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w^ The Jewish -m y
FloridiaN
of South County
Volume 9 Number 21
Serving Boca Raton, Delray Beach, and Highland Beach, Florida Friday, August 28,1987
Jews Mount
Opposition
ToBork
TWO-HOUR TALK: U.S. Envoy Charles Hill
(left,) meets with Israel's Prime Minister
Yitzhak Shamir in Jerusalem for talks
which lasted more than two Hours. Shamir
was unavailable for comment, but Hill, who is
executive assistant to U.S. Secretary of State
George Shultz, would only say that he gained
JTA/WZN Nws Photo
'useful insights' and that a 'whole range of
problems' was discussed. Hill, who also met
for similarly lengthy talks with Foreign
Minister Shimon Peres, was in Israel to
pressure the government into getting the stall-
ed Middle East peace process moving again
and to give up on the Lavi jet-fighter project.
By JUDITH COLP
WASHINGTON (JTA) -
Opposition to the nomination
of Judge Robert Bork to the
Supreme Court is mounting in
the Jewish community. The
Jewish War Veterans last
week become the fifth Jewish
organization to voice its
protest.
"Contrary to the Ad-
ministration rhetoric surroun-
ding Bork's nomination, the
issue is one of ideology and the
Supreme Court is not well-
served by extremist posi-
tions," said the statement
issued by Edwin Goldwasser,
the group's national
commander.
The statement by the Jewish
War Veterans, a mainstream
organization, suggests the ex-
tent to which Bork's nomina-
tion is meeting opposition in
the Jewish community. Wor-
ried about Bork's stand on
minority and women's rights
and church-state issues, some
Jewish groups which do not
traditionally oppose presiden-
tial appointments, consider
this one fight where they can
not remain on the sidelines.
ALONG WITH the Jewish
War Veterans, the Union of
American Hebrew Congrega-
tions (UAHC), American
Jewish Congress, B'nai B'rith
Women, National Council of
Jewish Women and New
Jewish Agenda are opposing
Continued on Pace 11-
Coming of Age In America
A Russian Girl Turns Sweet Sixteen
By ALISA KWITNEY
Jewish Floridian Staff Writer
On Aug. 8, a Miami girl
celebrated her birthday with a
very American tradition the
sweet sixteen party.
But this was no ordinary
sweet sixteen party, because
this was no ordinary American
teenager, Mila Kwitney spent
the first eight years of her life
growing up as a typical Rus-
sian child in Kiev.
Most of the approximately
100 people who crowded into
the Troika, a Russian
restaurant in the Dunes Hotel
where the party was held,
were Russian-born, and the
flavor of the evening was ap-
propriately Slavic.
A BAND played Russian
folk tunes as large quantities
of vodka and caviar were con-
sumed throughout the even-
ing, along with other tradi-
tional Russian treats, such as
smoked fish, herring, and
Chicken Kiev. Guests danced
the regional folk dances of
their provinces, from the lively
movements of the Ukraine to
the sensuous, almost Middle
Eastern undulations of
Uzbekistan.
The women, sumptuously
dressed in ballgowns of satin,
sequins, and gold lame, wore
their hair piled high on their
heads, proving that some
70-odd years of Communism
have not affected the Russian
love of extravagance.
The birthday girl, Mila,
changed from a white, satin
floor-length gown to a lacy
white confection midway
through the evening, which
stretched from 8 p.m. to the
small hours of the morning.
Hebrew tunes were also
played, and a Russian-born
rabbi addressed the assembled
guests, speaking in Russian,
the lingua franca of the event.
THE FEW guests who could
not understand Russian, asked
their neighbors for a transla-
tion during the candlelighting
ceremony, during which Mila's
friends and family, including
her maternal grandmother and
uncle, who had come all the
way from Israel, came up to
the stage to join Mila and her
parents, Leon and Irene.
A videotape of Mila, who
handled the evening with the
accomplished poise of ;
seasoned debutante, showed a
different side of the elegant
young woman.
Early black and white pic-
tures revealed a round-faced,
slightly serious child, looking
startlingly old-fashioned with
her solemn eyes and shy smile.
These photographs were
soon replaced by color
videoshots of a vivacious
teenager with a mane of
perfectly-styled hair, groomed
from the tips of her long
fingernails to the toes of her
fringed and studded Western-
style boots.
IT IS the Russian child with
the grave expression and long
braid that I recall. Mila is a dis-
tant cousin of mine, and I met
her in a hotel room in Newark
eight years ago, when my
mother and I first met our
Russian relatives, newly arriv-
ed from Kiev.
Unlike our parents, who
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Page 2 The Jewish Floridian of South County/Friday, August 28, 1987
As A Result of AIDS
Hebrew Academy To Teach A Course On Human Sexuality This Fall
By ELLEN ANN STEIN
Jewish Floridian Staff Writer
The Hebrew Academy, for
the first time, will begin
teaching a course on Human
Sexuality this fall. The course
is scheduled to be offered as an
elective to 10th and 12th grade
students, and will include
discussions on the role of sex
in relationships, physiological
changes that teen-agers go
through, and the difference
between love and sex.
Jessica Schultz, assistant
principal of the junior and
school of the
have it implemented in the
school. And they felt very
strongly that it should be
implemented."
The course will be "value-
based," said Heber, and in a
public school there would be
difficulty with a generic course
in Human Sexuality because
who would choose which
values to base the course on?
"In a Jewish parochial
school, the values are intrin-
sic," Heber said.
FOR EXAMPLE, leading
doctors and public health sec-
Rabbi Yossi Heber
Jessica Schultz
&!3 ejsa Orris sE-
course primarily from a
biological view, and Rabbi
Yossi Heber, principal of the
Academy will teach the course ag
from a philosophical, biblk] r e s u ,ptp 0 f mee d i c a 1
complications.'
the merit of using condoms
during sex. Yet, said Heber,
"the use of condoms is against
Jewish law unless specific rab-
and halachic perspective.
"THE ISSUE of sex educa-
tion became very critical as a
result of the AIDS scare in
America," Heber said. "We
wanted to first get a consensus
of our parents and invited
The idea of implementing
the curriculum is balancing the
tenets of Orthodox tradition
which forbids premarital rela-
tions and the culture of the
Western civilization which ac-
The course will be "value-based,
said Heber, and in a public school
there would be difficulty with a
generic course in Human Sexuality
because who would choose which
values to base the course on?
Marilyn Volker. a I^tunjr to J'S^Heter said,
give a session on the impor- r *
give .
tance of sex education. After-
wards, we asked the parents if
it would be their mandate to
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and significance, as well as the
dangers of an open and free
sexual society."
A goal of the course is to in-
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NCCJ Sending Students
To Philadelphia For
Bicentennial Youth Conference
The National Conference of
Christians and Jews has
awarded scholarships to six
area high school students to
participate in a National Youth combined efforts will result in
comment on problems facing
American democracy from
their perspectives.
'It is expected that their
From the students, Heber
said he doesn't expect "perfec-
tion and an attitude or holier
than though. But I do expect
that they will be receptive to
the fundamental philosophy of
traditional Judaism and that
they will strive to live within
that to the best of their
ability."
ACCORDING to Schultz,
the course will be offered on a
trial basis to 10th and 12th
grade students to see in which
grades it will best be handled.
The course was initially going
to be taught to 10th grade
students, but Schultz said the
school wanted to reach the
seniors before they go out in
the world.
The course will also dwell on
the moral dilemmas a student
faces such as how to say "no,"
understanding why they say
no, and how to overcome peer
pressures.
Schultz also agrees that the
course will likely be different
from similar courses offered in
other schools around the coun-
try. "In most places, they give
the students a lot of facts, and
the teachers are afraid to come
to any sort of judgment on
whether a situation is good or
bad," Schultz said.
"I think it behooves our
school to teach students to
make these judgments, and
the students to make these
judgments."
WHILE THE course will be
a new experience for the
Academy, Schultz asserts that
"it's more risky not to have a
course like this. We're in a
very volatile age where
students hear part-truths. I
think a student has to have an
outlet where they can talk
about it and hear from a com-
petent person on what the
truth really is and modify their
lives, or they may not have
very long to live. It's very
scary."
Although most parents sup-
port the course, Schultz said
she is "sure that there will be
parents who will not want
their kids participating in
these discussions."
The students will have had a
course in biology previous to
this course and therefore will
have a fundamental
background on human
reproduction, she said. The
classes will usually begin with
a discussion by the teachers,
and then the students will be
invited to share their fears or
anxieties.
Conference on the Constitu-
tion, Aug. 18-21, at the
University of Pennsylvania in
Philadelphia.
Alice Solomon, executive
director of Broward NCCJ. an-
nounced that the following
students have been selected to
attend the Youth Conference,
which is being sponsored by
the NCCJ as a part of its
celebration of the 200th an-
niversary of the U.S.
Constitution:
Veronica Blackman, Deer-
field Beach High School;
Joseph Breitfeller, St. Thomas
Aquinas High School; Michelle
Claudio, Boca Raton High
School; Andrew Prank, South
Plantation High School; Bryan
A. Krayer, St. Thomas
Aquinas High School and
Claudia Santana, South
Broward High School.
Approximately 210 high
school juniors and seniors,
reflecting the racial, ethnic
and religious diversity of the
United States, have been
selected from across the coun-
try to attend the conference,
which is entitled "Democracy
Is US," and is designed to
highlight the rights and
responsibilities of citizenship
and the role of citizens in the
ongoing constitutional
process.
Alice Solomon stated that
"This conference, which br-
ings together young people
from across the country, is an
opportunity for American
youth to examine, develop and
a statement to the young peo-
ple of America on the
challenges facing our constitu-
tional democracy as we
observe the bicentennial of the
Constitution."
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Florida Reacts
To Spiraling Cost of Pope's Visit in Miami
By ELLEN ANN STEIN
Jewish Floridian Staff Writer
A diverse group Chris-
tians, Jews, atheists and the
National Organization for
Women, to name a few par-
ticipants has united with
one common goal: to scrutinize
the almost $4 million in state,
county and federal dollars that
will fuel the massive papal visit
to Miami on Sept. 10 and 11.
The group, scheduled to hold
its second meeting this week,
is called the Citizens Commit-
tee for a Constitutional Papal
Visit, and its chief purpose is
to make certain that the public
expenditures do not create a
violation of separation of
church and state.
