always like to look upon a well-
dressed woman. And who does not ?-
unless it be some miserly curmudgeon, to
whom the rustle of a new bank-note is
vastly more pleasing than that of silks and








Ltins, the only music for his ear; though,
deed, your bank-note rustle hath a pleas-
2t note in it, a music that goes to the heart,
muetimes; most notable music, truly. But
is is a digression; or, unless it be some
ery sour religionist, in whom what little
perception of the beautiful God had given
im, has long ago been crushed; who
rives to set religion and good taste by the
ir, and would make those fall out by the
ay who should walk lovingly together I
uch may affect to decry any special aten-
on to the covering of the outward man;
ad may seem horrified at the idea of ador-
9 it The inward man," they eay, is the
ret thing to be cared for." True enough,
Doubt But then, a generalthing, I
yve never seen the souls of such people
Sbe any better dressed than their bodies.
he ornament of a meek and quiet spirit
u been wanting quite as often as those
which are of less price. Now, by "well-
sed," I do not mean bejewelled, besilk-
I, belaed, or befeathered. "Well-dres-






96 THB YOUNG LADY.

ed" may exist without any of these. I
may be found in calico, in gingham, or in
check,--in a cottage a well as in a place.
A well-cut, prettily-colored, satiryput-on,
and tidily-kept garment, -this is "well.
dressed," and this may be attained with
almost any material. The richest silks on
earth, the most gorgeous dyes, the mos
resplendent jewels, will not, of neces
sity, make a well-dressed woman. No;
good taste may be wanting, after all; s
spirit of order, of harmonious arrangement
possessed of an instinctive power in detect-
ing incongruities, and of discerning th
little proprieties which go to make up s
well-dressed person. As you have looked
out upon this fair earth, have you not often
thought, how gloriously is Nature dressed I
The Divine Clothier,--I speak it ever,
ently, how doth He clothe the grass of the
field I how doth He deck the lily of th
valley I Solomon was gorgeously arrayed
A An) .* nI .. nn- M f tkL And






DIme. 97

ith their heaven-dyed dresses of plumes;
d the bests, in their cost of kin so
ted, and so put on,- h here is cloth-
g for you. Hast thou ever noticed the
orningdress of nature The clouds are
eked in all gay and fatatic humor, and
e bosom of the earth is gemmed with
wdrop,-- diamonds, truly, of the fjar
fr. Every thing smil around you.
is a sight worth seeing. And then, too,
her evening dress. The gilding, the
rnishg, the sparkling gems, are laid
ide. She s ad in twilight gray and
ber liery, as our divine poet ings. The
rtai of darkness a drawn around her;
Setire from our eight, as it wre, to
it till the light o another day ll
ake her from her slumbers. Thus is
tur beautifully, appropriately apparel-
I; and why hall not thou ad I dress
well a we may Where i the harm
t, if we take some pains to have or
athes well made, of good materisis, and
liput ot Our Afnt perem'nt rsait
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