Service of Celebration
for the life of
Bernard J lfred cMcFarlan, 3r.
3anuary 15, 1957 ovnmber 17, 1994
Saturday, 2wamber 26, 1994
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Bernard A. McFarlane, Sr.
Dale Swan, Abigail Freeland, Julia McFarlane
Dearn Swan, Sidney Swan Jr., Keith, Dale, Darryl
and Aaron McFarlane
Elisa Greaves and Agatha Davis
Kishma, Natasha, Denique, Donna, Sedonia, Kesheila,
Linda, Hannah, Charity, Adelia, Serta and Sundea
Ira Jr., Issiah, Avinel, Aaron, Sidney III, Sergio,
Keith Jr., Naneem, Dashwan and Ntuko
GREAT NIECE AND NEPHEW
Avinel Jr., Aaronigue
Serita Threets, Mavis Sanders, Patricia McClean,
Carol Mondesire, Yvonne Wesselhoft and Ilva Diaz
Everett Oliver, Juanito Benjamin, Gerald James,
Waldron Francis, Renaldo Lettsome, Olanzo,
James and John Hendrington, Glen Davis, Ulric Ferrari
GREAT AUNTS AND UNCLES
Louise Alien, Clothilde Stanley, Moses Davis
Ira Freeland Sr.
Luz Swan, Nida McFarlane, Elaine Swan
Mrs. Alma Freeman
Other close relatives and friends too numerous to mention
CBernard AUfred Wcf arlane
3nuary 15,1957 ovmber 17. 1994
On January 15, 1957, Bernard Alfred McFarlane, Jr. was born on St. Thomas
to his proud parents Bernard A. and Doris James McFarlane. He was the first
child of that union. Known to his family as Butch, he was affectionately called
Mackie or Brother Mac by his friends and coworkers.
At the tender age of four, his mother died and he was raised by his
maternal grandmother Mrs. Elisa Greaves and devoted aunt Yvonne
Wesselhoft whose faithful duty of caring for him, earned a greater place in his
heart. Butch did not have children of his own, but his always reaching out to
children and giving of his compassion and affection, made up for that. He
took time out to show the children that he cared, especially his many godchil-
dren who knew him as a loving disciplinarian. This stem manner was felt by
adults as well, but he never lost respect for whomever he counseled, advised
Bernard attended Lockhart Elementary, then Charlotte Amalie High School
where he graduated with the Class of 1977. Shortly thereafter, he relocated to
St. Croix where he had a brief employment with Grand Union supermarket.
From there, he went to work with the Department of Health WIC Program as
a Nutrition Aide. Failing health forced him to stop working.
In spite of his deteriorating health, he still found time to assist the youths of
various civic groups and clubs to develop their musical and creative talents.
In following a family tradition of culinary talent, Butch became an expert at
baking. He established a large clientele among family and friends always
eager to taste his cakes and tarts.
Gone to rest, but this counselor, advisor, son, nephew, cousin, godfather,
confidante and friend in need, has left an indelible impression upon the
minds and hearts of all whom he touched. Because we believe in the resurrec-
tion and life everlasting, we know that by his works, we shall see him again.
Urder of service
ENTRANCE HYMN ...................... The Strife is O'er, No. 513
FIRST READING ................ The Book of Wisdom Chapter 3:1-9
RESPONSORIAL PSALM ................... The Lord's My Shepherd
SECOND READING .......................Romans: Chapter 6:3-9
HOMILY ............................... Reverend Michael Kosak
OFFERTORY HYMN ......................... ust as I Am, No. 324
SIGN OF PEACE ....................His Eye Is On The Sparrow
COMMUNION HYMN ....................... How Great Thou Art
MEDITATION SOLO ..................... Duet by Phyllis Benjamin
and Angelita Jennings
EULOGY ............................... Glenn "Kwabena" Davis
FINAL COMMENDATION AND FAREWELL
RECESSIONAL HYMN ..... What A Friend We Have In Jesus, No. 326
Dearn Swan, Sidney Swan, Keith McFarlane,
Dale McFarlane, Clenbert David, Ecedro Wesselhoft Jr.
Everett Oliver, Gerald James, Juanito Benjamin,
Ecerdo Wesselhoft Sr., James Hendrington, Renaldo Lettsome
Jesus said, "Come unto Me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I
will give you rest." Butch heard this call and he obeyed. This was the kind
of person Bernard was obedient, understanding, kind and loving. Sleep on
in the Almighty's arms, my brother.
Sister Dale and Family
Words cannot express the loss we feel with the passing of our beloved
"Butch." Butch was very dear to us and we were very fortunate to have had
him as our nephew and son. Although we ask the question, "Why him?" we
are comforted knowing that he is with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We
are assured as the hymn writer said: "The hosts of Cod Encamp around the
dwelling of the just, deliverance He affords to all who on His succor trust."