WHILE THE organization
is not designed to bring a
lawsuit against a government
body if it finds improprieties,
the committee's findings could
result in other groups filing
legal protests, said a key
organizer, State Rep. Mike
Friedman.
"In 1979 in Philadelphia,
after the last papal visit,
Philadelphia got excessive like
Miami has a tendency to do.
They paid for a number of ac-
tivities that afterwards were
found to be inappropriate. And
the Philadelphia Archdiocese
had to repay the city as a
result of a (legal) challenge,"
Friedman said.
The Miami group is hoping
that a lawsuit will not be
necessary, its members say.
They hope that their examina-
tion of every expenditure in
advance of the visit will avoid
problems later.
'SOMETIMES people
temper their decisions when
they know someone will be
monitoring the proces
Friedman told The Jewish
Floridian.
The group's diversity shows
that an interest in maintaining
the constitutional separation
of church and state goes
beyond any particular
religious affiliation.
Some of its members include
Barbara Levinson, an attorney
and board member of the
American Civil Liberties
Union; Chuck Eastman, of the
United Protestant Appeal;
Chesterfield Smith, former
president of the American Bar
Association; Dr. Stanley
Margulies, a concerned in-
dividual; Brent Routman, of
the American Jewish Con-
gress; Rev. Carroll Schuster,
with the First Presbyterian
Church, as well as members
who represent the Seven Day
Adventists and Unitarian
faiths.
The committee was infor-
mally started when Rep.
Friedman, his aide, Susan
Glickman, and members of the
ACLU were examining the
issues of the county's lending
school buses to the Ar-
chdiocese and the construction
30 days in advance of a
100-foot-high cross, platform
and altar on the public proper-
ty of Florida International
University.
THE BUS issue now ap-
pears to be dead, and the bar
on the cross apparently will
not be erected until a day
before the papal mass on the
campus, Glickman said.
Rep. Mike Friedman
The committee has sent let-
ters to all 27 Dade County
municipalities, the Dade Coun-
ty School Board and the coun-
ty government requesting
budgets of all monies being
spent, which are a matter of
public record.
"There are a bunch of poten-
tial issues," Glickman said.
"We are checking the use of
county employees during the
visit, examining the closing of
courts and what the cost to
taxpayers is in relation to clos-
ing the courts and paying the
county bus drivers who will
drive 120 Metro buses (to the
mass)," Glickman said.
"I very consciously made it
(the committee) not all Jews,"
Glickman added. "We don't
see this as a Jewish issue. We
see this as our constitution
which we need to protect."
DIFFERENT members,
however, admit they have
specific areas of concern.
Christos Tzanetakof is direc-
tor of the Florida Chapter of
the Society of Separationists.
"Religiously speaking, we are
all atheists, we don't believe in
God," he said. Why is the
group involved?
"The federal, state and local
government all make a
mockery of the constitution by
their actions regarding the
Friday, August 28, 1987/The Jewish Floridian of South County Page 3
Bohnsack-Lee. "We've been
told $1.5 million will be
allocated from the state for
security. And that security is
not to protect the Pope but to
protect the people. NOW
wants to be sure that included
among those people who need
protection are the clinics and
the people who need
protection. '
Barbara Levinson, a com-
mittee member and ACLU
board member, said her
organization would have
sought legal relief if the school
buses were used but that that
now appears to be a dead
issue. There is nothing else on
the surface that appears
wrong from a legal standpoint,
but it is still too early to make
a forecast, she said.
Pope," Tzanetakof said.
"Spending four million of tax-
payers money for a religious
leader is unconstitutional.
Closing our schools to accom-
modate the Pope has been
unconstitutional.
"Erecting a 100-foot cross
on state-owned university pro-
perty is unconstitutional,
allocating 70 percent of our
police force is unconstitu-
tional, closing our courts to ac-
commodate the Pope is
unconstitutional."
FRAN BOHNSACK-LEE,
president of the Dade County
National Organization for
Women, represents another
concern. In Dade County and
in other cities where the Pope
is scheduled to visit, the clinics
which perform abortions have
received letters threatening
their security if they remain
open on the days of the papal
visit, she said.
"In other words, they want
to stop abortion. That's not
constitutional," said
"ONE BUDGET item I'd be
looking at with scrutiny is
employees of the county who
are used, for example, to sell
tickets for shuttle buses at the
county courthouse. I think
budget items of that nature
would be questionable."
Santiago Leon, an attorney
and member of the Protestant
Church, said he was asked to
examine the placement of the
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Page 4 The Jewish Floridian of South County/Friday, August 28, 1987
Why People Commit Suicide
By RABBI MORDECHAI WINYARZ
Boca Raton Community Synagogue
Several weeks ago I came home to the apart-
ment, flipped on the 2 a.m. news update on chan-
nel 7, and began to doze off. About two minutes
later, I was jolted awake by a startling statistic
moving across the screen. The newscaster was
informing me, with the kind of equanimity only
newsmen can muster, that Florida has the
highest suicide rate in the nation. Sixteen out of
every one hundred thousand people commit
suicide. Deeply troubled by that figure, I did
some research the next day and discovered an
even more frightening statistic. One survey
argued that one out of every two people con-
template the option of suicide at some time in
their lives. It doesn't take a depth analysis of
suicide psychology to figure out that at the very
least the statistics tell us there are a lot of deep-
ly unhappy people out there. And that hurts me.
Somehow, all the pop manuals on "self help"
and "the roads to happiness" don't seem to be
helping. The plethora of psychologists,
psychiatrists, therapists, and counselors, while
clearly enriching themselves, don't seem to be
making the world any happier. Perhaps, just
maybe people are looking in all the wrong
places.
The Talmud, in analyzing the ultimate raison
de etre of Torah, observes, "The entire Torah
was only given for the sake of Shalom." Shalom,
while sometimes translated as peace, has a much
deeper meaning. Etymologically, the word,
shalom, is derived from the Hebrew root which
means wholeness or completeness. A careful
reading of its uses in Jewish sources yields the
following conclusion. Shalom, in its most pro-
foundly simple sense, means theraputic
wholeness or the balanced and complete per-
sonality. The Talmudic sages insist that the telos
of the Jewish Halacha (way) is the creation of a
contented, happy, and integrated personality.
Given the above, the rabbis always assumed in
interpreting any biblical text, whether its overt
nature is philosophical, moral, theological, or
historical, that its true understanding must shed
new light on the human condition. The text
teaches us to live fuller, happier, and more
meaningful lives. Thus, when I am hurt by the
unhappiness of so much of the world and find
myself wanting so much to help people live hap-
pily, I look first to Torah for guidance and
inspiration.
Let's study a text together and see if perhaps
it may speak to us and to the problems of our
age. Our text will be Numbers Chapters 13 and
14, the story of the spies who Moses sends to
reconnoiter the land before its conquest. But
first several words of introduction to frame
what will be the essential difficulty in our
passage.
Jews are known for their independence of
thought. No one will tell us how to think, when
to think, and certainly not what to think. An old
Yiddish saying has it that the only thing two
Jews can agree on is how much a third should
give to charity; or if you prefer the more popular
version: A Jew is shipwrecked on an island and
after recovering from the shock and finding
himself totally alone on the island, he decides to
create for himself a place to pray. And so he sets
out to build a synagogue. Twenty years later
when he's rescued from the island, the rescuers
query him as to the reason he had built two big
beautiful synagogues on the island. He answers
impatiently as if not even understanding their
question. "Of course I built two synagogues.
One to pray in, and the other one, I'm so angry
at them, I wouldn't set foot in there."
Given all that, when we open the Book of
Numbers and hear the story of the twelve spies
who Moses sent to spy out the land before its
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conquest, we should hardly be surprised that
there was no unanimity of opinion. A small
minority of two, Joshua and Caleb, reported
that the land could indeed be conquered. The re-
maining ten disagreed. "This is "Mission Im-
possible," they said. "The cities are im-
pregnable; their inhabitants are giants."
Yet, for some seemingly inexplicable reason,
G-d is infuriated with the report of the spies. G-d
saw in the report of the spies something so
negative, so nefarious, and so undermining of
the essential Jewish idea, that he felt the spies
had violated a capital crime. Unhappily, the peo-
ple also, impressed with the size of the maiority,
bought into the report of the ten spies and were
punished with 40 years of desert wandering. On-
ly after the generation of the spies had died out,
did G-d feel it appropriate to begin normative
Jewish history with the crossing of the river into
Israel and the creation of an ethical Jewish
society on both banks of the Jordan.
What went wrong? What was there in the
report of those spies that went so against the
grain of basic Judaism? And didn't Moses
himself in Deuteronomy (Chapter 9 Verses 1, 2)
describe the reality of Canaan in much the same
terms as the spies? "Hear O' Israel, you are to
cross the Jordan this day, to go in and dispossess
nations greater and mightier than yourself,
cities great and fortified to heaven, a people
great and tall, the sons of giants of whom you
have heard it said can stand before the sons of
Anak." And yet Moses is nowhere called to task
by G-d while the spies are convicted by the text
of an unspecified capital crime.
The key to understanding our problem and
unravelling the hidden meaning of the text lies
in a close rereading of our verses and a deeper
understanding of human nature.
The spies, in introducing their report which
suggested that the land was unconquerable, use
a Hebrew word "Efes" which most of the
English texts misunderstand and thus
mistranslate as "howbeit" (not a very exciting
word). What "Efes" in fact means is "nothing"
or "of no value" or "worthless."
The word doesn't seem to fit into the flow of
the text and it puzzled the translators. Actually
"Efes" is the key word. "Efes" is what the spies
were saying about themselves and the Jewish
People. "Efes," they said. "We are nothing,
we're worthless we lack the ability and/or the
merit for great accomplishment." The spies suf-
fered from a critical lack of self esteem. It
wasn't that the spies didn't believe in G-d. They
did. The problem was they didn't believe in
themselves. "We cannot go up." It's beyond us
not because they're great, but because we're so
small. Joshua and Caleb don't argue with the
spies' description of the land; they argue with
the spies' evaluation of themselves. "We can do
it." "We are significant and worthwhile peo-
ple," says Joshua. "You've got to believe in
yourselves," says Caleb.
