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Breaking out of unhealthy marital interactions
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Title: Breaking out of unhealthy marital interactions
Series Title: Family Album Radio transcripts
Physical Description: Fact Sheet
Creator: Baugh, Eboni
Davis, Donna Z.
Publisher: University of Florida Cooperative Extension Service, Institute of Food and Agriculture Sciences, EDIS
Place of Publication: Gainesville, Fla.
Publication Date: 2012
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Abstract: "For couples today, there's an abundance of information on how to sustain healthy, happy marital relationships. What many couples fail to realize is that these positive practices won't work without addressing negative patterns and destructive behaviors in their relationship."
Acquisition: Collected for University of Florida's Institutional Repository by the UFIR Self-Submittal tool. Submitted by Diana Hagan.
Publication Status: Published
General Note: "Transcribed from the Family Album Radio Program, a coproduction of University of Florida IFAS Extension, the Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences and of WUFT-FM."
General Note: This document is FAR3041... broadcast as program 528. Published on EDIS March 2012. In the interest of time and/or clarity, the broadcast version of this script may have been modified."
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Source Institution: University of Florida Institutional Repository
Holding Location: University of Florida
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For couples today, theres an abundance of information on how to sustain healthy, happy marital relationships. From how-to books to expert advice given in magazines, on television, radio and the Internet, couples are bombarded with strategies, tips, and techniques focused on how to improve their relationships. What many couples fail to realize is that these positive practices wont work without addressing negative patterns and destructive behaviors in their relationship. According to marriage and relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman, there are four negative patterns of interaction that are major destroyers of marital relationships. ey are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Couples should avoid criticism or using hurtful or judgmental comments aimed at their partners character or personality. More complex is contempt, or an attempt to psychologically abuse a partner through disrespectful statements and actions. Contempt can be both verbal and non-verbal, such as sarcasm or mockery or simply rolling your eyes in disgust. Contempt can oen lead to defensiveness. Individuals oen have a natural defensive reaction to criticism and contempt. However, couples can be defensive even when criticism is constructive and may be a response to previous, current, or future attacks. Finally, partners may stonewall, or put a physical or psychological wall around themselves, to avoid conict. Breaking out of Unhealthy Marital Interactions1Eboni Baugh and Donna Davis2 1. This document is FAR3041, one of a series of the Family Youth and Community Sciences Department, Florida Cooperative Extension Service, Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences, University of Florida. Broadcast as program 528. Published on EDIS March 2012. In the interest of time and/or clarity, the broadcast version of this script may have been modied. Visit the EDIS website at http://edis.ifas.u.edu 2. Eboni Baugh, studen t, and Donna Davis, senior producer, Family Album Radio, Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences, Cooperative Extension Service, Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences, University of Florida, Gainesville, FL 32611.The Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences (IFAS) is an Equal Opportunity Institution authorized to provide research, educational information and other services only to individuals and institutions that function with non-discrimination with respect to race, creed, color, religion, age, disability, sex, sexual orientation, marital status, national origin, political opinions or aliations. U.S. Department of Agriculture, Cooperative Extension Service, University of Florida, IFAS, Florida A. & M. University Cooperative Extension Program, and Boards of County Commissioners Cooperating. Millie Ferrer-Chancy, Interim Dean Credits: iStockphoto

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2 Unfortunately continual avoidance can lead to even greater conict between couples. Its important to identify and break these negative cycles of behavior before they destroy your marriage. Listening, learning and living together, its the science of life.Family Album is a co-production of University of Florida IFAS Extension, the Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences, and of WUFT-FM.If youd like to learn more, please visit our website at http://familyalbumradio.org To listen to the radio broadcast: http://www.radiosource.net/radio_stories/528.mp3 http://radiosource.net/radio_stories/528.wavReferencesBaugh, Eboni J. (2006) Un-Healthy Marital Interactions: What Not To Do and What Can Be Done. EDIS document FCS2247, one of a series of the Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences, Florida Cooperative Extension Service, Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences, University of Florida. Retrieved September 25, 2006 online at http:// edis.ifas.u.edu Gottman, John. (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. FAQ #9: http://www.gottman. com/49853/Research-FAQs.html [April 13, 2012].