Sleep on, beloved nephew
Aunt Yvonne, Ecedro and Ecedro, Jr.
THE LIGHT GROWS DIM
The shutters close and darkness covers everything.
A blossom which once became a beautiful flower withers and dies
To glow no more on these beautiful shores.
God in His love and wisdom reaches out
To touch this soul,
To be guided to a place
Where there is no darkness, no sorrow, no pain, no need,
A heavenly home of peace and rest.
Only God knows best, Bernard, I am surely going to miss your calls to
ask, Mamie, what are you doing? Did you eat? I take solace, however,
knowing you are with your Maker. I am hopeful that at the great resurrec-
tion, we'll all be together again. Rest in peace!
Elisa Greaves, Grandmother (Mamie)
TO MY LOVING BROTHER...
B for the Brother that cares
E for Everlasting love
R for the Respet I had for you
N .Never to say rm sorry for having you as a brother
A for Always understanding me
R Remembering the times we shared
D for the Deepest emotion we always shared
Rest in peace, my brother.
Your sister Abigail and family
jus as you uvea, so you caea. wuler, peaceiu anra ~woueanng. jesus
said, "In my Father's house are many mansions. If it were not so I would
have told you. I go to prepare a place for you that where I am you may be
also." He kept his promise and silently took you away where there will be
no more pain or fears. Sleep on my beloved, sleep on and take your rest. We
loved you but God loved you best. Farewell Butch, not good-bye.
Aunt Carol and family
Just Ask... Some days we walk a lonely path with tear drops in our eyes,
caught up in worries of the day before we realize that God is there to share
the load no mater what the task. The weight is eased when shared by two
all we need to do is ask. Cousin Butch, I trust that the Man above is
allowing you to rest in peace.
Loe, your cousin Monique
Life is a mystery, unfold it.
A journey, walk it.
Painful, endure it.
Beautiful, see it.
A joke, laugh at it.
A song, sing it.
A flower, smell it.
Wonderful, enjoy it.
A candle, light it.
Precious, don't waste it.
A gift, open it.
Love, give it.
Unlimited, go for it.
Light, shine on it.
You were all that life was, Butch. I will always love you.
Aunt Pat and family
He waited patiently for the Lord's help. Then he listened to Him and he
heard His cry. He pulled him out of the mirey clay and gently held him
securely to him. Bernard trusted in the Lord and I know he is safely in His
arms. Farewell, my loving brother, rest in peace.
Your loving brother, Keith and family
My dear Bernard Jr.... You have left us but you will never be forgotten.
Even though you were far away from home, you never forgot to look me up
when you came to visit other relatives. Jesus has promised a resurrection of
all those who are in the memorial tomb. At that time, all families will be
reunited with their loved ones. Sleep on'til then.
Love, your Grandmother, Caroline Agatha Davis
To my nephew Butch ... You have served your purpose for which you
were placed on earth. Now you have gone to your resting place until the
resurrection. I will remember the humor that we last shared. May you rest
Your Uncle James and Family
Brother Mac You were one-of-a-kind. You were friendly, kind,
pleasant and more. There was always joy in the air when you were around.
But most of all you were a devoted and trustworthy friend. Such a person
will live on and in our hearts. You are still alive! God is with your
Your Friends, Sabango, Lencie and Family
My dear Butch ... May the stem yet gentle and compassionate qualities
you displayed, shape the lives of the young people you touched so warmly.
Thank you for being here during this time, for I too was touched immensely
by your life. I know that you are resting peacefully and will be a part of that
great and crowd that no man can number to inherit the paradise earth.
Your Brother Love, Uncle Kwabena
To my brother Bernard, words will never be able to say exactly how I feel
or the pain that I now carry. Time goes by much too quickly. Just yesterday
you were here and now you are on your journey. There are so many things
that we did not get to do, so many things that I did not get to say. Joys and
sorrows I can not share. Emotions that flow but nowhere to go. I will
always love you.
Sidney I. Swan, Jr.
Bernard, every year on the 15th of January, I would always hear you say
"Happy Birthday" and I in turn would say "Happy Birthday to You", from
now on I will share my birthday with many, but I not be able to share it with
you. You will always be remembered, but you will be remembered more so
on the 15th of January. Rest in peace, sweet Capricorn and go peacefully on
Luz M. Rivera Swan, Sidney, Sidonia and Sergio
Dedicated to the entire family... Most of us have been taught that death
is the ultimate end. Death is frightening; it is dark, the unknown, beyond
our control. We resist death; we brace ourselves against it; we run away
because we do not understand death merely means change. When single
people married, their single life dies. As people age, their days of youth are
gone. Death is the prerequisite of change. When we become willing to
change, we learn to accept death as a meaningful new beginning. We may
neve like the idea of death, it may never make us comfortable; however,
when we want to change anything in life, we must be willing to face death.
Let us move peacefully through the darkness into the light of change.
Monique D. McClean