What was their argument? What competing
philosophies were at play in the debate between
the two and 10 spies? -
Their argument revolved around two different
views of the human being. For the secularist,
man can be no more than an amalgamation of
gases and molecules, drives and desires, all of
which he is subject to and few of which he con-
trols. Man is alive one second and dead the next;
a transitory speck in the galaxy of time. Clearly
such a being is not significant in any sense. If so,
one cannot really expect much from man.
Caught between the conflicting demands of ego
and id, eros and thantos, man is a complex
machine whose limitations far exceed his
capacities. And surely such a being has no
reason for confidence. Thus the 10 spies felt
overwhelmed by their finiteness; they felt all too
keenly a profound sense of worthlessness.
It is here that Joshua and Caleb take issue.
Their argument begins with the apparent non
sequiter. "If G-d relates to us." If G-d relates to
us, then by the very act of relationship we
become significant. If G-d relates to us it's
because we are intrinsically worthwhile beings
of finite value and ultimate dignity. Joshua and
Caleb understand that the human being is
literally a divine miniature capable of magnifi-
cent acomplishment whose every action is mean-
ingful and real. The two spies understood deeply
that the human being lives before G-d and
dialogs with G-d. Certainly such a being is
significant. Clearly such a person is required to
have enormous self-esteem.
The 10 spies said, "We were, in their eyes, as
grasshoppers, and so we are in our own eyes."
The key phrase is the second one; because we
lack any self worth we feel that other people also
view us as being unworthy. We think we are
grasshoppers, so naturally we project and think
everyone else also thinks we are grasshoppers.
Rashi, the great medieval commentator, citing
the Medrash, reports that the spies claimed to
hear the Canaanites describing the spies by say-
ing to each other, "Did you see those ants in the
fields?" In all probability, the spies didn't hear
anything. They may not even have understood
the local dialect, but they felt so inferior and
worthless that they imagined, "This is what peo-
ple must be saying about us." Therein lays their
sin. Judaism demands not only faith in G-d, it
demands faith in man. To deny the potential
greatness of man is in effect to deny G-cf. To say,
"I can't," when G-d by creating me in his image
says, "You can," is the ultimate blasphemy. We
can because G-d says we can. We are important
because G-d made us important. Every action
we take, every move we make, every breath we
draw, is laden with cosmic import because G-d
made us that way.
The failure to understand the message of the
two spies is the malaise which afflicts much of
contemporary society. Our self-esteem derives
from things which are so external and fleeting
that we can never quite grasp and internalize it.
If self-worth comes from physical prowess, then
even at the height of our physical strength, we
know we'll grow old and weak. If our positive
valuing is rooted in beauty, the wrinkles are
never far behind. If it derives from wealth, posi-
tion, or fortune, we know all too well how tran-
sitory and shallow these really are. And what if I
lose my money, or I don't feel I really deserve it;
isn't that a shaky foundation for relating to
myself. Further, if I don't have a deep true
sense of my own worth, I feel forced to compen-
sate. I try and cover up or fill the void.
Sometimes we'll take our frustrations out on our
wives. I'm frustrated with myself so I emotional-
ly abuse my wife, is an all too familiar scenario.
If I don't love myself, how can I love you, and if I
can't love you, how can I be happy? In another
context, we may unconsciously tend to dominate
our children making all their decisions for them
and nearly suffocating them in order to give
ourselves a sense of being needed and impor-
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A Loss in Jewish Identity
Intermarriage May Work for SomeBut
For Others, And the Experts, It Spells Failure
By ELLEN ANN STEIN
Jewiah Floridian Staff Writer
The numbers vary greatly,
but about half of all interfaith
marriages take place break up,
meaning one out of every two
intermarriages will end in
divorce, according to Brooklyn
College's Sociology Prof. Egon
Mayer.
Divorce, Mayer said in an in-
terview with The Jewish Flori-
dian this week, "is most often
the result of marriages bet-
ween Jews and Christians
when there is no conversion.
When there is conversion, the
incidence of divorce is about
the same as it is for other
Jewish married couples."
Mayer is the author of "Love
and Tradition: Marriage Bet-
ween Jews and Christians," an
authoritative work in the field,
which he spent over 10 years
researching.
IN ADDITION to its inter-
view with Prof. Mayer, The
Jewish Floridian also spoke ex-
tensively with couples in South
Florida who are intermarried.
In some cases, the apparent
harmony of a marriage was
based on the placement of a
Chanukah menorah next to a
Christmas tree. There were
those marriages, too, that sur-
vived because one of the part-
ners converted. Many of their
stories involved conflicts that
developed at the level of family
and friends, and over the issue
of how the children would be
raised.
Of the couples interviewed,
those whose marriages had not
survived their differences
would not speak for the
record.
"MOST PEOPLE don't
specify their reasons for com-
ing in for counseling" when
they have intermarriage pro-
blems, says Rose Chapman,
director of the Family and
Children Service Department
of Jewish Family Services in
Miami.
"They'll call because they're
having communications pro-
blems, or extended family pro-
blems, or money problems.
But during counseling, the in-
terfaith issue inevitably comes
up.
"My guess is that, very
often, for the people who
marry out of their faith, it's
MARY AND STEPHEN ROGERS.
CORNELIA
CLAIRE.
AND JOEL RAPPOPORT WITH DAUGHTER
not an acceptable situation,
and the family is usually not
approving. If they call and say
they have an interfaith pro-
blem, it's almost like the fami-
ly said, 'I told you so.' "
Of the interfaith couples in-
terviewed whose marriages
have lasted, religion was never
a factor which could be
ignored.
JOEL AND Cornelia Rap-
poport, of Miami, say their
marriage remains strong after
15 years even though he has
remained Jewish, and she has
remained Protestant. Religion
is a strong element in their in-
termarriage for each, and it
survives because both have
learned to accommodate to
each other's deep convictions.
Joel, vice president of cor-
porate communications for
Chase Federal Savings and
Loan Association, remembers
that his father sent him a let-
ter when he learned that his
son was marrying a Protestant
college sweetheart.
THE LETTER said that
Joel didn't realize what he was
getting himself into, and that
somewhere down the road it
was going to haunt him. Joel
recalls that his mother hadn't
been too concerned. "She saw
us as being two people in
love," Joel explains.
"It is one thing to try to live
up to your parent's expecta-
tions, and then there comes a
point where you have to live
for yourself and not for your
parents," Joel says of his deci-
sion to marry. "It was a tough
decision, but not a decision I
regret."
Joel, who was a student at
the University of Florida at
the time, called a rabbi in
Gainesville, but the rabbi said
he would not perform the
ceremony. So Joel and Cor-
nelia were married by a notary
at the college dormitory.
THEY SAY they both mov-
ed away from their respective
religious backgrounds. Joel
began to distance himself from
Judaism after his Bar Mitzvah.
"Eventually, I got to the point
where I considered myself
ethnically Jewish but not
religiously Jewish," he admits.
For Cornelia, a freelance
claims adjuster, the break with
tradition came when she was
at college at about age 20.
"I was tasting my first
freedom from home and other
rigid strictures. I was just
totally controlled at home
about what I would do and
where I would go," she says.
ONE DAY, after Joel and
Cornelia talked about getting
married, Cornelia casually ask-
ed Joel if he would ever
convert.
"He stopped the car and
pulled over, and he looked at
me. He couldn't believe what I
was saying, and he said, 'Are
you kidding me?'
"That was the first indica-
tion I had that there was a
wide gap between us in a
religious sense. But it didn't
intimidate me because when
you're young and in love you
think you can surmount
anything," Cornelia recalls.
Cornelia says the argument
about religion continued into
their marriage, but it wasn't
about Judaism versus
Christianity.
"We argued about whether
or not there is a God. He
couldn't believe in the ex-
istence of God, whereas I cer-
tainly did, and he was totally
against having a Christmas
tree or any other semblence of
religious life in the house,"
says Cornelia.
"IT BOTHERED me every
Christmas because here I was,
used to having Christmas
trees, carrolling the whole
thing and then all of a sud-
den it wasn't allowed," Cor-
nelia admits. "The reason I
went along with it was that 1
felt his need for not having it
in the house was greater than
my need for having it."
Joel and Cornelia agree that
the issue came to a head when
their daughter, Claire, was
born four and a half years ago.
"As much as I'd say I'm not
religious anymore, and I don't
care if our daughter is not rais-
ed Jewish, I would care very
much if she were raised
something else," says Joel.
THE COUPLE came to
what Cornelia calls a very
"mature agreement," that
their daughter would learn
about both religions.
Joel says his two sisters, who
both married Jewish men, are
now divorced. He asserts that
his father has come a long way
in his thinking.
"My father realizes Cornelia
is just a wonderful person, and
religion doesn't enter the pic-
ture. He realized marrying
within the religion is not
necessarily a ticket to life-long
happiness," says Joel.
In this same regard, Prof.
Mayer told the Jewish Flori-
dian that it is important that if
people do intermarry that they
don't settle for "simple-
minded, smug solutions such
as love will conquer all or that
religion doesn't matter.
Because, in fact, love does not
conquer all, and religion does
matter, even if you're not
religious."
One of the great fears about
intermarriage is that Jews will
suffer a demographic decline.
Bernard Kantrowitz and
daughter Johanne.
Says Prof. Egon
Mayer, renowned
Brooklyn College
sociologist: 'It is a
given that
intermarriage is not
recommended for
Jewish reasons as
well as psychological
reasons. It is more
desireable that people
who marry come
from similar social
backgrounds and
cultures.'
A real problem, Mayer adds, is
that in trying to cope with the
potential threat, the different
movements in Judaism have
developed different methods
of coping, which has produced
conflict among the various
branches.
Then there are the related
problems of tension within the
Jewish family because, Mayer
says, intermarriage does
create conflict between adult
children and their parents and
a fear of their possible decline
in their support for Israel.
MAYER CITES the case of
an Italian-Jewish couple. The
wife was Catholic, the hus-
band, Jewish. The Italian fami-
ly was much more demanding,
Mayer reports. They had an
expectation that their
daughter's offspring be
baptized.
The Jewish side of the family
wanted the child, a lx>y, cir-
cumcised. The couple couldn't
delay the decision to circum-
cise the child (the ceremony
takes place eight days after
birth), but the wife kept wan-
ting to have the child baptized
as well.
Says Mayer, "As far as I can
tell, that was the trigger for
pointing up the difference bet-
ween the two of them. Even-
tually they ended up getting
divorced. I can't say that they
got divorced over that issue
that would be foolish. But that
particular issue became the
trigger for highlighting dif-
ferences between husband and
wife which they just couldn't
overcome."
COUPLES CAN do
themselves a big favor if they
recognize their differences
before marriage rather than
try to bury the reality of their
differences, as they often do,
Mayer contends.
Burying differences can
work fine in the initial stage of
courtship when romance is at
its peak, but eventually the dif-
ferences will come out, he
warns.
Dolores and Bernard Kan-
trowitz of Perrine say their
23-year interfaith marriage
began with an agreement on
various religious issues before
they took their wedding vows.
BERNARD, 62, owner of an
export company, came from an
Orthodox family including a
grandfather who was a rabbi.
He experienced anti-Semitism
and remembers one bar and
grill in Wichita Fall, Tex.
which had a sign on it: "No
Jews and dogs allowed."
Just as Bernard's New York
neighborhood was Jewish,
Dolores' was Catholic, and
mixed marriages, she said,
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Florida Reacts
To Spiraling Cost of Pope's Visit in Miami
Monthly Consumer Index Rises
Continued from Page 3
cross on Fill property.
"What you're talking about
is putting up an enormous
religious symbol on public pro-
perty. It looks very much like
FIU is embracing and endors-
ing the principles of Christiani-
ty," Leon said.
There is another area that no
one can really figure out what
to do with, Leon said: FIU is
shutting down its campus for
the day that the papal mass
will be held.
"THERE ARE a lot of peo-
ple who work at FIU, and they
are going to be given an in-
voluntary day off without pay.
They've got the opportunity to
make it up in that pay period
by working extra days. On the
other hand, if you had FIU pay
them for that day, that could
cause a problem too because it
would look like FIU is suppor-
ting religion."
When the day of the papal
mass is over, Dade County
businesses should realize much
money from tourism, and mer-
chants should do well selling
papal paraphernalia, as well as
everything from hot dogs to
ice cream.
And part of the problem that
is leading to the expensive
security and manpower situa-
tion is the interest of members
of various faiths in seeing the
Pope during the papal parade
and mass that is expected to
draw between 300,000 and
500,000 participants, if traffic
will allow that many to con-
gregate at one time.
Says Friedman: "I do not
believe that we are unable to
Peres, Rabin
Reject Deal
To Resolve
Taba Dispute
By HUGH ORGEL
TEL AVIV (JTA) -
Foreign Minister Shimon
Peres and Defense Minister
Yitzhak Rabin have rejected
an American compromise pro-
posal to resolve the Israeli-
Egyptian border dispute over
Taba, and decided to continue
with international arbitration
in Geneva.
Under the U.S. proposal,
submitted to Jerusalem and
Cairo three months ago, Egypt
would be given sovereignty
over the whole area while
Israel would be granted full
and more or less free access to
the Taba region.
THE PROPOSAL also pro-
vides for some foi m of continu-
ing Israeli ov. of the
Sonesta Hotel and the Rafi
Nelson "village" at the site.
The Israeli leaders and their
advisers are believed to feel
that Israel has a sufficiently
good case to warrant going on
-to international arbitration.
Israeli papers say that
Premier Yitzhak Shamir has
not been consulted about the
American proposals but is
understood to be "open to
compromise but it depends
on what sort of compromise."
have a successful papal visit
that is compatible with the
separation of church and state.
I don't think those two things
are incompatible. I don't see a
reason for those two things to
come into conflict as long as
we are vigilant."
Still, Rep. Friedman says
priorities seem to have gone
somewhat awry over the papal
visit. Friedman said he propos-
ed a bill providing $4.3 million
for the homeless, and it got
knocked down to $1 million.
The state appropriation for the
Pope began at under, half a
million and ended up at $1.5
million.
That the state money is go-
ing for papal security is not an
area of contention, the
legislator said. What bothers
him, though, is that the
legislative process was duck-
ed. When the papal expen-
diture was discussed on the
floor it was under $500,000.
"THE LAST night of the
session when the final budget
was given to us at 4 a.m., I saw
that the Pope's budget had
become $1.5 million," Fried-
man said. "I cannot find who
requested it, so the process
gives me reason to be
somewhat concerned."
Friedman, a school teacher
who says he carries around a
copy of the Constitution in his
pocket, says there is no better
time to protect the constitu-
tion than during the years of
its 200th anniversary.
"I'm Jewish. It's clear to me
that Judaism benefits from
government's staying out.
Same for Catholicism. Govern-
ment leaves religion alone
that is the beauty of our
system.
"If you don't assert it, you
can lose it. It's like every other
issue. You must learn from
history that vigilance is the
price you pay for freedom. It
applies to my history as a
Jewish citizen, and as a citizen
of the U.S."
JERUSALEM (JTA) -
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of Statistics attributed the low
inflation rate to substantial
drops in the prices of fruit and
vegetables, and of clothing,
during July. The July figure
means that employers will not
have to pay a cost-of-living in-
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Intermarriage May Work for Some
But For Others, And the
Experts, It Spells Failure
Continued from Page 5
were virtually unheard of.
They ended up getting married
in a judge's chambers in Arl-
ington, Va.
Bernard's parents were
dead when he got married.
Dolores, 47, said her parents
"were not thrilled, but they
never made him feel like he
wasn't wanted or loved."
An agreement was made at
the outset that there would not
be any arguments about
religion, that each would
respect the other's religion,
Dolores says.
BERNARD SAYS the cou
pie made an agreement that if
the first child was a boy, all the
children would be raised in the
Jewish faith. "I used to go to
synagogue all the time with
my parents, and I wanted so-
meone to carry on my name,"
he says.
But the couple had two girls,
Johanne and Jennifer. When
they were young, they went to
Catholic school, and, according
to Dolores, "were just as com-
fortable in the church as they
were in the synagogue."
Jennifer, now 18, is struggl-
ing within herself over the
issue of religion.
"I'd always been raised
Catholic except that I was
always part of the Jewish
religion also," Jennifer told
the Jewish Floridian. "I was
introduced to both religions
equally, but I was still con-
sidered being Catholic because
I've been baptized."
DOLORES despite her own
religion, got a job working
with Hillel as an ad-
ministrative assistant, and
found out about a study pro-
gram in Israel. She sent Jen-
nifer there for a semester of
study.
"That's when I really
started doubting the Catholic
faith," Jennifer says. "Now I
have a question in my mind of
what I want to be. My parents
have been good to me, and
they haven't tried to persuade
me either way. So now it's
really up to me what I want to
do. Now I think I'm going to
convert and become Jewish."
Jennifer says that in her house
the family will celebrate both
Passover and Easter. "We'll
have a menorah next to the
Christmas tree," she says.
"We really have the best of
both worlds. I feel like I'm a
well-rounded person. I have an
understanding of two religions
now, some people only have an
understanding of their own
religion."
Gauging the number of in-
termarriages in the United
States is difficult because the
U.S. Census is not permitted
to ask questions about religion,
according to Larry Grossman,
a program specialist with the
American Jewish Committee's
National Jewish Family
Center in New York.
GENERALLY, the
estimates will range from 20 to
30 percent of Jews who are
married to non-Jews,
Grossman said, adding that
the divorce rate for mixed
religion couples is indeed
higher than for same-religion
couples.
"Even if neither partner is
particularly religious in the
sense of praying or ritual,
there are all sorts of cultural
aspects of being brought up a
Christian or a Jew. such as
having a Christmas tree,
asserts Grossman.
Increasingly, he says, there
has been a tendancy for the
non-Jewish partner to convert
to Judaism, which was very
rare years ago. This is partly
because there is a general
decline in anti-Semitism, and
Judaism as a religion is looked
up to and admired.
"WE HAVE done several
studies which indicate in inter-
marriages if the non-Jewish
spouse converts, the
Jewishness of the children
seems to be just about the
same as the Jewishness of the
children of two Jewish
parents," Grossman says.
"If the non-Jewish spouse
doesn't convert, it's very
unlikely that the children will
identify Jewishly. For this
reason there's been a great in-
terest in the Jewish communi-
ty to encourage non-Jewish
spouses to convert to Judaism,
which is not that easy, because
Jews have a tradition of not
trying to convert people into
Jews."
Stephen Rogers and his
wife, Mary, of Miami, have
been married for almost six
years. Stephen, a CPA, was
born and raised Jewish. Mary,
a registered nurse, was raised
as a Roman Catholic but has
since converted to Judaism.
The couple met at an airport.
They were waiting for people
to come off the same flight.
Stephen struck up a conversa-
tion and asked Mary if he could
call her and take her out. A
year later, they married.
STEPHEN, 36, says his
parents "were both very hap-
py that I found someone I lov-
ed. They would think hap-
piness is more important than
just finding someone who is
Jewish. But they were both
very delighted that Mary was
converted."
But conversion had not
become important until Mary
became pregnant.
"We had decided before we
were married that we would
raise our children Jewish. I
was pretty insistent on that."
Stephen gets philosophical
about that issue.
Today's society is losing the
unity of the family, he says. He
blames that in part on drifting
from the traditions of organiz-
ed religion.
"THE FIRST thing we
decided," Stephen says, "is
that we needed a religion for
the family." And for Stephen,
it was "just impossible" to
believe in anything but
Judaism. The decision must
not have been easy for Mary,
Stephen believes. "This is a
step that I love her very much
for."
"It's my personal belief,"
Stephen says, "that in order
for Judaism to survive, par-
ticularly in the American
culture, there has to be some
line drawn as to the degree of
assimilation we go through,
and this includes intermar-
riage. You have children not
brought up under any par-
ticular religion, and then
Judaism will not be followed
by their children."
Mary, 39, says her mother
was a Protestant who con-
verted to Catholicism upon her
own marriage to a Roman
Catholic. Her mother told her
she would have converted to
whatever religion her husband
had for the sake of the
marriage.
MARY AGREES with the
old adage: "The family who
prays together, stays
together."
Mary went through an
18-week conversion class at
Temple Judea under the
auspices of the Union of
Hebrew American
Congregations.
"When I started my conver-
sion class, the one thing I
believed is that I will have a
problem if I have to renounce
the Roman Catholic faith. But
he (the rabbi) said that wasn't
necessary. It wasn't a question
of renouncing; it was just a
decision to follow Judaism,"
Mary says.
ACCORDING TO Brooklyn
College's Mayer, many inter-
marriages occur as a second
marriage. In the case of Mary
Rogers, she had been married
before she met Stephen and
said that she was not permit-
ted to get married again in the
Roman Catholic Church, which
does not recognize divorce.
Intermarriage, says Mayer,
does not spell the end of the
line in Jewish identity. A great
deal depends on what the
Jewish partner wants as a
Jew, and often it is the Jewish
partner who determines
whether children of the inter-
marriage will be raised as a
Jew.
Synagogues and agencies
have become more
sophisticated in providing pro-
grams for people who are in-
termarried, as well as for
parents involved in
intermarriage.
"People do care about their
parents, people also care about
their future children," accor-
ding to Mayer. "And no mat-
ter how much one loves a hus-
band or wife, one would like to
provide a home for children
that is relatively harmonious.
And differences in religious
background," Mayer says,
"can cause conflict, and the
concern is real."
ANN FERNANDEZ, a Jew,
married Toni, who was
Catholic. They raised their
daughter Jewish, although
RANDY AND DAVID MOGEN.
Oscar and Linda Ferguson III (left), son-in-law and daughter of
Ann and Tony Fernandez (right). Both parents and daughter are
intermarried.
Toni did not convert, but their
daughter also married a non-
Jew.
Ann and Tony, of Kendall,
have been married 27 years.
Ann is president of the
Horizon's Chapter of B'nai
B'rith Women and works as a
secretary/treasurer in her hus-
band's garment-cutting plants.
Ann's first marriage to a
Jewish man when she was 18
didn't work out. She met Tony
when he came into her father's
grocery store in Miami.
"MY PARENTS never en-
couraged me one way or the
other," Ann recalls. "I never
had religious training. Tony
had no religious background,
and he wanted to join my
family."
BUT WHEN their grown
daughter announced that she
was quitting college and mar-
rying a man from Mississippi,
Ann was alarmed.
"Neither my husband,
originally from Cuba, nor I
understood the background of
anyone from the deep south,
and we hadn't met the young
man when she sprang this on
us."
When the couple met
daughter Linda's fiance Oscar,
they found he came from an
educated background. "But he
also admitted to us that he
knew nothing or cared nothing
about Linda's religious
background," Ann says. "He
only knew that he loved our
daughter."
ANN SAYS she was "very,
very upset," when she found
out Oscar was not Jewish.
How could this be when she
married interfaith herself?
"It's not easy for someone to
understand, but I never felt
there was any threat to my
religious background or
religion when I married
Tony," says Ann.
"Tony agreed from the very
beginning to go along with
whatever religious beliefs I
had, because he had no
religious background. We both
believed in God, and that was
enough. We thought that our
love would be the kindling for
our entire future together."
Ann and Tony say they made
a beautiful wedding for their
daughter, and that Oscar pro-
mised the rabbi he would help
Linda raise their children to be
Jewish. The couple have not
had children yet.
RAISING CHILDREN
Jewish is an agreement that a
Broward County couple made
before they married. David
Mogen, Lutheran, said he
would convert to his wife
Randy's religion, Judaism, if
the couple have children.
"It was a mutual agreement.
There's no pressure though,"
says David.
"At first, my parents wished
I would have married someone
Jewish, but as soon as they
met David they liked him very
Dolores Kantrowitz
daughter Jennifer.
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much," recalls Randy.
"My parents are pretty
liberal-minded, and they want
to see me happy. They do insist
that if we have a child, the
child is to be brought up
Jewish. I definitely want the
child to be Jewish. I'd like him
to be exposed to a religion, and
then he can make a decision
later on.
"Sometimes now, I may feel
a little bit like why didn't I
marry a Jew, but then again
sometimes I think why didn't I
marry a doctor? It really didn't
have any bearing on whether I
married a Jew or a non-Jew. I
was brought up with a wide
variety of people, different
cultures, different
backgrounds. Most of the peo-
ple I dated were not Jews.
"DURING A holiday, I
know David in his heart would
like to celebrate Christmas or
something like that, but he
doesn't because he knows my
feelings about it.
"Marriage," says Randy,
"has its ups and downs, like all
marriages. But none of it, at
least for us, is based on
religion. Every once in a while,
we talk about his conversion,
and I say I'd like to go with
him because I'd like to learn
more about my religion too.
His biggest excuse right now
for not converting is that he
doesn't have the time."
David, who, like Randy, is a
teacher, says: "My parents
were a little bit discouraged,
but they didn't come right out
and say it. They've accepted
her just like anyone else.'
Family Roots
AMSTERDAM (JTA) -
Dutch Jews eager to trace
their family roots have
welcomed the establishment of
a Dutch Society for Jewish
Genealogy in this city. More
than 150 persons visited its of-
fice here on its first day of
operation
It's Blackman Again
NEW YORK (JTA) -
Julius Blackman of San Fran-
cisco has been reelected presi-
dent of the Association of
Hebrew Free Loans.
AS A YOUTH, David says
he was active in the church,
but eventually he "burned out.
As an adult, I just didn't want
anything to do with the church
and organized religion. I guess
because I was so programmed
by it at an ealy age."
David says Randy makes a
Passover holiday that he
rather enjoys.
"If I were to pick Christiani-
ty or Judaism," he says, "I'd
pick Judaism. I like the tradi-
tion, the history and the family
orientation."
For the couples involved in
interfaith marriages who have
remained together, they say
the foundation has been
steadied by a mutual respect, a
discussion of their religious
differences before marriage,
and a decision on how their
children would be raised.
"Very happy" is the term
most used to refer to their
marriages as they stand today.
BUT DESPITE some of
these apparent success stories,
Prof. Mayer warns those con-
templating intermarriage, "it
is a given that intermarriage is
not recommended for Jewish
reasons as well as
psychological reasons. It is
more desireable that people
who marry come from similar
social backgrounds and
cultures."
Further, Mayer says, "to a
large extent, intermarriages
are second marriages. People
who have been divorced once
before are more likely to inter-
marry. That means that
they've already had an ex-
perience with divorce, which
means that if they now face
problems, be it around
childrearing, parental
pressure, money, sex,
whatever the problems are
that they face, because they
have gone through one ex-
perience of divorce they're
much more likely to get divorc-
ed again.
"I think what it all adds up
to from the point of Jewish
continuity, is that survival
really is in our own hands, as a
community and as in-
dividuals," and intermarriage
poses problems for that
continuity.
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Why People Commit Suicide
Continued front Page 4-
tant. Conversely, we may become insecure, we
become afraid to stand up for what we believe in
because we lack sufficient respect for our own
beliefs. After all, if I am not essentially worthy,
of what real value can my beliefs be?
Why do so many people in Florida commit
suicide? Because people don't really believe that
their own lives are worth living. When the
shallow superficialities which make us feel good
about ourselves disappear, the lurking question
becomes, "Why go on living?" For every person
that tragically confronts the seemingly
vacuousness of being through suicide, there are
another 10,000 people who feel their lives are
worthless.
Life without an intrinsic sense of worthiness,
which can only ultimately derive from living
before G-d, becomes a nightmarish confusion of
drives, demands, wants, and pressures. Each
one pulls in a different direction, each demands
that it be satisfied. It becomes almost impossible
to know what I truly want or even who I really
am. Such is the tragedy of Modern Man. The
Torah response is simple and clear. "Modern
Man, above all to thine own self be true, for your
own self is created in G-d's image." Your life is
lived out before G-d and thus infused with in-
finite value, meaning, and dignity. When and on-
ly when we are able to know and internalize this
basic truth about the human condition will in-
dividuals begin to find comfort in their lives. The
world will become a happier place. And isn't that
what it's all about!
B'NAI B'RITH
Jacob Lodge 3246
Dr. Edward Kingsley, B'nai
B'rith, West Delray Jacob
Lodge No. 3246, Program
Vice President, has spent the
summer months developing
the theme, "Information
About Jews And Judaism
Issues in Modem Jewish Life"
with the four functioning
pulpit rabbis in the Delray
area. This culminated in the
finalizing of plans for an un-
precedented, historic forum, to
take place Tuesday, Oct. 20,
7:30 p.m., at Temple Emeth,
on West Atlantic Ave., West
Delray.
The first of its kind, the
forum will present the
spiritual leaders of the four
synagogues and temples in a
new light, not only to all
members of respective houses
of worship, but also to some
75,000 Jews in the Delray-
Boca Raton area who are
known not to be affiliated at
all. Because religious services
are held at the same time, con-
gregants who worship in a
given synagogue rarely have
an opportunity to see and hear
neighboring rabbis deliver ser-
mons or conduct discussions.
Rabbi Pinchas Aloof, Con-
servative Temple Anshei
Shalom, will offer 'Bio Ethics
Halachic View, Judaic
Ethics for Social Issues of Cur-
rent Interest." Rabbi Dr.
Louis L. Sacks, Orthodox Con-
gregation Anshei Emuna, will
propound, "Synagouge
Awareness-role of the
Synagogue-Influence in
American Jewish Life." To be
presented by Rabbi Samuel
Silver, Reform Temple Sinai,
will be, "Our Common
Heritage Influence of
Jewish Humor." "What is a
Jew Who Speaks for
Whom?" will be developed in
detail by Rabbi Elliot J.
Winograd, Conservative Tem-
ple Emeth.
The audience will be invited
to participate in a question and
answer period.
The invitation to attend the
Oct. 20 forum is extended to
the officers and members of
the 65 organizations in the
community and to officers and
members of contiguous B'nai
B'rith Lodges and Units.
Jacob Lodge No. 3246, B'nai
B'rith will hold its fall season
inaugural breakfast member
ship meeting, Tuesday, Oct. 6
9:30 a.m., at Temple Anshei
Shalom, West Atlantic Ave.
one mile east of Florida Turn
pike Delray Beach Exit 32
Ladies are invited. The pro
gram for Charter application
to change from a Lodge to a
Unit will be presented. Bob
Baraett is Lodge President.
For further information con-
tact Jack M. Levine, public
relations vice president,
498-1564.
BOYNTON BEACH
JEWISH CENTER
BETH KODESH
Rabbi Leon B. Fink's Ser-
mon Topic for Friday, Aug. 28,
will be, "Is It Fair To Pro-
secute Ollie North Who Has
Become An American Folk
Hero?" Following the sermon,
there will be a discussion on
the sermon topic.
NA'AMAT-USA
Na'amat-USA (Pioneer
Women), Shoshona Club of
Delray Villas, will hold a
general meeting on Wednes-
day, Sept. y at 10:30 a.m. in
the clubhouse of Delray Villas,
located on Circular Drive,
Delray Beach. A mini-
breakfast will be served.
At that time a Talk Show,
featuring Clara Berkowitz as
hostess, will be featured.
For further information call
Marilyn Quinter at 499-0075.
WOMEN'S AMERICAN
ORT
Coming events:
Monday, Sept. 7: Labor Day,
Cruise and Dinner on Inland
Waterways. Cruise 1:30 p.m.
Dinner 4 p.m. Choice of menu.
$26. Call Dotty 483-0070 or
Lillian 483-1822.
Wednesday, Sept. 9: Mon-
thly meeting, 1 p.m., Hampton
Club House. Chinese Auction.
Saturday, Sept. 12: Matinee
"La Cage Au Folle." Theater
of Performing Arts. $39. Call
Florence, 487-3920.
Monday-Wednesday, Sept.
23-26: Rosh Hashonah. Four
days and three nights. Key
Biscayne Hotel. Religious ser-
vices, meals, gratuities, enter-
tainment, $249. Call Florence,
487-3920.
Sunday, Oct. 11: 'The
Grinigans" Revue and Dinner
I at the Breaker's Hotel, Ft.
Lauderdale. Rooftop dining.
$30. Call Dotty 483-0070.
Depart 4:30.
Thanksigiving Day, Nov. 26:
Dinner at 1 p.m. and show 3
p.m. at Sheraton Bal Harbor.
Call Florence 487-3920. $34.
Dec. 31-Jan. 2, 1988: New
Year's Trip, three days-two
nights. $249. Call Florence,
487-3920. Dec. 31 Bus to Ft.
Canaveral, Sea Escape. New
Year's Eve sightseeing
daytime. Musicanna show
evening.
Jan. 30, 1988: "Broadway
Bound," Parker Playhouse.
Details to follow.
Ribalow Prize-Winner
NEW YORK (JTA) -
Aharon Appelfeld has won the
1987 Harold U. Ribalow Prize
for his novel, "To the Land of
the Cattails." (Wiedenfeld and
Nicolson). The prize is award-
ed annually by Hadassah
Magazine for a work of fiction
on a Jewish theme. Appelfeld
lives in Jerusalem, and the
novel was translated by Jef-
frey Green.
Religious Directory
ANSHEI EMUNA ORTHODOX CONGREGATION
Orthodox, Rabbi Dr. Louis L. Sacks, 16189 Carter Road, Delray
Beach, Florida 33446. Phone 499-9229. Daily Torah Seminars
preceding Services at 7:30 a.m. and 5 p.m. Sabbath Eve Services
at 5 p.m. Sabbath and Festival Services 8:30 a.m.
BETH AMI CONGREGATION
P.O. 7105, Boca Raton, Florida 33431. Conservative. Phone (305)
994-8693 or 276-8804. Rabbi Nathan Zelizer; Cantor Mark Levi;
President, Joseph Boumans. Services held at Mae Volen Senior
Center, 1515 Palmetto Park Road, Boca Raton. Friday evening at
8:15 p.m., Saturday morning at 9:30 a.m.
B'NAI TORAH CONGREGATION
1401 N.W. 4th Ave., Boca Raton, Florida 33432. Conservative.
Phone 392-8566, Rabbi Theodore Feldman, Hazzan Donald
Roberts. Sabbath Services: Friday at 8:15 p.m., Saturday at 9:30
a.m. Family Shabbat Service 2nd Friday of each month.
BOCA RATON SYNAGOGUE ORTHODOX
Mailing Address: P.O. Box 2262, Boca Raton, Fla. 33427-2262.
Phone: 392-5732. President: Steven D. Marcus. Services Fridays
evening five minutes before candlelighting. Shabbat morning 9
a.m. Sunday morning minyan at 8:30 a.m. Services will be held at
the new building 7900 Montoya Circle beginning in February. For
information regarding services call 483-5384 or 394-5071.
CONGREGATION B'NAI ISRAEL
Services at Center for Group Counseling, 22445 Boca Rio Road,
Boca Raton, Florida 33433. Reform. Rabbi Richard Agler. Cantor
Norman Swerling. Sabbath Services Friday at 8 p.m., Saturday
at 10:15 a.m. Mailing address: 8177 W. Glades Road, Suite 214,
Boca Raton, FL 33434. Phone 483-9982. Baby sitting available
during services.
CONGREGATION TORAH OHR
Located in Century Village of Boca Raton. Orthodox. Rabbi
David Weissenberg. Cantor Jacob Resnick. President Edward
Sharzer. For information on services and educational classes and
programs, call 482-0206 or 482-7156.
TEMPLE ANSHEI SHALOM
7099 West Atlantic Ave., Delray Beach, Florida 33446. Conser-
vative. Phone 495-1300. Rabbi Pincus Aloof. Cantor Louis Her-
shman. Sabbath Services: Friday at 8 p.m., Saturday at 8:30 a.m.
Daily services 8:30 a.m. and 5 p.m.
TEMPLE BETH EL OF BOCA RATON
333 S.W. Fourth Avenue, Boca Raton, Florida 33432. Reform.
Phone: 391-8900. Rabbi Merle E. Singer, Assistant Rabbi
Gregory S. Marx, Cantor Martin Rosen. Shabbat Eve Services at
8- p.m. Family Shabbat Service at 8 p.m. 2nd Friday of each
month, Saturday morning services 10:30 a.m.
TEMPLE BETH SHALOM
Mailing Address: P.O. Box 340015, Boca Raton, FL 33434. Con-
servative. Located in Century Village, Boca. Daily Services 8 a.m.
and 5 p.m. Saturday 8:45 a.m. and 5:15 p.m., Sunday 8:30 a.m.
and 5 p.m. Rabbi Donald David Crain. Phone: 483-5557. Joseph
M. Pollack, Cantor.
TEMPLE EMETH
5780 West Atlantic Ave., Delray Beach, Florida 33445. Conser-
vative. Phone: 498-3536. Rabbi Elliot J. Winograd. Zvi Adler,
Cantor. Sabbath Services: Friday at 8 p.m., Saturday at 8:45 a.m.
Daily Minyans at 8:45 a.m. and 5 p.m.
TEMPLE SINAI
2475 West Atlantic Ave. (Between Congress Ave. and Barwick
Road), Delray Beach, Florida 33445. Reform. Sabbath Eve. ser-
vices, Friday at 8:15 p.m. Sat., 10 a.m. Rabbi Samuel Silver,
phone 276-6161. Cantor Elaine Shapiro.


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Synagogue JUeius
ANSHEI EMUNA
"Ki Teze The Weekly
Torah Portion"
Rabbi Dr. Louis L. Sacks will
preach a sermon on the theme
"Ki Teze The Weekly Torah
Biblical Portion at Anshei
Emuna's Sabbath Morning
Service on Saturday, Sept. 5,
at 8:30 a.m.
Kiddush will follow Services.
The rabbi's course in the
Talmudic Tractate "Ethics of
our Fathers" will be pursued
in conjunction with Sabbath
Twilight Minyon Services.
Daily classes in the Judaic
Code of Religious Law
(Schulchan Oruch) led by Rabbi
Sacks begin at 7:30 a.m.,
proceeding the daily Morning
Minyon Services, and at 6:30
&m. in conjunction with the
aily Twilight Minyon
Services.
Mr. Harry Cope, Mrs.
Lucille Cohen, Dr. Nathan
Jacobs, and Mrs. Nora Kalish
are chairpersons of the
Membership Committee.
For further information call
499-9229.
Congregation Anshei
Emuna, 16189 Carter Road,
Delray Beach still has tickets
available for High Holy Day
Services, which will be con-
ducted by Rabbi Dr. Louis L.
Sacks, assisted by Cantor
Alexander Wieder.
The schedule will be:
Selicoth on Saturday, Sept. 19,
at 10 p.m.; Rosh Hashanah on
Wednesday. Sept. 23 at 6:30
p.m., Thursday, Sept. 24 at 8
a.m. and at Friday, Sept. 25 at
8 a.m. Yom Kippur Kol Nidre
will be on Friday. Oct. 2 at 7
p.m. and on Saturday. ()rt. 3 al
8 a.m.
For tickets, call Nora at the
synagogue, 499-9229, or
499-2644.
TEMPLE BETH AHM
Temple Beth Ahm's Shab-
bat Services begin Friday,
Aug. 28 at 8 p.m. with Rabbi
Avraham Kapnek officiating
and Cantor Eric Lindenbaum
chanting the Liturgy. Satur-
day, Aug. 29 Services begin at
8:45 a.m.
Daily Minyan meets at 8 a.m.
There will be an open house
on Sunday, Aug. 30, and on
the same day, there will be a
Bagels and Breakfast for all
8th, 9th and 10th graders to
organize the Judaica High
School program, which will
meet once a week. Breakfast
will begin at 10 a.m.
Registration is being taken
for the Early Childhood Pro-
gram and Religious School.
For more information call the
Temple office at 431-5100.
Reservations are now being
taken for High Holy Days ser-
vices in the Sanctuary to be
conducted by Rabbi Avraham
Kapnek and Cantor Eric
Lindenbaum. Concurrent ser-
vices will be held at Cooper Ci-
ty High School Auditorium for
the High Holidays, conducted
by Cantor Neal Spevak. Dona-
tion is $40 per ticket. For more
information call the Temple
office.
Temple Beth Ahm's Shabbat
Services begin Friday, Sept. 4
at 8 p.m. with Rabbi Avraham
Kapnek officiating and Cantor
Eric Lindenbaum chanting the
Liturgy.
Services begin Saturday
Sept. 5 at 8:45 a.m.
Daily minyan meet at 8 a.m.
The first day of the Early
Childhood Program will be
Tuesday, Sept. 8, and
Religious School begins on
Wednesday, Sept. 9.
Reservations are now being
taken for the High Holy Days
service, to be held in the Sanc-
tuary, conducted by Rabbi
Avraham Kapnek and Cantor
Eric Lindenbaum. Concurrent
services will be held at Cooper
City High School Auditorium
for the High Holy Days con-
ducted by Cantor Neal Spevak.
Donation is $40 per ticket. For
more information call the Tem-
ple office at 431-5100.
TEMPLE EMETH
At Temple Emeth of Delray
Beach, the discussion period
at the Oneg Shabbat Social
Hour will continue for the
month of August, at 8:30 p.m.
Temple Emeth
Brotherhood is sponsoring a
three-day "Orlando
Sailaway," featuring a one day
cruise aboard Sea Escape with
two nights at Orlando's
Econlodge Motel starting
Tuesday, Oct. 20 at 10 a.m.,
leaving from Temple Emeth.
There will be a dinner and
show, dancing, a full casino on
ship, buffet meals, movies and
more. For further information
call Jules Daroe at 499-2318
(home) or 498-7422 (office).
CONGREGATION
B'NAI ISRAEL
High Schoolers Report On
State Of Israel
Four Boca Raton teenagers,
David Abramson, Alisa Bloom,
Teri Janus, and Ross Misher,
who have recently returned
from a program of summer
study in Israel, will report on
their experiences at Con-
gregation B'nai Israel on Fri-
day evening, Sept. 4.
The students, all of whom
studied in Israel at the Alex-
ander Muss High School in
Hod Ha'Sharon, near Tel
Aviv, have returned with a
deeper understanding of
Israel, its history and their
own heritage.
In addition. Rabbi Richard
Agler will give a report of the
recent elections of the World
Zionist Organization, in which
the Association of Reform
Zionists of America (ARZA),
supported by the congrega-
tion, scored a tremendous
victory.
Representatives from the
Israel Bonds organization will
also be on hand as part of an
ongoing reinvestment cam-
paign for bonds that were pur-
chased during the 1972-73
period, prior to and during the
Yom Kippur War.
Sabbath Services at the
Center for Group Counselling
begin at 8 p.m. All who come
in the spirit of peace are
welcome.
Rabbi To Discuss Bork
Nomination
"The Nomination of Robert
Bork: A Jewish Perspective,"
will be presented by Rabbi
Richard Agler at Sabbath Ser-
vices of Congregation B'nai
Israel on Friday evening, Aug.
28.
Bork, who has recently been
nominated by President
Reagan to fill the vacancy on
the Supreme Court created by
retiring Justice Lewis Powell,
has become the focus of con-
troversy because of his con-
stitutional views on civil liber-
ties, minority rights and
women's rights.
Services at Congregation
B'nai Israel begin at 8 p.m. on
Friday evening at the Center
for Group Counseling.
TEMPLE SINAI
If you are not affiliated with
any other Temple, consider
joining Temple Sinai. For in-
formation please call the Tem-
ple office, 276-6161.
Temple Sinai's Friday, Aug.
28 Shabbat services will be
held at 8:15 p.m. Rabbi Samuel
Silver's sermon will be "Foun-
dations." Cantor Elaine
Shapiro will be in attendance.
Saturday, Aug. 29 Services
at Temple Sinai of Delray
Beach will take place at 10
a.m.
For the hard of hearing,
Temple Sinai has "Pocket-
talkers." Request this of the
ushers when you attend
services.
Temple Sinai of Delray
Beach will be selling High Holy
Day tickets. For information,
please call the Temple office.
Religious School Registra-
tion will be held at Temple
Sinai, 2475 W. Atlantic Ave.,
Delray Beach, on Sunday,
Aug. 23 and Sunday, Aug. 30
from 10 a.m. to noon. For fur-
ther information call Temple
Sinai office.
There is Duplicate Bridge at
Temple Sinai every Thursday
evening at 7:30 p.m. These
games are sanctioned by
ACBL and master points are
awarded. Fee is $2 p/p,
refreshments are served, and
the games are open to the
public. For information call
Jack Alter, 496-0946.
Rabbi Silver To Be Heard
On National Radio Network
Rabbi Samuel Silver of Tem-
ple Sinai, Delray Beach, will be
heard coast-to-coast on the
ABC radio network on Sun-
day, Sept. 6, as the guest
preacher on the program,
"Message of Israel."
In this area the program can
be heard on Radio Station
WFTL, Fort Lauderdale, 1400
on the AM dial, at 8 p.m.
Rabbi Silver's topic, in com-
memoration of the 200th birth-
day of the Constitution, will
be, "An American Patriot:
Commodore Uriah Levy."
Sisterhood of Temple Sinai
will celebrate "Grandparents
Day" Sunday, Sept. 13 at 6
p.m. with a hot buffet dinner
and dancing. Tickets are
$11.50 p/p. All are welcome.
Contact Rose Jackler for
reservations, 272-7763.
Kulanu of Temple Sinai will
be hosting a Jewish Film
Series featuring: "Kazablan"
with Yohoram Gaon on Sept.
12; "Lies My Father Told Me"
on Oct. 24; and "Symphony for
Six Million" (not about the
Holocaust) on Dec. 12.
Tickets are $4 per person, in-
cluding refreshments, and
showtime is 7:30 p.m. Call the
Temple office for tickets.
The Brotherhood of Temple
Sinai announces its third an-
nual series of musical revues
for the 1987-88 season.
Kicking off the season is the
Harriette Blake Musical
Revue, a night of music, sing-
ing and dancing with a cast of
15, scheduled for Nov. 22.
The next attraction schedul-
ed for January 24 is a comedy
and musical revue,
"Outrageous," highlighted by
impressions of many famous
celebraties in show business.
"Razz-Ma-Jazz," returns to
the stage in an all new 1988
musical variety show on Feb.
21, and the final show, on
March 20 is "Curtain Time,"
an exciting musical revue that
will cap a memorable season.
All performances are Sun-
day evenings at 8 p.m. and all
seats are reserved. To insure
good seating for you and your
friends, order now. Tickets are
$25 for the series. For reserva-
tions or additional informa-
tion, call the Temple office at
276-6161.
On Saturday, Aug. 22,
Sharon Braunstein, daughter
of Lynn and Lee Braunstein,
was called to the Torah of
Temple Beth El of Boca Raton
as a Bat Mitzvah. As an ongo-
ing Temple project she was
"twinned" with Marina
Keselman of the Soviet Union.
Sharon is a seventh grade
student at Boca Raton Middle
School and attends the Temple
Beth El Religious School.
Family members who shared
in the simcha are her sister,
Rachel; brother, Jason; and
grandparents, Matilda and
Aaron Braunstein of Miami
Beach and Max Herer of
Brooklyn, N.Y. Mr. and Mrs.
Braunstein hosted a Kiddush
in Sharon's honor following
Shabbat morning services.
Sharon Braunstein
Affiliate. .
Temple Sinai welcomes yout inquires about High Holy
days, membership and religious school
Tickets for High Holy Days Are
Now Available.
We are a Reform Congregation serving the needs of
Jewish families locally and in the surrounding
communities, (member of UAH C.)
Rabbi
Samuel
Silver
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Caeserea
Disruption
Puts Digs
In Shadows
By HUGH ORGEL
TEL AVIV (JTA) Ac-
tivities by ultra-Orthodox
zealots to disrupt ar-
chaeological digs in Caesarea
have diverted attention from
significant finds unearthed at
other digging sites throughout
Israel this season.
The included a unique
1,800-year-old mosaic floor un-
covered two weeks ago at
Tsipori, in lower Galilee, and
the ruins of a Bronze Age port
dating back 5,000 years at Tel
Rami, south of Atlit.
The six-by-five-meter floor
at Tsipori, once the most im-
portant city of Galilee, seat of
the Roman governors and a
major Jewish center where the
Sanhedrin officiated after the
destruction of the Second
Temple, shows an almost
lifesize portrait of a beautiful
young woman and of 15 Greek
gods, including Dionysus, all
named in Greek.
THE PICTURES are picked
out in tiny colored mosaic
stones, with the young
woman's cheeks in four shades
from flesh color to rouge. The
gods are depicted in motion,
regarded as rare for ancient
mosaics.
The archaeologists, from the
Hebrew University of
Jerusalem and Duke Universi-
ty of North Carolina, believe
the portrait may have been of
a woman guest of the governor
who was entertained in this
very room which, from its size
and position, may have been
the Roman governor's recep-
tion hall.
Tsipori was the home of Rab-
bi Yehuda Hanassi, who com-
piled and edited the Mishna.
second only to the Pentateuch
in Jewish holy writ, for the last
17 years of his life, at the
In-Winning of the Third
Century.
The third season of digging
it Tel Rami brought to light
Israel's oldest known port city,
dating back 5,000 years.
EXCAVATED by a Haifa
University team aided by
researchers and students from
the U.S. and Europe, this
year's work turned up a wide
range of stone and clay tools.
.jewelry and weapons "show-
ing that in the late Bronze Age
Tel Rami was an important sea
traffic station," according to
Dr. Michal Artzi, head of the
university's maritime civiliza-
tions department.
This season's important
finds here included a
storehouse dating from 3,000
BCE, the first of its kind found
in the country, as well as a
sewage system.
Archaeologists in Ashkelon
uncovered a large dog
cemetery and what appeared
to have been a Philistine
brothel, with erotic wall
decorations.
The Atra Kadisha Jewish
cemetery protection associa-
tion which halted the Caesarea
dig apparently decided that
work at these three sites did
not endanger Jewish graves,
and the researchers were not
molested there.
FINALLY FREEDOM: Soviet pianist Vladimir Feltsman AP/Wide World Photo
(right) smiles as he arrives at Vienna's Schwechat Airport last has struggled for eight years to leave the Soviet Union, said his
week with his wife, Anna, and son, Daniel, after being greeted by family would travel to France for a few days, and then to New
U.S. Ambassador Warren Zimmermann (rear). Feltsman, who York, where they plan to live.
U.S. Jews Mount Opposition To Bork Okay
Continued from Page 1
the bork nomination.
The National Jewish Coali-
tion has come out in support of
the nomination, maintaining
that Bork is "eminently
qualified" to serve on the court
and that "neither ideology nor
political opportunism should
prevent him from doing so."
David Coyne, executive
director of New Jewish Agen-
da, said he was "very en-
couraged" by Jewish opposi-
tion to Bork. He noted that a
year ago, during the nomina-
tion of Justice Antonin Scalia
and Chief Justice William
Rehnquist," the Jewish com-
munity was almost nowhere to
be found."
IRMA GETLER, president
of B'nai B'rifeh Women, an
organization which did not op-
pose the two previous court
nominations, said her
members are showing an
unusual interest and concern
about the Bork appointment.
"As a Jewish women's
organization we felt compelled
to speak out in opposition to
Bork because he has spoken
out on many subjects affecting
women and Jews on which we
are on record," said Getler.
But sources are saying that
other Jewish groups will have
to oppose Bork if the Jewish
community is going to have an
impact on the nomination. The
Washington Jewish Week
recently reported that three
Jewish Senators invited
several Jewish organizations
to send representatives to a
closed-door meeting to urge
them to take a stand on this
issue.
Sen. Alan Cranston (D.,
Calif.), reportedly told them
that by opposing Bork, Jewish
groups could show that they
are interested in issues besides
Israel. Sens. Carl Levin (D.,
Mich.) and Howard Metzen-
baum (D., Ohio) also reported-
ly attended the meeting.
Rabbi David Saperstein, ex-
ecutive director of the
UAHC's Religious Action
Center, said that some
Senators who will be swing
votes on the Bork nomination
could be influenced by the
Jewish community's stand on
this issue.
"I THINK what the Jewish
community does is going to
send a profound signal rippling
through the Senate that may
well determine the outcome of
this battle," he added.
But some Jewish organiza-
tions invited to the meeting
are still debating whether to
oppose the nomination and say
they might decide to remain
neutral. The Anti-Defamation
League of B'nai B'rith is cur-
rently reviewing Bork's deci-
sions and writings.
"We're just trying to be ob-
jective about it. That's why
they're having a hearing. Why
have a hearing if everyone's
taken a position on this?" said
David Brody, ADL
Washington representative.
The American Jewish Com-
mittee has a tradition of not
commenting on Supreme
Court and Cabinet nomina-
tions which are presidential
prerogatives, explained David
Harris, the group's
Washington representative.
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we reserve the right to
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A Russian Girl Turns Sweet Sixteen
Continued front Page 1-
could still speak enough Yid-
dish to communicate, Mila and
I had no common language.
Occasionally asking our
parents to translate for us,
Mila and I spent the evening
pointing at various things
around the room and giving
each other the Russian and
English terms for drapes,
table, light, and so on.
And we looked into the
slightly-warped mirror in the
hotel room, searching for a
family resemblance in our
reflections.
Now I search for a
resemblance between the little
girl that I remember and the
startlingly pretty teenager
that Mila is today.
HOW DID this transforma-
tion take place?
"Kids used to hate me
because I was Russian," Mila
recalls. "I used to come home
from school crying every day.
They picked on me, called me
names, or wouldn't talk to me
at all, because they heard from
their parents and from the
news on TV that Russia was
bad, so they figured that
anyone from Russia was bad."
Mila started to become
popular in high school, and can
now say that "if someone
doesn't like me because I'm
Russian, that's their problem.
It's who I am, and I can't
change it."
Yet Mila admits to having
become Americanized. "I'm
more independent, and my
mother and I are friends we
go shopping, have lunch
together ... In Russia, it
would be more of a mother-
daughter relationship."
PROUD OF her heritage,
Mila points to the aspects of
being Russian she values most.
"We have older customs
customs of being respectful to
parents, adults, and older peo-
ple," unlike the typical
American teenager, Mila adds.
"Also, people don't ap-
preciate what they have here
because they have always had
it this way. I appreciate what
my parents have given me,
because I know they never had
anything like what I have
when they were children. I
know I'm lucky I don't think
that it should be this way,"
Mila says.
"Since I was given a chance
for a better life, for more
potential to succeed than I
would have had in Russia, I
don't want to let it slip away,"
asserts Mila, who would like to
become a lawyer or possibly a
politician someday.
WOULD SHE be a different
sort of person today had she
remained in Russia?
"Definitely. I would pro-
bably have long hair in a braid,
wear no makeup and hardly
any jewelry, and I might be
plumper, because I wouldn't
be watching my figure. Here
I'm very conscious of my hair,
figure and clothes because I'm
going out with boys at this age.
In Russia, I wouldn't be.
"At 16, you're still a baby.
You still look like one, and
you're still treated like one. If
I were in Russia, I'd probably
be concentrating more on my
piano-playing, and on school,
school, school, because that's
more enforced there. I'd be
less independent," Mila
admits.
MILA HAS a fairly clear
idea of what she might have
been like had she remained in
Russia because she has a
cousin, roughly her age, still
living in Kiev.
"Eydita is six months
younger than I am, and we
were like sisters back in
Russia, because she only has
an older brother, and I have no
siblings at all," says Mila.
Would the two have
anything in common were they
to meet today?
"I don't know," Mila con-
cedes. "I'd be much more ad-
vanced than she, teenager-
wise."
Three years after Mila and
her parents arrived in Miami, I
entered the world that they
had left behind when my
mother, my uncle and I travel-
ed to Russia to visit the rem-
nant of our family still living
there.
THAT SUMMER I was 17,
and I recall meeting Eydita,
who reminded me of Mila
when I had first met her, in
that she was very sweet, very
polite, and openly affectionate
despite the language barrier
between us.
What stands out in my mind
about our visit to Moscow was
the inelegance of everything.
Wearing three layers of
clothing, my mother, my uncle
and I met with our Russian
relatives in public places, duck-
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Mila Kwitney, Sweet Sixteen, stands beside her portrait, which
guests signed on the sides and back.
ing into bathrooms to ex-
change clothing, money, and
gifts-
We were aware of being
followed by the KGB, because
the Soviets do not always want
to conceal the fact that they
are monitoring your actions.
T"h ere were other
restrictions.
THE SPECIALTY shops
which sold the finest Russian
goods, from Stolichnaya vodka
to traditional handicrafts, such
as the wooden dolls which open
up one into another, were off
limits to our Russian relatives.
Hotel rooms and restaurants
were equally unfeasible op-
tions, and the party which
celebrated our reunion was
held in a Moscow apartment.
Many different types of
food, including several meat
dishes, were served, along
Swastikas, Obscenities Painted
On Jewish Store in Washington
By CRAIG DEGGINGER
JOYCE, Wash. (JTA) A
local Jewish group has an-
nounced a reward for informa-
tion leading to the arrest and
conviction of the person or
persons who painted swastikas
and obscenities on the general
store co-owned by a Jewish
woman here.
During the evening of July
31, the anti-Semitic graffiti
was painted on an outside wall
and garage at the Joyce
General Store owned by Diane
Pfaff, who is Jewish, and her
husband, Roland Pfaff. The in-
cident occurred on the eve of
this tiny northwestern
Washington community's an-
nual Joyce Daze festival, of
which Roland Pfaff is
president.
CLALLAM COUNTY
Sheriffs office is investigating
the incident, according to
Diane Pfaff, who added she
believes the vandalism was the
work of an individual rather
than an organized anti-Semitic
group.
"Nothing like this has ever
happened before," she said.
"We've always been quite
open about our being Jewish."
The Pfaffs are active in the
Port Angeles area Jewish com-
munity and the Washington
Association of Jewish Com-
munities. Diane Pfaff is one of
several Port Angeles area
women who meet regularly for
Jewish study.
"It's shocking when
something like this happens to
you," she said, describing
herself as "numb" when she
saw the five large swastikas
painted on the store. At the
urging of people, including
Rabbi Anson Laytner of the
Jewish Federation of Greater
Seattle, who oversees WA-
JCO, Roland Pfaff read a
statement before the Joyce
Daze parade condemning the
vandalism.
"WE DEPLORE the van-
dalism, particularly the
swastikas which put a very
negative, anti-Semitic and
very ugly sign on things,"
Pfaff told the crowd.
Dianne Pfaff said she and
Roland have received an out-
pouring of support from the
people of Joyce, some of whom
aided in cleaning off the anti-
Semitic slurs.
Lansky Appointed
FORT WAYNE, Ind. -
(JTA) Vivian Lansky, a
university alumni director
here, has been appointed ex-
ecutive director of the Port
Wayne Jewish Federation,
with the ubiquitous vodka, and
I recall feeling some discom-
fort about the quantity of food
our family had set out for us,
having heard countless stories
in America about the food
shortages and long lines for
meat and other choice items in
the Soviet Union.
It seemed to me then that
the assortment of delicacies,
the freely-flowing vodka, and
the sheer abundance of it all
revealed a philosophy which
was alien to me.
THAT PHILOSOPHY, if
put into words, might be to en-
joy what there is now, while
there is a cause for celebra-
tion, because who knows what
tomorrow might bring?
The last thing I remember
thinking before saying good-
bye to Eydita and the rest of
our relatives was that it took
only a small leap of the im-
agination to think of how, had
my grandfather not been the
only one of his brothers to
leave Russia, we might all
have been American.
Or how we might all have
been Russian, had my grand-
father decided to remain.
"In Russia, birthdays are all
the same, the sweet sixteen
party is an American inven-
tion," says Mila. "It's wed-
dings which are done with real-
ly big parties in Russia."
AFTER THE couple signs a
civil registry, according to
Mila, they hold an all-night
celebration in a home, rented
hall, or restaurant.
"Families save up for a long
time, and only the bride and
maybe the mother of the bride
buy special dresses. Everyone
else just wears their best,
drinks and eats and dances all
night," Mila recounts.
Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, of
course, are also not celebrated
on the scale that they are in
the United States.
"The Jewish religion is not
practiced as openly as here, so
Bar Mitzvahs are done quietly
in the home, if they're done at
all," says Mila.
Is she more Jewish here than
she would have been in Russia?
"Yes," Mila replies. "I wear
a star of David here, and I'm
proud of it. In Russia, I never
would have. I remember so-
meone calling me zhyd a
Russian word that was a bad
name for a Jew, like 'kike,'
when I was in kindergarten.
"I asked my father what this
word meant, because at first I
didn't know. Then, later, when
I knew what it meant, and so-
meone called me something
similar, I ripped her notebooks
up and messed up her books,"
she recalls.
PERHAPS it is because the
line that separates one kind of
existence in the Soviet Union
from a radically different
lifestyle in the United States
can be so slim that Mila's
parents decided to celebrate
their daughter's coming of age
in America with an American
tradition interpreted in Rus-
sian terms.
And I cannot help but think
that despite the multitude of
guests, we were all aware of
who was missing amidst the
revelry Eydita and our
other Russian relatives, who
still remain in the Soviet
Union, in the Ukraine, under
the grip of a repressive
regime, in the wake of the re-
cent disaster at Chernobyl,
still walking in the shadow of
the long history of anti-
Semitism that darkens that
part of the world.


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